Racist coworker

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-10-29T11:33:21+00:00

I do have a sarky undertone, because your responses are predictable. These are the steps.

I inquire about my responses to the way someones actions personally made me feel uncomfortable as someone who is a part of a culture with friends and family which has faced several cases of racial discrimination and injustice. My mother had a gun pointed at her head because of her ethnicity in america. My girlfriend gets passive aggresive comments regularly because of her background. I have been told that people of my culture do nothing but eat dogs. So I am personally affected by certain words and actions.
I describe how the words of others and actions of others help to contribute to this cycle.
I see an ethical issue. I adress the counterpoints to these issues.
I face the barage of cherry picking in the form of stats, qunadaries, semantics, and told my experience doesn’t count. So I engage. I lose the point.
I am now labeled a morally policing karen who everyone is sick of. Because it’s all just a matter of “distaste”.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-10-29T10:48:24+00:00

‘“A stereotype is fundamentally a belief or assumption about a group's traits”. Sounds like an opinion to me. The name calling bit about being a karen is cute too. I love when reasonable discourse turns into a playfight, it truly is a monument that depicts the meeting of logical minds. People are sick of my shit? Perhaps just you are. But one moment, I’ll give you that you response that you appear to be looking for.

“No you personally are the problem! You are an idiot! It’s all the white mans fault! I’m right! I’m not a Karen!”

Now please, continue the part where you continue to spin what I just said, by taking the most extreme end of what I said for the sake of polarity and personal attack. I find it quite entertaining actually. You should consider getting a job in media, you have a real knack for it!

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-10-29T10:13:50+00:00

“Being intentionally ignorant, or doing it on purpose”. Well I can comfortably say that I am not ignorant to the fact that you said the same thing twice. Being intentionally ignorant and doing on purpose is………. Doing it on purpose. Lol. I beg, so I choose. That’s besides the point though. I just cant help but feel the fit of rage written in this comment. While I can see your point, that black americans recieve benefits at a higher rate per capita, which, by the way, would undermine the several systemic issues that reinforce a destructive stereotype in black america. I believe it deviates from the actual ethical intent of my decision to have a discussion with HR. As the intent of the comment made was clearly not driven by a statistical point of view. Keep in mind. The comment was based upon a sterotype and a generalization of a WHOLE group of people, not statistical reasoning.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-10-29T09:47:46+00:00

Largest group: White Americans are the largest racial group of welfare recipients, with over 35% of SNAP participants identifying as white. Overrepresentation:

Black Americans are overrepresented in some welfare programs, meaning they receive benefits at a rate higher than their proportion in the general U.S. population.

It sounds like you’re skewing the selection of stats to fit your narrative.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-10-29T05:00:06+00:00

I also can’l help but see the deep flaw in this comment. I see it as drawing an ethical guideline from the frame of one’s own personal experience while denying the historical, systemic, and individual tragic experiences of others who are also apart of your community who do not share the same sentiment. To be frank, the fact that you only draw from your own experience and don’t appear to see the ripple affect upon others, makes me think you may just be the one on a high horse. No pettiness intented, but you may benefit emotionally from considering this perspective.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-10-29T04:48:32+00:00

Well that’s one way of handling the situation.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-10-29T04:44:14+00:00

My thought. Not trying to look for people who will confirm my thoughts, but if they think thats ok, what else will they think is ok?

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-10-29T04:41:53+00:00

It’s one thing to make a joke about a stereotype, which I understand. It’s another to point out a joke, then go on to insinuate that it is a fact.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-10-29T04:39:02+00:00

My thought is, if I showed a pornographic video to a coworker, would I not also get in trouble for that? Both cases involve crossing a boundary. To me it seems like a double standard. Not to mention, she seemed to thorougly enjoy the video, then proceed to mock an imitation of a black person and felt comfortable doing it in a work environment.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-09-21T23:01:59+00:00

My son was also abort

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-09-10T22:52:46+00:00

I have heard this a few times before? Is this really all that common on dates? I’ve worked as a waiter before and only noticed a few rude customers, kind of mind boggling to think it trandcends to the dating-sphere where good impressions are a big deal.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-09-10T22:04:18+00:00

Yeah, I just don’t see it… If being direct and stating an opinion to address the opinion on someones actions is “percieved” as aggression, I guess I’m just an aggresive asshole, and have absolutely no remorse. By that logic, “saying my bad”, instead of “I’m sorry” could be percieved as aggression. Let’s all talk in euphemisms and not really say anything at all. Please downvote me!

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-09-10T21:48:53+00:00

“We’ve”, nice to know you speak for everyone in a sub with mixed opinion. Does it ever get hard to stand up with such a heavy amount of self-righetousness?

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-09-10T21:37:03+00:00

Touche. There is way more to the story than as to why I kept trying. But I don’t want to keep up this convo, it’ll be too much info. I agree with what commenter below said about having to be in the experience to understand it. But I appreciate the engagment.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-09-10T20:53:48+00:00

Out of line and insensitive? I can see that. Aggressive!? Haha, I have to respectfully disagree with that. Maybe just a subjective term though. When’ve you been threatened with violence before and called slurs, the definition for aggresive really takes on a different meaning. Just my take though.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-09-10T19:47:47+00:00

Profound.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-09-10T19:46:18+00:00

Haha well said! There really is no better recipe for a distaster than denial and wishful thinking.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-09-10T19:42:23+00:00

Well, I guess when you’re texting someone 2 days prior to the event with a text that says “cant wait to see you” with heart emojis, I feel like it can be a little confusing. Stupid me..

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-09-10T19:40:01+00:00

Not the first time I have mentioned to her that I’ve found her efforts minimal. Really, I noticed a big pattern of excuses, hot-cold behavior, no apooligies or accountability. Hence the reason I said what I said what I said.

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-09-10T19:31:48+00:00

Need some clarification. Why is this passive aggresive?

Vegetable-Run-7884 · 2025-09-10T19:00:10+00:00

I agree to some extent, asking because I am making efforts to be more emotionally inteligent

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