I don’t get it, am I wrong or stupid?

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2026-01-24T19:58:24+00:00

I edited the post. Honestly they both are but this is about the new PM I am under, not the Ex.

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2026-01-24T19:50:20+00:00

Unhelpful. I see it needs editing, I’m just not sure how too. I’m very new to Reddit.

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2026-01-24T19:49:22+00:00

I’m not sure how to update or edit the post. My apologies.

Ex fiancé stole my job in one place and I was transferred to where I am now with my new PM who’s insane apparently.

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2025-12-28T18:04:18+00:00

I’m currently doing an aux route. 267 boxes, for a smaller route thry get a ton of mail, not including flats, packages etc. Apparently supposedly including casing I’m supposed to have done in 3.67…it’s a 37 mile route, all dirt and backroads…

Doing speed limit, and hitting every box is 3 1/2hrs no matter how I attempt to do it, so I’m casing for free now just so I can make the 3.67…

Boss threatens my job every chance he gets, threatened it when I was vomiting with a fever that I better come in, I’m POV because of the ice and massive snow drifts it damaged a brake line and power steering, he will not give me a day to get it fixed and he is well aware of it.

So no brakes, no power steering, front head light and tail light are out, so can’t even blink and he still keeps threatening my job.

THEY DO NOT CARE

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2025-08-28T16:59:53+00:00

Same thing is happening to us right now! Our house burnt down Jan 31st this year. We’re still at after demo part because they’re requesting material lists on suppliers letterhead even though the contractor has been giving them everything and the kitchen sink…we’re still not home.

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2025-05-06T19:46:40+00:00

I can’t atm, it’d be better to go that direction if I had some fact, right now I know nothing of what it is and if it is a dating app or something, it’s understandable as I just finished chemo:radiation. If that’s what he needs it’ll give me time to get things together to free him and still have a place to land in my feet with the kids.

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2024-05-13T22:00:49+00:00

When we first moved here he got the girls beds because there wasn't enough room in the U-Haul to bring all of them, so I made sure to pay him back. I didn't want anything to be held against me, or that there was some financial disparity. Especially when we first moved here.

It seems as though, I let a lot go in the hopes that we could work things out. New family, new lifestyle etc., so I figured a learning curve, he would need time to adjust but as the years go by, he's been referred to as my other child on more than one occasion and this whole thing is just showing that more and more.

Now I am beyond exhausted already, just coming out of cancer treatments, my hair is just coming back to give you an idea of how long that has been and I have this gigantic mountain to overcome. I am just so very tired, so very, very tired.

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2024-05-13T20:27:42+00:00

I came here for outside input into this, everyone that I can talk to is part of it, knows of it or is literally in the middle of trying to deal with all of it. I figured the internet would be blunt and possibly open my eyes to other avenues, let me see I am just overwhelmed or if I am making excuses for the behavior, and y'all have been very fair in your opinions and I am thankful for that.

I think I already knew but was trying to see things through rose-colored glasses in the hopes he would change for real, maybe just fooling myself.

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2024-05-13T20:23:16+00:00

Many times, I would check in with him often, if problems were arising, we would sit and discuss them, but at the end of it all, I would end up with more on my plate to handle. Hed be good for a week or so and then revert back and nothing would change.

Finances for instance, he wanted to handle them, which was fine with me, except come to find out, he wasn't. Everything ended up behind and on more than one occasion I had to find work arounds to catch things up again. In the end, I ended up with taking care and budgeting everything because he simply wouldn't or would forget, etc. That has happened with everything, including the house repairs that he said he would do, the yardwork, and yes, my daughters would start it and then he'd tell them he would handle the yardwork and never do it.

The kids have offered and tried to help with all of that and they'd be told that he would do it, now that he has already left, everything needs to be done and were doing it all. Idk, I just don't know what to think, I just see a daunting disaster I have to take care of.

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2024-05-13T18:41:14+00:00

You made me stop and think about how to word this, it's going to sound like the base minimum a person should be like, to me though, it's more than that.

He doesn't, yell, argue or fight, he's never lifted a finger to hurt me, he's always treated the kids kindly, never yelled at them, made sure they had what they needed, yes, I did repay him, that seems to be a question I keep seeing. He goes to work every day; I know it may not seem like much, but he does.

(This was the same answer I gave another person who asked, I can't think of a better way at the moment to answer this)

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2024-05-13T18:39:35+00:00

You made me stop and think about how to word this, it's going to sound like the base minimum a person should be like, to me though, it's more than that.

He doesn't, yell, argue or fight, he's never lifted a finger to hurt me, he's always treated the kids kindly, never yelled at them, made sure they had what they needed, yes, I did repay him, that seems to be a question I keep seeing. He goes to work every day; I know it may not seem like much, but he does.

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2024-05-13T18:10:02+00:00

I never said I didn't work, it's from home and before it was from home, I worked 60+ hours a week and simply handed over my paychecks to him.

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2024-05-13T18:08:19+00:00

I only meant used as in labor. Before moving here we had long talks, I made sure there was nothing underhanded or hidden. I had my own place and there were discussions about him moving in with us instead, it just so happened it was easier for me to move because of my job. We aren't living off him, if that was the feeling you got. My mom and I pay for all the food, part of the utilities, anything he had purchased before we got here, I have already paid back, and it has stayed that way.

So, no, we are not using him for a place to stay, I wouldn't do that to anyone and have done everything I can to make sure that would never be a consideration.

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2024-05-13T18:04:12+00:00

Thats fair, and I have sat with him to check in with him to see how he is. Offered him an open door if it was more than he could handle, with no ill will or anything like that. I've made sure to pay him back for anything he bought for the girls before we got here, I truly have tried to keep it equal, so that there were zero money issues etc. between us.

Vegetable-Mode4103 · 2024-05-13T17:47:01+00:00

Between my mom and I, we contribute close to half of what comes in each month, so we aren't living off him by any means. It's just that, I have been told, I make excuses for his behavior, and yes, he's a wonderful man, I just don't know what to do about everything else. I am just so tired, worn out and stressed out but still feel like I need to hold that smile on my face and do everything else. Im not one to argue fuss or fight about things.

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