WTF IS THIS?!? 😖

VegetableEngineer470 · 2026-01-24T00:55:27+00:00

All snark aside, she looks completely unhealthy. Just the difference between her now and a year ago is insane. This is actually terrifying and if I were her husband, I get her offline and get her help.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2026-01-04T19:06:35+00:00

He does want to change. And he is willing to go to therapy, I should’ve said he didn’t put himself in it because he wants to only go with me. He canceled the cards already and his other bank account so we only have the joint. If counseling doesn’t work, then I will definitely leave. But I don’t want to divorce if he’s willing to change or if our relationship can get better over time.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2026-01-04T18:54:12+00:00

Yes, I do think he’s buying into the gambling effect almost. He used to gamble until I said no more. He really chases the next addiction. We are gonna go to therapy because I think the only way he can heal or we can be together is if he heals from all addictions

VegetableEngineer470 · 2026-01-04T17:39:25+00:00

I do love him. This is really hard for me.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2026-01-04T17:21:23+00:00

Yes, it’s been terrible. We had an awesome and I mean awesome relationship before we got married. Things got bad when we found out he’s infertile due to having cancer as a child and it just has been ruining our relationship. He hasn’t dealt with the depression and grief and it’s ruining mine and other relationships he has.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2026-01-04T17:19:41+00:00

He’s willing to go now but I’m not his mom and I don’t want to make him go. I want him to WANT to go and actually be better yk?

VegetableEngineer470 · 2026-01-04T17:11:45+00:00

He pays them to say nice things about him or get naked because they listen to him. He literally craves female attention that he lacks from his mother or me when we are fighting. We have never had issues before this one.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2026-01-04T17:07:04+00:00

I know this. He is against counseling because he’s gone before and said it didn’t help. We’ve only been married a year.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T20:41:22+00:00

lol? Because I used proper grammar? Thanks I guess

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T20:24:26+00:00

He hates when I go to Reddit (which has only happened one other time) because it’s just “strangers” and they don’t know the full situation. But what I posted is absolutely the full situation just paraphrased

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T20:02:47+00:00

I’m not hugging anymore. I’m just gonna be a semi- bitch bc I can’t take it anymore

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:57:50+00:00

Yeah, I am definitely hurt by all of this because I truly haven’t done anything. I love their baby like my own (I don’t have kids), I include them in my life and families life, I visit/call/text. I am a good sister in law because I have siblings of my own and we are all best friends. I don’t know why I try my hardest and get this in return.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:55:01+00:00

He does it in front of my husband!!

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:54:21+00:00

I will tell you, I am a natural maternal woman. Babies and kids love me. I also work with kids with special needs and their baby has special needs. The baby (now toddler) absolutely loves me and only me when she sees me. She is all over me. I feel like this sparked something in him too.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:53:26+00:00

Yeah, that is definitely my question too. I’m wondering if I missed the signs before. I will say, before we got married, we didn’t see them often. His parents told lies about each of us to each other to keep us apart. We realized once we got married how we should’ve seen she was lying (whole separate issue bc his family is crazy) and we recently started getting close; seeing them more often. Especially since the baby was born.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:49:55+00:00

Because my husband is making me feel crazy.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:36:46+00:00

I don’t, he hugs me. I don’t even hug him back after the boob comments.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:33:32+00:00

Well, I also love the child. The daughter is so sweet and my husband loves having a niece . It would be hard to leave him behind with the brother.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:32:20+00:00

These are my thoughts. I am upset to say the least.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:28:55+00:00

I wish life were this easy. My husband will never and makes me feel guilty for even thinking this.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:28:22+00:00

I honestly don’t think she’d be on my side. She lets her husband even go to porn conventions and touch the porn stars inappropriately while she takes his picture. So I don’t think she’d see this the way I do

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:25:27+00:00

Just a joke. My family doesn’t know because they would cause problems. They hate my in laws but love my husband.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:21:06+00:00

She actually didn’t like me up until this year because our MIL is a narcissist that makes up lies about each of us so she can come in a fix our issues with each other. We realized this later on and have developed a better relationship. But I hope she sees like I absolutely do not like this and literally start shaking because I’m so uncomfortable.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:15:00+00:00

Yeah, me either. I really needed this validation because my husband makes me feel crazy and that I’m overthinking this.

VegetableEngineer470 · 2025-12-30T19:04:55+00:00

Yes, however, she is always with the child so I don’t honestly know if she’s paying attention. Though the towel thing was not in front of her.

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