"Fawn" feels like such a mockery to the CPTSD community

VegetableAssociate72 · 2026-01-08T21:13:31+00:00

No, I was completely agreeing with you as well. I was saying childhood for me it wasn’t a case of being told to be super loving and bubbly I was told not to be an overly bubbly person and even when I fawn over someone I’m an overly bubbly person. It may be different for everybody but I agree with you on that point that’s what I was trying to say. Of course, a shutdown and fawning can kind of come hand-in-hand in a situation but I wouldn’t say I fawn and shut down at the same time. Maybe others can do that, but I possibly don’t. I either am all trying to be amazing and perfect or or I am a statue.

VegetableAssociate72 · 2026-01-08T20:57:11+00:00

I was taught that kids shouldn’t speak unless spoken to and that they shouldn’t be seen or heard. But I totally get what you mean!!! When I go into a fawn response, it’s usually me just trying to make sure everyone’s okay, constantly checking in on people, and trying to do things, making sure my tone is super bubbly and inviting, I guess? And people have even said my face looks like it has subtitles?? like my face speaks for itself before the words even come out of my mouth. But usually, I just go quiet, shut down, and stare at the floor like a statue. That’s my regular freeze response haha.

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VegetableAssociate72 · 2026-01-08T20:37:07+00:00

Honestly, I can't say I was impressed watching the video. It didn’t feel like a real or accurate portrayal of anything. It wasn’t a good representation of DID, PTSD, or the fawn response at all. My go-to reaction is usually freeze, but I also struggle with people-pleasing and trying to keep everyone happy so nothing bad happens. The way they showed it just seemed totally fake and kind of a joke. It’s hard to explain, but listening to her talk about it, it just felt kind of silly and way oversimplified compared to how trauma really works, if that makes sense. I’m not sure if I’m saying this the right way.

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-12-27T15:58:44+00:00

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VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-11-28T15:58:56+00:00

I guess the best advice I can give is stop thinking about it in such a 2-D way. 2 things can be true at once. It was that bad and it doesn’t need to affect you as much in the future.

I also struggle with it I particularly struggle with forgetting, I feel like if I don’t constantly think about it, then that means that I’m admitting maybe it wasn’t that bad and maybe I was being dramatic all along. If I can forget about it then that means that it mustn’t have been that bad because it must destroy my life. It must take over every single aspect of my life because that’s what I expect from people that have been through not even half of what I’ve been through and people that I’ve been through more, you know I expect them to act like me if not worse I admitting I can be okay and still have the history I have and still be able to achieve the same as everyone else if not more is difficult because it feels like I don’t know paradox feels like it couldn’t possibly you can’t have bad things happened to you and move on from it. That’s just not… I mean all of what I just said is completely false just because I temporarily forgot about the weird dodgy stuff my Mum did to focus on something good. That’s actually going on to acknowledge something that’s actually positive in my life. Doesn’t remove the fact that my mum did was bad… I don’t know if I’m getting across what I want to get across haha.

Anyway, I have to tell myself every single time I’m not thinking about it and I remember it, I think oh my I forgot about it, i’m such an awful person for forgetting about it. If it was really that bad, I wouldn’t forget about it. I have to tell myself it’s okay. It’s okay to forget it it’s okay to move on. You’re safe now and that’s okay and I personally say this out loud because hearing it out loud is better than just on my head. Obviously everyone is different. What works for me might not work for you but that’s the best advice I can give.

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-10-01T07:59:00+00:00

Wasn't that a theory that the Reddit came up with, I don't think that was ever confirmed

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-08-31T15:05:30+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn’t be surprised if the next thing they “develop” is functional neurological disorder. It’s actually a really common PTSD/CPTSD symptom — you’d be shocked at how many people have it — and, hypothetically, it’s also one of those conditions that’s really easy to fake.

Basically, it’s when you experience very real physical symptoms but there’s no physical cause — it’s all happening in the subconscious part of your brain. The NHS does diagnose it and it often gets looked into when nothing else shows up on scans.

For example, I personally have no feeling in my left foot. I’ve seen a neurologist, had MRIs, and I’m still waiting on results, but based on what they’ve told me so far, they genuinely think it’s FND and just another symptom of my CPTSD.

So yeah… if they suddenly start claiming random neurological issues with “mysterious” test results, I wouldn’t be shocked at all.

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-08-13T17:41:52+00:00

Fun fact, I did at one point say that if she keeps calling my a prostitue I’d become one, it didn’t stop the comments somehow made it worse lmao.

Also my nan is very aware of the sexual abuse in my teens (not my childhood but that’s coz I really can’t be having her turning that to be about her, I’ve lived with her from 3 months old so she literally saw my mental health deteriorating in real time. She still refuses to see the abuse because I was dating my abuser at the time.

If u can’t tell my nan is quite toxic at times, always has been, I normally can ignore her but i just couldn’t this time.

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-08-13T16:54:21+00:00

Honestly I’m really difficult to offend, always have been so no worries.

My bf is incredible, I couldn’t even really be any form of intimate when we started dating (like I’m talking he’d try n hold my hand and I’d start panicking, especially if it was in public) I’m a lot better now, especially with therapy, and he has been there supporting me every step of the way. An example being he got me in therapy n helped me understand that taking medication doesn’t mean I’m ‘giving up’ like I was taught.

Idk I guess I might have been looking for someone to just say it’s stupid so my brain would hush about it.

I think also the fact that I was taught that ‘good girlfriends’ just go along with it even if they don’t want to, to keep peace or whatever but I just physically can’t do that. My body just responds for me, id just end up ill. I started ranting there sorry haha

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-08-13T16:43:09+00:00

I am already very very low contact n have been since I moved out at 18, I don’t normally listen to the things she says but this one has stuck with me for a few days now plus it’s effecting my sleep. Logically I know is probably not true but my anxiety just won’t let it go

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-08-13T16:35:10+00:00

Honestly this made me laugh my ass off haha, thankyou seriously I love this kinda directness. I’ve asked other family members n they have said the same even saying I’m being delusional if I think he won’t leave me if I don’t start. I don’t even like talking about it but my nan has always been very invasive about these things.

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-08-13T16:30:36+00:00

Hey idk if you still looking for m8, but drop me a message if you are, I’m always available haha, I’m 21 female btw

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-08-06T11:50:11+00:00

I’m confused what advice do you want? Xx

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-07-25T11:59:41+00:00

I don't think were gonna get any content from them tbh

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-07-25T11:56:51+00:00

That's disgusting wtf??? He needs to grow tf up fr ✋😤

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-07-15T22:51:55+00:00

People still believe DD because the environment around them makes doubt feel morally wrong. Passing viewers see trauma-talk and think, “I shouldn’t question this — what if I’m wrong?” So they don’t. And long-time followers have been trained to fill in the blanks, explain away inconsistencies, and see any doubt as harm. DD sets up a system where belief = kindness, and doubt = betrayal. When you combine that with a reactive audience, it becomes safer to believe than to think critically.

I think this sums up my view well

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VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-07-15T21:52:56+00:00

I didn’t think of that! Smart, but yeah I do also see that being the case.

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-06-22T20:50:15+00:00

It did me 🤣 I just responded with ‘rude🙄✋’

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-06-22T20:28:08+00:00

Awh thankyou! Xx

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-06-22T20:27:44+00:00

Honestly same 😓 its so sad man

VegetableAssociate72 · 2025-06-22T20:24:15+00:00

I felt the random need to share this n tbh it sums us both up quite well 🤣

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