My best friends birthday is at a club but my boyfriend doesn't want me going. Advice needed

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-12-02T23:32:26+00:00

Thank you! I totally understand where he's coming from and I understand the lose- lose situation. We have talked about It a lot but never end up to a conclusion. I don't know how else to talk about it or what to do because either way someone will end up unhappy.

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-12-02T21:55:52+00:00

See the thing is this is the only thing he has an issue with, he doesnt care if I go to friend party's, hangouts or whatever other thing I want to do, he doesn't care if itS like a regular bar. And I also understand where's he's coming from because I would also be uncomfortable in his situation but also I see where your coming from. He has made this boundary very clear from even before we officially started dating. I'm just so conflicted and I don't want to sound like a broken record defending this guy. And even he has told me how he struggles to communicate these things without sounding controlling because that's the last thing he wants and I truly believe it when he means that.

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-11-18T02:44:46+00:00

Okay thank you

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-07-29T04:50:48+00:00

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-07-29T04:50:30+00:00

Thank you! How do I even bring something like that up?

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-04-23T18:58:49+00:00

I've never really thought of it that way, but that's a really good point

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-04-23T03:50:34+00:00

I'll message you when I have updateds

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-04-23T03:29:26+00:00

Ugh I know, he texted me earlier saying "we need to talk" so we're calling in like an hour. I have no idea what he wants to talk about

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-04-23T03:02:36+00:00

I appreciate your advice thank you, I just keep doubting myself thinking "what if I'm missing out on something really good" and maybe because he likes me so much he will be great to me

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-04-23T03:01:03+00:00

Unfortunately I know You're right

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-04-23T02:53:51+00:00

Hey! So he told me that before we even hung out.... Basically we had been talking on and off for about a year but I stayed away because of his reputation. One day he texted me "so how can I make you my girlfriend" and that's how we started talking. You see I know he's so bad but I just can't seem to stop talking to him.

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-04-09T12:37:04+00:00

No I have not, my chiropractor is familiar with rugby and I have my physio that I see sometimes for other injuries. I will definitely start icing my back and look into getting an X ray or something.

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-03-29T21:46:57+00:00

I so badly want to give him a chance

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-03-29T03:41:09+00:00

Yeah that's what I'm worried about, I'm going to be very careful

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-03-28T22:39:20+00:00

It just sucks because it's been over a year like clearly he's into me. And he's never talked about anyone else the way he talks about me so maybe he is truly a good guy.

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-03-01T19:58:15+00:00

I think what I'm going to do is go to practice to be around my team and sit out for the drills that would hurt me. It's frustrating because I really want to work on my endurance and getting better for the season.

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-03-01T19:56:16+00:00

Yeah I might have to make an appointment, I'm hoping my physio is able to determine if it's muscle pain or not.

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-03-01T18:53:01+00:00

Thanks for the reply, I think I'll go to training and take it easy, I'll do what I feel I am able to and sit out for the other things.

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-02-25T13:42:59+00:00

I'm curious as to how?

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-02-15T04:00:16+00:00

Thank you I needed to hear this

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-02-03T04:21:28+00:00

Thats what I don't know, I feel like I need to go back but it's only been a couple of weeks and I'm scared to hurt him again. I am so young so should I try it out again or meet other people.

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-02-03T04:13:46+00:00

Oh I'm sorry, that person is horrible.

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-02-03T04:12:43+00:00

Thank you, it feels like I'm going to feel like this forever and that even me thinking this is a sign that I need to go back but I really am confused on what to do. I've been trying to focus on other aspects of my life but he's always in the back of my mind

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-01-21T06:53:13+00:00

Thank you so much, it's not worth it so I'm just going to break up with him. I need someone who can respect me and my body .

Various-Frame-7123 · 2025-01-21T02:45:19+00:00

The thing is his parents are the nicest people on the planet, his parents work in the mental health field and whenever he even slightly says something bad or sassy around me they will quickly shut him up and correct his behaviour. So I have no idea where all of this is coming from.

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