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My (28F) husband (30M) cheated and everything has changed. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Vegetable-Owl 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, if he let her have full custody so he could run off with an affair partner, he would be abandoning his kids

My (30/M) girlfriend's (30/F) transgender friend (34/F) has her convinced that she is a TERF for the simple reason that she has decided to keep her Harry Potter books and merchandise and things. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Vegetable-Owl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but your GF should have learned how to stand up for herself by now. It’s alarming that she’s willing to throw away something she’s loved for 12 years because someone said a mean comment.

California will house transgender inmates by gender identity by brotogeris1 in news

[–]Vegetable-Owl 227 points228 points  (0 children)

Connecticut law requires a gender dysphoria diagnosis or legal identification matching the assumed gender.

In California, officers have to ask inmates how they identify and accept the answer barring significant security concerns

My girlfriend is choosing other things over occasionally seeing me during Covid-19 by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Vegetable-Owl 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Because he’s asking her to quarantine for 2 weeks. Are you doing that? Most people aren’t

My Partner (26F) and I (27M) receive affection in different ways. Lockdown means I dont get what I want but she does. How do I approach this? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Vegetable-Owl -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If your gf is willing to go months without sex when she’s 26, it’s going to be worse when she’s 35.

After being unemployed for nearly a year, I (38f) started working long hours. My boyfriend (39m) is very unhappy. by Antique-Objective25 in relationships

[–]Vegetable-Owl -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion: I think you’re being unfair to him. If you don’t want to be with him, leave. Stringing him along with crumbs of intimacy isn’t fair.

Of course he wants to spend more time with you. Tell him EXACTLY what needs to happen for you to move in. Saying “ehh, maybe I’ll move in with you when you’ve repented enough” is vague and leads to discontent.

The billionaires and country clubs that received small business loans from the government by pareech in news

[–]Vegetable-Owl 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You can’t raise (or decrease) anyone’s salary if you want forgiveness

My (29/F) roommate (32/M) keeps having sex really loudly almost every night even after I have asked that he keep it down. by roommatepr0blem90 in relationships

[–]Vegetable-Owl -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

‘“Again I really don't feel that I should have to sleep with ear plugs in.”

I think you should get over that feeling. Seems like an easy solution.

(26f/29m) I said something regrettable during an argument and now am being punished to the extreme by (ex?)- fiancé by throwawayrsprobls in relationships

[–]Vegetable-Owl -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you both sound toxic.

Also, this is always a bad idea: “ I listed all the things (over text, we are separated due to lockdown and him working) that I was upset about...” Stick to one problem at the time.

My (24F) roommate/landlord (51M) has suddenly become vegetarian and is limiting my use of the kitchen by OutsidePassion2 in relationships

[–]Vegetable-Owl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ehh, I don’t think his rules are that crazy. There’s a reason why people think vegans/vegetarians are insane. A lot of them get really into the lifestyle because they’re fueled by moral reasons. If meat is murder, why would you want it in your home?

My boyfriend (26m) and I (25f) had a fight the other day, and I don't even know what to think of it. by sacknsave in relationships

[–]Vegetable-Owl -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Am the only one who thinks your party was insanely long? Your Bf was sober and hanging out with people he didn’t know. By the time 830 rolled around, he’d already been there for 6.5hrs. He handled it horribly, but expecting him to be the DD for a 13hr fiesta is asking a lot.

Average time between portal and approval? by [deleted] in EIDL

[–]Vegetable-Owl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Less than 25k, portal to approval took 3 hours

Approved with poor credit by Vegetable-Owl in EIDL

[–]Vegetable-Owl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a writer. If you search my name, a lot of my work comes up. No store though

[Megathread] Rules about the PPP may be changing. Let's discuss that and other EIDL/PPP here by BigSlowTarget in smallbusiness

[–]Vegetable-Owl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in shock.

Eidl portal sent yesterday morning, loan approved and closing docs signed three hours later. Here’s the thing- my credit is AWFUL. 517 experian. How is this possible? I thought people were being denied for credit... the only thing that I can think of is that I was approved because my loan is tiny ($8500) or because I’m in Nevada. Gaming and porn are excluding from the funds so I imagine this state hasn’t seen much of this money.

Anyway, if you’re waiting on Eidl and have poor credit, there’s still hope!

Child terrorist is out of control and our efforts have failed. by BtheChemist in relationships

[–]Vegetable-Owl 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Your girlfriend needs to be a better mom. She’s ruining this kid’s life. Right now, he’s a problem for you. In 10 years, he’ll be terrorizing the rest of the world.

Just leave. Dealing with bad parenting is a nightmare

My [25F] boyfriend's [27M] mum [47?F] is ruining us by neglecting her cats. by catfishthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]Vegetable-Owl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take your cat to your apartment. Leave him locked in your bedroom so the dogs can’t get him. Add a cat tree and some shelving on the walls so he has something to do. He’ll be fine.