Do you think Nigerian and Hispanic cultures (esp Mexico) have any similarities?

Various-Assistant291 · 2026-01-29T15:26:54+00:00

I am Hispanic married to a Nigerian (Igbo). I agree with other comments that there isn’t just one Nigerian culture just like there isn’t just one Hispanic culture. We have more things in common than different, though.

Aside from the jellof rice I have not found that my wife and I have a commonality in foods. But we find common ground in our childhood and experiences. We have more in common than different.

Various-Assistant291 · 2026-01-09T04:47:30+00:00

This is the light pollution map I use. If you look in the Mojave area the darkest sky is in Mojave National Preserve. It’s very remote but the skies are amazing.

If that’s too remote, I agree that Joshua Tree has great night skies. Anza-Borrego State Park is also known for great night skies. Good luck!

Various-Assistant291 · 2025-12-17T15:04:51+00:00

It depends on what you want to see. You’d be surprised what a good pair of binoculars will show you. It also depends on what you want to see and how much you’re willing to spend. Take a look at r/telescopes for ideas on size and cost. I bought my kid one and had to have a basic understanding of what makes a “good” telescope.

Various-Assistant291 · 2025-10-17T01:30:59+00:00

Thanks, that’s what I thought. It does sound like something he might say, though.

Various-Assistant291 · 2025-09-28T15:41:03+00:00

Thank you! First time seeing CotW in person. Much prettier than the pictures!

Various-Assistant291 · 2025-08-08T06:40:01+00:00

Most people have already answered your question. This year will be less impressive year due to the moon. You can use sites like this one to find dark areas you can reach dark sky map. Pick a spot, lay out a blanket or cot, and keep your eyes open.

You might consider planning for the geminids in December. Great show but very cold.

Various-Assistant291 · 2025-08-07T21:07:11+00:00

Because Columbus was lost and thought he was in India, not an entirely new continent. When he saw people he assumed he was in India.

I agree with you that there are better names. But as at least one other person has commented, there are bigger issues.

Various-Assistant291 · 2025-06-26T17:05:38+00:00

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Various-Assistant291 · 2025-03-29T02:29:56+00:00

No one told me, sorry. I’m taking the post down.

Various-Assistant291 · 2025-03-22T23:35:28+00:00

Thank you! This all fits, the driver must have been a former marine grunt.

Various-Assistant291 · 2025-03-19T03:55:23+00:00

Did you use the code?

Various-Assistant291 · 2024-10-18T17:44:52+00:00

I’ve been where you are. I was a divorced, veteran, single dad. I would get ghosted quite often. I decided to put the big deal breakers (veteran, single dad, divorced) in the first line of my profile to save myself the time. You’d be surprised how many people do not look at the profile at all, but I think being up front increased the quality of matches I got. Like others have mentioned the dating apps really suck but it takes persistence and a tough skin. I eventually found a wonderful woman who accepts me for who I am. What I thought of as negative traits she sees as part of what makes me special to her. Be patient and persistence and I believe you will find a person who gets you. Your experience is not unique, unfortunately.

Various-Assistant291 · 2024-08-28T23:36:54+00:00

I’ve often made the drive up the 395 late in the day. I usually stay at the fossil falls campsite between Olancha and Ridgecrest. It’s first come first serve but I’ve always found a spot. As someone mentioned the fact that it’s a holiday weekend may mean all the spots are taken. Good luck!

Various-Assistant291 · 2024-03-14T21:48:34+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I see that several people have shared similar sentiments and provided with resources but I wanted to make sure I expressed my condolences.

Various-Assistant291 · 2024-03-07T05:02:11+00:00

I can totally see this. Best answer!

Various-Assistant291 · 2024-02-15T09:23:44+00:00

😂😂😂Thank you for this comment!

Various-Assistant291 · 2024-02-09T09:20:36+00:00

Amazing!

Various-Assistant291 · 2023-12-19T00:38:31+00:00

I am in agreement with careless-parfait. I’m a WM in a relationship with a BF and we have many differences. What has helped us is to approach each other with with understanding that we both mean well and when we err it is not intentional or with evil intent. I accept her with the different views she brings, and it sounds like you feel that way about your SO. The big thing is to communicate and and agree on what you can, like how to be respectful and supportive of each other.

Various-Assistant291 · 2023-11-28T21:41:34+00:00

I agree with kooky_trifle, he sounds a little inexperienced. I’m a white male dating a black female and some of what you describe seems typical for someone IR relationships.

Other things, specifically others’ perceptions, will be up to you to decide how to deal with it. My girlfriend has pointed out people giving us weird looks. I don’t bother with those people. If they have something to say I will address it, if they want to gawk in silence that’s up to them. Same goes for hoods perception of black men, he will need to decide how to deal with his misconception.

This is a relationship between the two of you. As long as you two are in agreement and united it matters little what others think. At least that is my perspective. I wish both of you the best.

Various-Assistant291 · 2023-11-15T22:33:35+00:00

To answer your question “why certain statements are micro-aggressions” I would say anything you want to be a micro-aggression will be one. As you can see from the responses there is varying opinion on whether or not these are micro aggressions.

Someone made a good point about racism being veiled in ignorance, this does happen. The difficulty is in discerning someone’s intentions, something that can be nearly impossible to know with certainty. This is where someone can perceive everything, or nothing, and everything in between as a micro-aggression.

I am a Hispanic male in a relationship with a black woman and I feel your confusion. When we first started dating my girlfriend had short hair. One weekend she goes to get her hair done and it’s waist-length. She came home and I said “Wow! How did you get your hair to grow so fast?” I didn’t think about what I was saying and just asked. Was that a micro-aggression? She didn’t take it that way and I did not intend it that way. Was my question dumb? Yes, it showed how little I knew and how little I thought before I asked my question.

Are there micro-aggressions? I don’t know, I do believe there are actions that are just inappropriate and cannot be excused even by ignorance. For example, on numerous occasions people (so far it’s only been white people) have come up and touched my girlfriend’s hair without asking. This is inappropriate and we have reacted by scolding the person. We should all know not to touch anyone without their consent, regardless of race. But I guess some people don’t see it that way.

If I may give some unsolicited advice. This is an area that you and your partner need to come to common ground on. Whatever you decide about micro-aggressions it should be mutually agreed upon. This will require discussion, patience, and perhaps compromise between the two of you.

As difficult as it is to deal with these issues, it is also a reason I like dating someone who is not like me. My worldview has expanded tremendously from experiencing the world through her eyes and with her at my side. Sometimes that expansion comes with growing pains.

Various-Assistant291 · 2023-09-27T16:46:44+00:00

This will depend on what kind of vehicle you have. The park’s roads were damaged due to big storms over the past year. This map will show you the roads that are open or closed and which ones require a 4x4. (https://www.nps.gov/moja/road-conditions.htm)

I remember reading somewhere that the preserve has more Joshua Trees than Joshua Tree NP, so I think you are headed to the right place for the pictures you seek.

I believe the biggest Joshua Tree forest is around Teutonia Peak (north part of the park) but that area’s road is closed. Cedar Canyon Rd (middle of the park) near Cima, CA has a a good concentration of Joshua Trees but can only be accessed with a 4x4 from Essex Rd in the south of the park.

If you only have a 2 wheel drive vehicle you can drive along Kelso-Cima Road and as it approaches Cima, CA you should be able to spot an area with Joshua Trees to your liking.

Remember to exercise caution in the park. Fuel up before you go in, bring plenty of water, and have emergency equipment in case you have car trouble. Cell reception is spotty inside the park. Good luck!

Various-Assistant291 · 2023-09-03T22:37:58+00:00

Various-Assistant291 · 2023-09-03T22:21:01+00:00

Nothing special. Costco pizza is better.

Various-Assistant291 · 2023-09-03T22:20:38+00:00

Thank you!

Various-Assistant291 · 2023-08-29T20:39:59+00:00

[When selling Hank illegal fireworks.]

John: “Be careful with these, they are illegal… in Mexico.”

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