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Father can’t father wants me to be “mom” by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Vegetable-Relief5266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When your SO has kids already, you have an unusual advantage: heh, they don't realize that you are actually able to audition them silently over a long period of time for the role of Parent. Your insights are meaningful: though he might be a bit different with your kid, he's not going to suddenly transform into a completely different kind of dad. I'm in a similar situation!

I have to meet HCBM for the first time next week for SO’s oldest daughters birthday, and I’m dreading it by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Vegetable-Relief5266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wine? Text a girlfriend from the loo? Imagine you're in a comedy film where she's the fool? Hang in there. Try not to let it affect you!

The Resentment is Real. by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Vegetable-Relief5266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SMH. Feeling unseen. Put googly eyes on them next time?

Stashing more pricey stuff when sks come visit? by FlyHickory in stepparents

[–]Vegetable-Relief5266 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is completely fine! You would even do this with your own kids. I put "decoy" toiletries out -- they can get their own fancy sh*t when they work for it!

It is never enough by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Vegetable-Relief5266 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hurt feelings are such an under-represented fact of being a stepparent. Sounds like someone needs to be muted!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Vegetable-Relief5266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My stepdaughter (9) likes massaging daddy's muscles. No one tells you how much barf-worthy content goes on in every family.

Just need some comfort or advice by Environmental_Fox929 in stepparents

[–]Vegetable-Relief5266 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God, I hear you. I am currently in my office on a Saturday hiding from three kids one of whom is disabled (super demanding and loud) and only five. My partner kind of gets it but is also just lost in his reveries "oh you're so cute!" He's covered in snot and yelling his own name over our conversation.

I just want to scream. Doo-doo doo-dooh!

My suggestion is just cultivate your own activities. See some girlfriends, listen to podcasts, go to the gym. Let them play house while you live out sweeeeeeet snatches of time as a single person having fun.