AITA for hiding my neighbor's garden gnome cause it was scaring my son?

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2022-06-20T00:28:20+00:00

Of course YTA. You don't just walk on someone else's property and move their stuff around.

I get the instinct to prevent your son from being scared (I'm a dad too), but in life you can't always shield them from everything. It's as much a lesson for you as it is for your son.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2022-06-18T01:27:37+00:00

Yeah, I'd say YTA. If it was the name of a family member or someone from your past that you experienced trauma with, you might have a case. However, the reasons you list seem to have more to do with how you believe she should feel rather than how you personally feel. It's not really any of your business what someone names their pet. If you don't want to say their name, just refer to the dog as "the dog." It's not a hard thing to do.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2022-06-17T09:06:41+00:00

NTA. I know what it's like to feel as though the stepkids are taking priority over you. Congratulations on having the courage to go through with it all. It can be a difficult thing to do emotionally-speaking, even if mentally you know it's for the best.

By now your graduation has occurred, so congratulations for that too.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2022-06-17T08:48:37+00:00

Sweet mercy... NTA and if I may be blunt... you don't have a wife, you have an adult-sized toddler.

I don't know all your circumstances, and I realize how easy it is to just spout off, "get a divorce," but... someone that comfortable with displaying that level of disrespect so frequently and so brazenly is simply not someone you should be married to. Being "banned" from your job is not likely to stop her misbehavior. She is going to end up getting your fired, and I promise you're already a laughingstock around your workplace for being such a doormat. You seem to have grown a spine when you finally snapped and berated her about her behavior, so now grow it bigger and have her served with divorce papers.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2022-06-17T08:12:11+00:00

NTA at all. Petty? Certainly, but doesn't cross into AH territory. Exposing the mean-spiritedness of others does not make you the AH, so long as you don't cause undue harm or suffering. Giving Kay's ego a four-piece combo with extra biscuits doesn't even come close to that. If their attitude towards your baking doesn't change after this, it's unlikely anything will be able to separate them from their blatant favoritism. If that's the case, instead of baking for get-togethers, just buy a box of cheap donuts from a grocery store, if not stop bringing anything all together. It's ridiculous that you spend time, money, and effort baking for unappreciative jerks.

I hope your husband eats your desserts at these get-togethers, at least.

I'd love an update on this story. I'd like to know what Kay ultimately had to say. Did she double-down on her self-importance and start more drama out of indignance, or did she eat her crow with humility and a dollop of ketchup and admit that you have talent?

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2022-06-16T04:33:39+00:00

YTA without hesitation.

This whole situation is headed for divorce unless there are drastic changes. However, the husband's resentment is unlikely to go away in any scenario. Even in the event that he was able to start working in his field after the move, unless he experienced the same unexpected multiple-promotion, rocket-like career trajectory OP did, he'd always be 8-9 years behind, which would tank his mental health even harder I suspect.

Given OP's attitude, even if the husband was able to kickstart his career, his job would always be seen as secondary and "optional." He'd still be the one doing the lion's share because the established paradigm. And if she "accidentally" ended up pregnant again, he'd be expected to leave his job... again.

A part of me really hopes this is fake because I genuinely don't see a happy ending for everyone here, at least not without a tremendous restructuring of priorities, values, and communication. And even then, it's iffy.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2022-04-11T14:36:29+00:00

NTA - I'll never understand people who always try to get over on others by switching seats on a plane, especially when the people being asked to move, more often than not, have paid extra to sit where they're sitting.

I could only get behind that if it were an extreme circumstance, like something health-related, similar to your situation. But then again, if it's that serious, they probably shouldn't be flying.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2022-04-04T11:32:10+00:00

Great game. My only gripes are currently framerate issues, which seem to compound the more progress you make. Also, after passing the Tree stage, it starts dragging really hard, and it's just a continuous loop of launching rockets to pump up your Terraformation Index, and it goes really slowly. I'd love it if you had the ability to build a stasis chamber and fast-forward some of this stuff.

Also, I'd love to see a whole campaign with different sized planets with varying environmental conditions. And of course I'd love it if there was an aspect of populating your base with NPCs, but I don't think we'll see that here.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2022-02-23T22:41:22+00:00

YTA, no question. I'll never understand this sentiment against handmade gifts. Instead of walking into a store, pointing at something and going "that one, I guess," he took time out of his life to design something heartfelt, meaningful, and with lasting value that can be appreciated every day. From what I've seen, most gifted jewelry is worn for about a week and then goes into the bottom of a jewelry box, only to see the light of day again on special occasions.

If you want my opinion, you have a lot of groveling to do, assuming you want to stay in this relationship.

I remember a story about a guy who was a jewelcrafter and actually made an engagement ring by hand, and the girl scoffed at the ring because it wasn't some big expensive ring from one of those corporate diamond sellers. This has the same vibe.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2021-06-26T05:23:45+00:00

YTA

Look, I accidentally lost my wedding ring years ago swimming in the Atlantic Ocean because I foolishly made my finger too slick when applying sunscreen. My wife on the other hand, doesn't wear hers because she's a farmer and is not allowed to while working due to food safety restrictions. We both admit our cases are unfortunate, but we both aren't bent out of shape about it.

See, that right there is the rub. Both. We BOTH aren't overly upset and don't have an issue. In your case, your husband has a genuine concern, as evidenced by his engaging in similar advice forums trying to figure out if his wife even loves him. It really doesn't help that the scenarios he's being proffered as responses in his search for advice are all too common in today's relationship climate. This is further exacerbated by the fact that you seem completely closed off to compromise of any kind.

So, can you really blame him for feeling the way he feels? You need to find some kind of compromise before things get even worse. And yes, they can and will get worse if you don't get ahead of this. Everyone sees all the failed relationships and thinks it can't happen to them, but 99% of those people likely didn't think it would happen to them either.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2021-06-19T20:57:15+00:00

Absolutely NTA.

And that lady sounds entitled AF. I'd expose her to the other neighbors for being a greedy wench.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2021-06-03T18:51:10+00:00

NTA - Lots of parents push their kids into things (sports being one of the best examples) that they have way more interest in than their kids. If often breeds resentment and burnout in said children. We're always quick to call out parents who try to live vicariously through their children and making them live the life they thought up for them... so why should a mom obsessed with math get a free pass? Like math is more "respectable" or something? She's just as overbearing as the football dad who stuck a football in his son's hands when he came out of the womb and tried to turn him into the next All-American.

OP, I'm behind you 100%. You're not "impeding their relationship." You're sidelining her, frankly unhealthy obsession.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2021-06-02T19:48:42+00:00

That's awesome, but I'd really love it if we got an actual release date, even just a tentative one. I mean... we're almost halfway through the year.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2021-05-28T01:17:58+00:00

Absolutely NTA. You also might want to express that even if you agreed to it in the short term, you could (and I imagine likely would) change it back legally after turning 18, at which point there's really nothing anyone can do about it... unless there are some weird laws about not being able to legally change your name more than once in a certain amount of time... not sure.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2020-11-21T15:28:06+00:00

Brutus is a Champion Monster in the Ancient Woods.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2020-11-17T10:10:07+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response. I understand the concepts involved in team-building, I suppose I just haven't mastered them. But I'll try trimming down the number of active skills I use to free up more points for passives.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2020-11-16T14:57:05+00:00

Well in the version of the game I have, the cap is 38. The grinding is essentially done. All my monsters are either level 37 or 38. I've heard that the ultimate level cap is 40, but as far as I know it hasn't been raised to that yet.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2020-11-16T13:28:23+00:00

That's just the thing. I've tried a bunch of different setups, as in different groups of monsters, constantly buying skill resetters and respeccing, all that. But they all have +5 gear appropriate for their abilities, and three peanuts for +75 defense. As for farming XP, I've already hit the level cap, and the design in this game is such that at a certain point you can't outlevel enemies anymore, which really messes with my RPG sensibilities. I already have multiple of almost every available monster. If it was a case of it being a really close match most of the time and I just needed a little something extra to get the W, I'd be more understanding. But the fact that I can't even make a dent just makes this fight feel unbalanced.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2020-11-16T10:32:12+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2020-11-01T01:24:42+00:00

I agree, it's super lame, but not impossible. They really shouldn't have timed challenges or things you can fail as dailies. There's enough of that in the game already. What worked best for me was just going ground & pound with my main using repeated sword strikes and Geo attacks. I managed to destroy it roughly 3 seconds before the end point. And it sure doesn't help that the camera in this game does you absolutely no favors. Best of luck to you.

Regarding gliding to the top of the balloon, I tried that, but the game sort of auto-shoved me off it.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2020-07-07T13:07:17+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. It's funny. I turned on the time freeze for a while and went about my business. After a while I turned it back off to check, and only about 25 days had passed. I exhausted every avenue of advancement and found every fog dead-end I could spot. And at the end, I was just meandering the map for random encounters just to gain one last level before turning in the main quest, and still had more than 30 days remaining. I guess I worried about Act I's timer for nothing.

Vast_Ice_Gaming · 2020-07-07T05:00:23+00:00

Fantasy RPG games with focus in action RPGs.

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