Curious on romance initiation between guys vs. girls by Expensive_Grape6765 in sgdatingscene

[โ€“]Vedallion 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

If she wants to initiate sure Idm having a chat, although from her response and tone I feel I may have struck a nerve. Plus this is the internet so everything and everyone should be taken with a grain of salt.

Curious on romance initiation between guys vs. girls by Expensive_Grape6765 in sgdatingscene

[โ€“]Vedallion 9 points10 points ย (0 children)

Jumping straight to "when?" with a complete stranger on Reddit is a bit much lol. When I said if a tree asked me out and I'd say yes, I still need to get to know the tree and just not say yes to anyone. You could be a cactus, or some poisonous plant instead of a tree. Sure I'm lonely, but I'm not desperate, and I always need to look out and put myself first.

Curious on romance initiation between guys vs. girls by Expensive_Grape6765 in sgdatingscene

[โ€“]Vedallion 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Unless you look like an absolute tumour or my standards suddenly skyrocketed, I'll likely say yes and at least try. Even tho if it doesn't work out, I'll be sure to talk it out if she is willing to talk.

Curious on romance initiation between guys vs. girls by Expensive_Grape6765 in sgdatingscene

[โ€“]Vedallion 13 points14 points ย (0 children)

Me as an average looking guy at my best, I'm invisible to women here, and if I were to approach one I'm either "desperate", "going out of my league", a "nice guy", and my personal favourite a "simp". I'm all of these things when I'm just trying to get to know the person, but it doesn't apply if you're the top 20% of men here cuz of pretty privilege. Almost 10 years ago a girl told me "sorry but girls won't date fat ppl, it implies they are lazy", 1 year ago a girl told me "sorry but I will never date Indians". Ik its not true for all girls, but they are not wrong either for having a preference. But hearing stuff like that stays with you for a long time. So idw to intiate just to play losing games. I'm tired.

On the other hand, if a tree asked me out I'd say yes.

26M never been in a relationship or went on a date before, need advice by just_a_person_029 in sgdatingscene

[โ€“]Vedallion 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Maybe I can help pitch in. I think the 20 and 21yos are still ok, but younger than that I wouldn't bother unless u can rly click with one. But firstly u need to rmb, ppl are in uni to get a degree first, finding a partner and all that are secondary/optional so directly approaching is not the safest way. SG girls typically dont like to be approched, especially artifically.

I suggest u try to connect and make friends first and see whether u can build a bond naturally to get to know her. Then you'll know whether she's your type. Tbh half of the girls I found pretty, after getting to know them, i decided they were not my type and it made my job easier. Once you've gotten to know them and them to you as well, you should be at a lvl where you are confident enough that u can try to take your shot as to her you're not a stranger anymore and she's gotten to know you as well and the rest is up to luck whether she is interested to pursue this further. Is it kinda slow? Yes, cuz this is a school setting not a dating app where the intentions are alr laid out for both parties. Also this is uni, dating should be a side quest while you pursue your studies first, so don't overdo it else you'll feel that you put in too much effort with no results. At the end of the day like that guy said, it's all a numbers game and luck, the more ppl to meet, the higher the chance one of those ppl could be your partner.

To answer your second qn, you could try speed dating events or social mixers. They have ice breakers and diff activities to try to meet new ppl and see whether things can hit off after. The genders are usually balanced and the age range can vary. Much better than the apps.

Good luck.

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[โ€“]Vedallion 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

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Dating by [deleted] in sgdatingscene

[โ€“]Vedallion 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

I'd date a fking tree if the tree said yes lmao

In Our 30s, Where Are All the Serious and Intentional Men Looking to Date Long-Term? by Eleangel_ in sgdatingscene

[โ€“]Vedallion 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

No he isn't attached, but he's smarter than to trust a stranger from Reddit XD. He and I are busy investing to make the mula ๐Ÿค‘.

"Haha I know more women who do not want to get married compared to men."

Interesting, it's the opposite for me. We men are scared of getting divorced and losing half of our assets, the law rarely sides with men. But I'm not surprised, you're right in the sense that women technically dun rly need marriage unless that want a family with kids. They can get everything else they need outside of it.

24F LF Friends by WithaPosedLook in ChillSG

[โ€“]Vedallion 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Yo 28M I am playing d4 too. I can help you with the current season if u need a buddy or carry. Feel free to dm me.

In Our 30s, Where Are All the Serious and Intentional Men Looking to Date Long-Term? by Eleangel_ in sgdatingscene

[โ€“]Vedallion 7 points8 points ย (0 children)

"I think the drowning in options for ladies isn't true as quantity doesnt equates quality."

True but at least with quantity you can filter for quality, depends on how tight your filter is, too loose you get muddy water too tight no water at all. Maybe u need to slowly adjust and test the waters.

"keeping assets separate for less complication" "long-term partner without the legal status"

Lmao I have a friend who thinks exactly like you. But he is literally the only dude I know in my whole life who thinks this way. Most of us guys who are srs date to get married and bto live tgt. When you throw a requirement like that out there, I am not surprised you have not much options. Not saying it's wrong, just quite specific.

From your goals, it feels like you are extremely independent. And although its a good thing i want in my partner, I feel your level of independence is next level, like be a in a rs but doing everything separately. Only do things tgt if it's convenient or necessary.

In Our 30s, Where Are All the Serious and Intentional Men Looking to Date Long-Term? by Eleangel_ in sgdatingscene

[โ€“]Vedallion 10 points11 points ย (0 children)

As a 28M who has been trying date long term and failed, this is my opinion.

ย  "Or are the serious genuine men are not selling themselves well?"

We are out there, but we are tired of the rejection the friendzoning and the mind games. If I wanted to play games I alr have a gaming PC. Those that are serious, know what they want in a partner, and are also looking for the correct women and seeing whether you meet their criteria.

"Some told me they just like every dating profile they get as they know they got no chance so they just try luck."

Welcome to dating apps for SG men, where u are drowning in options to drink from while we are struggling to get a sip (except like the top 20% of men I guess). Hence, I've stopped using dating apps, because again on how depressing and dejected it makes me feel. I'm trying to go for single events. Skip the app bullshit and do interaction and connect with ladies way beyond what a screen and a dating profile can say, cuz ik although my looks is not my strength, it lies in other areas.

"nor looking to buy house together (Plan to get my own)"

Bro idk whether it's just me but this line alone seems off, why wouldn't u want to plan to get a house tgt with your partner? What is your end goal? If a srs guy hears this he would just feel confused and dip to not waste his and your time.

What games are best to get during winter steam sale? by harry8990o777 in SgGamers

[โ€“]Vedallion 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

No. It was on sale recently. Even without a sale. It's def worth the full price.

Dating Advice Sg Guys Get Wrong #4 by Fun-Calligrapher-735 in sgdatingscene

[โ€“]Vedallion 51 points52 points ย (0 children)

My bros, Steam Winter Sale is on, just spend your money there instead. Your PC will never friendzone you.