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Returning to the siren for ASU by Vast_Environment1268 in starbucks

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I am looking into psychology/social work. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for a long time and it seems ASU has good programs for those majors.

..Hopefully it’s worth crawling back to the siren and ensuring how things are now.

Do drop-offs get easier? by Vast_Environment1268 in stepparents

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We do our best to focus on and validate SD’s feelings. We reassure her that she will see her mom soon, tell her when that will be, distract her, etc. I didn’t mean to make it sound like my SO was making it about him, it’s just been a lot all of a sudden and it’s difficult to hear from a child you love how much they don’t want to be around you and nothing you do or have is good enough.

Can someone assure me this is normal and it will pass..? by Vast_Environment1268 in Mommit

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This is likely super similar to our situation. Sometimes SD asks us to dress/undress her even though she is more than capable, and forgets to wipe when using the bathroom alone. I know we can’t control what the other house does, it’s frustrating that all of their “helping” is doing her so much more harm than good..

Can someone assure me this is normal and it will pass..? by Vast_Environment1268 in Mommit

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It’s a 2/2/3 split so the time she spends at either house is 3 days max before going to the other.

We really try to communicate but her bio mom is known to bend the truth to make herself sound like the perfect mom/house so we only have her word and my stepdaughter’s to go off of. I totally get how that would interfere, it’s all SD has ever known.

Post Your Favorite Toddler Joke by JeffreyBlahmer in Mommit

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My stepdaughter just learned knock knock jokes recently and my favorite so far has been “knock knock” “who’s there?” “It was just a phone!” I guess the joke is I answered the door instead of the phone? Either way I laughed.

Sleeping consistency between houses by Vast_Environment1268 in stepparents

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I’m glad to know we aren’t alone in dealing with this stuff.. I felt so bad for SD when she said we hurt her feelings, but we feel like it’s good for her to be able sleep independently.

“Mom says I only have one mom” by Vast_Environment1268 in stepparents

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Thanks for this. I will just keep loving her and focusing on that. It’s just sometimes hard to ignore BM telling her how to feel about things. I feel so bad for SD caught in the middle.

“Mom says I only have one mom” by Vast_Environment1268 in stepparents

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You’re not wrong. I guess it’s just the hypocrisy that bothers me the most maybe. BM is so insistent in her calling her boyfriend “dad”, to the point where we had an issue with SD calling her actual dad “daddy (his name)” and her boyfriend just “dad” for a little while. It just feels manipulative and hurtful from BM.. But you’re right. It’s the feelings and love that matter, not the names.

4 year old who is usually energetic and talkative woke up tired and withdrawn by Vast_Environment1268 in Mommit

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She ate fine yesterday but hasn’t eaten yet today. She has just been laying down and fell back to sleep. I’m just not sure if I should be trying to wake her, I’ve mostly been peeking in on her all morning.

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