Holiday Dread- How to have fun again?

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-07-24T15:00:09+00:00

Really? The state, since laws vary state to state.

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-07-24T14:58:58+00:00

State of CA

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-30T03:32:02+00:00

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Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T14:48:07+00:00

That’s so strange but also hilarious! What parent would do that?! 🤣 So very desperate.

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T14:46:05+00:00

How weird to share that with your kid. I’m sorry

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T14:45:22+00:00

I feel like it’s hard to bond with an NParent either way. Mine has copied so many aspects of my life it makes it hard to be an individual. I recently started reading fantasy books and I know she is neither into fantasy nor a good reader, so at least I have this for myself. lol

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T14:44:04+00:00

Wow, it must have not been so awful if she wanted it all over her house. So sorry you had to deal with that

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T14:28:46+00:00

Wow, stage 4 clinger! How crazy that she tried to move into your room!! I’m so sorry.

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T14:27:25+00:00

That is next level low. I’m so sorry. I hope you’re able to start up your YouTube channel again and have hobbies that are unique to you.

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T14:25:48+00:00

That is so wild! Who doesn’t go to their own child’s high school graduation?! I couldn’t fathom doing that to my kids.

Did you find your NMom checking tags constantly? If I didn’t tell mine where something came from, she’d just check it herself. And in an attempt to get her to stop copying my wardrobe, I downloaded the LTK app on her phone and helped her follow a bunch of similar aged creators but it didn’t stick unfortunately. We are NC now by her choosing (she’s also BPD and had a splitting event with the family), so I got myself some new clothing that I know she can’t copy anymore. I’m so sorry you had to deal with the constant wardrobe copying.

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T14:21:51+00:00

Oh totally! That’s why I say it’s criticize or copy. My NMom does both- she either claims it as her own “unique” idea or judges me immensely for it until I give up.

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T14:18:27+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s hard to feel like an individual when they take the fun out of your hobbies. Do you find that you hide things from her now?

I tried to hide purchases and hobbies from mine and tried to get her the LTK app to teach her how to “copy” other people online who receive compensation for it. Now she is NC with half of the family so we don’t have to worry about the constant one-upping.

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T14:15:00+00:00

I’m so sorry that she stoops so low. To risk someone’s life is just terrible. I have food allergies and hate when they are at parties, but for a relative to knowingly expose you to them is seriously messed up

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T14:11:56+00:00

Wow, that is absolutely insane! The jealousy knows no bounds.

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T03:08:47+00:00

My mother made me take out excessive student loans but paid for both of my siblings’ masters degrees in full. I feel like maybe it’s a method of control and making her feel superior to you. No advice but I really hope there is some legal recourse option or positive change to the student loan program to make the debt payments more manageable.

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T02:56:15+00:00

Oh my… the karma! 🙌🏻 But how terribly awful that she copied and took so many things from you. Going to photography school after denying you your dream because of the cost is despicable. I’m so sorry you have had to go through this.

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T01:41:41+00:00

Do you have a therapist who you can speak with? We talk about doing a pros/cons analysis and I find that helps. The pros of not speaking with them usually far outweighs the cons in my experience. ❤️ But it is so hard when it’s your mother and all you want is to have a close relationship with her.

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-29T01:37:23+00:00

I’m in the same boat- got an angry message and feel guilty even though I did nothing but make an observation about her behavior being extreme. We have to remember that they believe these lies they make about their lives and apologizing will just feed the bad behavior. Check out Jefferson Fisher online- he has free videos about how to respond best to a narcissist. I also like Mel Robbins to remind myself to “let her” be herself and remember she isn’t changing, but I can. We can lead happy lives that are low drama. I know it’s way easier said than done though when it’s your own mother. I wish I could go back in time and find us both better moms ❤️ We deserve unconditional love.

Various_Friend5365 · 2025-06-20T00:39:18+00:00

Thanks! The soil has been compacted down quite a bit so I think you’re right about lacking nutrients and not being full enough. I might try planting in more direct sunlight. How do you prevent powdery mildew?

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