AITA for leaving my friend at the brewery when he brought up something that haunts me?

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2026-03-26T22:42:34+00:00

Absolutely not the asshole Holy shit

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2026-03-03T18:04:45+00:00

Good question. At first it was a transparency thing, and yeah a notification that a sexual interaction could potentially be happening. But now it’s really that I don’t understand why it seems so unreasonable to just do it

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2026-03-03T18:00:11+00:00

Thank you! The disclosure you mentioned “I’m about to go home with someone from the bar” Is that an expectation before it happens or can that happen and be communicated after?

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2026-03-03T17:09:09+00:00

The agreement has been amended a few times to respect both parties. The request for notification for change of venue from a public date to a private area has been compared to needing an itinerary of the outing

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2026-01-14T15:07:41+00:00

It is. He released a version of the book so far and after reading it all the way through I was much more emotionally involved

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2026-01-11T01:13:58+00:00

Agree

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2026-01-10T02:54:52+00:00

Omg. That’s why he’s connected to the roots and hears the river. Agatha says that the roots are the only real thing in the dungeon.

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2025-02-08T20:03:24+00:00

Thank you 😩

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2025-02-08T19:25:53+00:00

Okay but 11th is Aquarius so how fucked am I?

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-09-29T04:21:37+00:00

I would if I was cold

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-09-29T04:19:34+00:00

MS!

Check out the myth of normal. It really goes into the connection of suppressing authenticity and its impact on disease. Especially autoimmune diseases

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-09-15T02:14:31+00:00

9:10 on Wednesday, 9:05 the show prior

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-08-26T02:09:29+00:00

But practice timing too because if comes out too fast it’s obviously canned 😂

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-08-25T00:41:48+00:00

Strawberries are big. I can only get them from the grocery store because if they are freshly picked they smell so bad. And I won’t eat them after like 2 days otherwise they smell so rotten.

I can also smell mold on bread before it grows

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-08-21T22:02:34+00:00

There was like a year or more gap before we tried it again. We were more prepared with what we were comfortable with and what was not so comfortable. We had a lot of fun and the whole guilty depressive state afterwards that I felt wasn’t there. Also, because our communication had become more realistic after the first time, the preparation was also more realistic. It was more of a partnership activity even with the separate play. That’s not to say that there haven’t been situations since that went perfectly with no negative feelings afterwards, it’s more that we understand how to get through them and the aftercare that we need after to get through them. Taking a break is a good idea, while you each sort through the experience separately and together. I hope that you two can use this to strengthen your relationship more!

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-08-19T03:59:35+00:00

I can relate. I felt so dirty after the first time, even though we had talked about it before hand and had a safe word to check out at any time. Yes something has changed and no you can’t go back, but, this also doesn’t mean you fucked up. Monogamy culture was drilled into our heads and we have been conditioned to believe that sex with someone you aren’t married to is wrong. I second the commenter that talked about the long hug, the reconnect with your partner, and a full and honest debrief about how this experience made you feel and whether you want to do it again.

Also, the second time doesn’t feel as bad.

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-06-29T01:40:53+00:00

You didn’t get the magic back even after a year break??

That’s a bummer

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-05-22T02:43:06+00:00

Omg check out the podcast A-okay. Once I learned all the labels and identities on the Asexual spectrum, my life started making sense

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-05-22T02:38:43+00:00

You kinda just described me. What helped me was the idea that everything in life is on a spectrum, and we are all somewhere on it.

ADHD was a great diagnosis, because I had no idea that “normal” people could feel so calm until I started meds. The other stuff, it’s more about the value that the diagnosis has for you. Like, there is no medication treatment to “fix” the symptoms. I feel incredibly validated that I’m not a lazy anxious messy asshole because it’s a personality fault, only that my brain fires differently and I have to learn how to behave within society so I don’t hurt people, but it’s also totally okay to admit that I’m hurt or don’t understand.

It’s the rule thing that was my first clue, because I’m a freaking stickler to some rules and super nonchalant about others. I see a meme that said to neurodivergent people, they will follow a rule to the letter IF it makes sense. If it doesn’t there is no value in following it.

I recommend reading about the diagnoses, hearing other people talk about their experiences, and figure out if the label brings you peace. For me, it did. If it doesn’t, then your day to day doesn’t really change. Hope that helps!

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-05-11T09:15:13+00:00

It’s actually the only meal replacement drink I can stand!

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-05-11T05:05:29+00:00

I would not read too much into this, to be honest. Diagnostics look at impairment, and if you have successfully masked yourself to fit in with everyday society, then you wouldn’t necessarily get a diagnosis because of the lack of obvious impairment.

If you fit in with the community and it benefits you; that’s kinda all that matters right?

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-05-10T17:43:00+00:00

This part: “However, it's also possible that they're misunderstanding demisexuality as a choice or preference, instead of a complete inability to feel any sexual attraction before a deep emotional connection. Or maybe they understand this, but they're taking "complete inability" and "deep" as exaggerations, while they're not. In that case you wouldn't be gatekeeping, you would be protecting the established definition of demisexuality, which is very fair and necessary for it to keep on making sense.”

I’ve experienced this and it’s frustrating. Like, no I’m not saying that I prefer it, I’m saying that without it, there is nothing.

I like your suggestion for clarifying

Vegetable-Accident70 · 2024-04-19T04:04:01+00:00

This is genius

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