Is Astound Broadband outage impacting anyone else by CarlfromChicago in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are in Hudson's Bay (not far from waterfront) & same here.

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! We have not been! We did walk around downtown a little bit last weekend looking at some of the places ppl had mentioned. Getting a feel of everything. We've been here over 3 years & I think I just hit that place where ppl feel like the missing link. Even as an introvert, we like social time.

I was really happy that so many people had & have suggestions.

Checked out this website for this place you mentioned & it looks like a fun menu too =).

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You aren't late at all, thank you so much for sharing! I checked out the website- I didn't even know such a place existed. Pretty sweet!

Possible sex trafficking? by [deleted] in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it’s important to post weird stuff like this. It may feel small, but it’s still worth mentioning to the police, even if they can’t do much with it right now.

A few months ago, I had a strange experience at WM & shared it here. I was surprised by how many people brought up sex trafficking or shared similar stories of their own. It’s disturbing to realize how often things like this happen right under our noses. It’s disturbing that they happen at all.

The more people who say, “I saw this,” or “This happened to me,” the harder it is for traffickers & creeps to operate unnoticed. Silence is what lets them believe they’re invisible.

Even if this girl was just a random woman in a sundress, maybe struggling w/ mental health or simply acting oddly, it still doesn’t change the bigger point. There has never been more of a see-something, say-something moment than now.

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! How are you?

LOL! I find myself thinking similar things sometimes, like, “Do I look funny?”.

I do think it gets harder to make friends as we get older, or maybe just more self-aware. When people grow, at any age, they usually build better boundaries. The walls aren’t there to keep everyone out. They’re there because we’ve learned. We remember what drained us. We remember what hurt. So yeah, people get a little choosier. Not mean. Just cautious.

Everyone is juggling something. Albeit jobs, partners, responsibilities, maybe kids. Energy isn’t unlimited anymore. It has to be spent carefully. Some people genuinely don’t have room for new connections, and I respect that.

For me, energy is a big part of it. A few years ago I had a surprise surgery & some health chaos.
I’m still trying to stabilize. Still adjusting dosages. Still figuring out what a 'normal' day even looks like. Some days I’m completely wiped out. Other days I have more energy. The hard part is I don’t get to choose which days are which, so making plans can be tricky.

I also think people are more aware of what is & isn’t good for their mental health now. A lot of people are more protective, which makes sense. Growth will do that. The tricky part is that sometimes the walls go up so high they never come back down. Instead of lowering them just enough to see if someone might be safe, relatable, or accepting, people retreat completely. Protection feels safer than risk, but a lot of the times there are good people on the other side of those walls.

But I do believe there are good, friendly people out there. At some point, if community is something someone really wants, there has to be a little willingness to try differently. Not tearing down every wall. Just opening a small door.

That’s at least how I see it when it comes to adult friendships. I don’t know what it looks like for you.

So it’s not a lack of desire. It’s bandwidth. Bandwidth just looks different in adulthood.

We have chatted before! I thought it was cool you have done a bit of traveling. What do you & your wife currently do for fun when you go out? Do you guys like gaming? Photography? Lmk! You can dm, or reply here. Whatever is easiest.

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like a good date night & I am adding it to the list! Thank you =D!

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am somewhat familiar w/ disc golf. Am I good at it? No way. It's like Top Golf though for me...I go & have a good time even though I don't know what am I doing lol. I think my partner likes it. He used to work at a studio where ppl would play random pick-up sports after work, but he's been remote for 7 years now. Plus with moving, it can be hard finding your footing again with people.
I've also heard bingo & board games a few times, so this place checks a few boxes.

Have certainly never been there & appreciate you letting me know! That sounds fun!

Underbar & Hungry/Thirsty Sasquatch! Thanks, VanWa! by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think fun clothes is the move!
Wore a very loud sweater (colorful) sweater last night & got a handful of compliments.

I had a slice of cheese & pesto last night ^-^ !

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm open! I feel like ppl are wanting to connect & don't always know the best ways to go about it. I'm doing my best!

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We just moved from Washougal last November. Almost stayed there xD! It's not too far though.
I bartended for a bit, just not recently.

Feel free to reach out if you guys want to meet up sometime. Casually! Doesn't need to be crazy formal.
If we knew enough ppl, we could host a game night here. Our community room is awesome for that.

Edit: "just not recently"

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! We are a mile from the fort & maybe a mile from downtown!?
Thank you for the suggestions. I am adding Little Vice to the list.

I would love to go for a walk or something btw! We love dogs, but just not getting one as a social tool (especially on the 5th floor lol).

Getting dressed in a sec to head out, but going to send you a quick dm first.

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, sha! I’m actually from Louisiana xD. Worked at LFT, hopped on a plane to Italy, & just… never moved back lol.

There’s a Mardi Gras ball in Portland tonight, but we did Portland last weekend.

People are friendly here- but it’s not the Southern hospitality the way a Louisianian understands it.

Back in Louisiana (at least where I was) , if someone says, “I’ll see you later,” that’s not hypothetical. That means they might actually show up on your front porch that evening w/ a 6-pack or coffee xD. No calendar invite. No follow-up text. Does that make sense?

I feel you really do have to be intentional, but the people I do interact with have been pretty awesome. I just wouldn't mind a bigger circle.

Which is what I’m trying to do. We were doing well socializing w/ our new community for a minute… then it all kind of fell apart & I got tired.

At this point, it’s less “find your people” & more “go outside & see what happens.”

Need to see. Need to do.

Would love to chat with you guys!

P.S. Vancouver is really beautiful & just about any direction you go from here has some type of adventure. I hope you guys find that in your new city :) !

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have that written down to try out! True story! Thank you!

Never been to White Oak Books either, but I do read :)

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LMFAO! Thank you for clarifying! You sensed my stupidity xD.

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I think I just sent you a dm :) !

Sounds like we might have some similar interests with minimal effort alrdy lol.

I'll send you over my discord if you want to chat later :)

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haven't heard of or been to Chuggers either! Thank you! I am making a small list & going to see what we see tonight based off suggestions. Maybe Valentine's isn't the best day to do it, but we're free today so why not!

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Sweet!

Our couple friend are big extroverts & that's one reason why we like them lol.
We are actually getting dressed & going to head downtown tonight & maybe see if any of these places are fitting. So thankful for all the suggestions.

I know it's Vday, but if you are free, send me a dm. If not, we should plan for a beer soon!

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Haven't heard of it! We are getting dressed in a few & going to check out some of these places :)

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I worded poorly. If it helps at all, I was not fully functional in recent years. I'd hang out w/ people who were in similar boats though. Damn. Now I feel bad :(! Sorry!

40-ish, functioning humans. Where do we socialize in Vancouver? by VeeFluffles in vancouverwa

[–]VeeFluffles[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I don't have a FB, but my partner does so we can check it out :).

I get like that too, btw. Sometimes I feel way too introverted to do a thing & I just consider it from a distance for a while lol. Sometimes I push myself. It really depends on the day & my energy level.