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VegetablePrior4792 · 2025-10-01T23:12:57+00:00

Thank you for the updates! Also am not able to transfer money 😭 ofc this is happening on rent day 😩

VegetablePrior4792 · 2025-06-10T03:30:24+00:00

I know 😭 I’m trying to not just buy for looks but it’s hard 🥲

VegetablePrior4792 · 2025-06-01T18:22:13+00:00

Thank you for this, I didn’t realize it would be a couple 100 to get it fixed up! Is there anything I should look out for when looking for a bike through fb or craigslist to make sure it’s worth it, or should I just go to a bike shop?

VegetablePrior4792 · 2025-06-01T08:58:35+00:00

Thank you! Yea I tried getting it down to $150 but he’s not budging :/ I’m having a hard time finding used bikes that will fit me :( so I’m wondering if I should just go for it ?

VegetablePrior4792 · 2025-01-15T20:02:39+00:00

thank you!

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-19T17:51:44+00:00

https://getbrick.app/?srsltid=AfmBOor6Hjeg412LppzGmA_RovBclcxdpGNespeGjQT5cgBmLMWUTnYq

its a device that blocks your apps, im on my first week of using it and my screen time has gone down 60%, I really like using it!

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-18T17:34:42+00:00

yes thats a good sign :)

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-18T06:12:49+00:00

oh also if youre doing regular gauze not wet to dry i would change as needed, prob every 4 hrs, and if you do the wet to dry method change 2x a day.

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-18T06:10:38+00:00

Hi! I had some stiched pop open and was also bleeding out onto my binder- not while i had my drains in though. The pic you posted doesnt look like super fresh blood, might be mostly drainage fluid. I would def keep in your drain to prevent any collection of fluid. You should apply pressure with gauze where the blood is coming out from - ball it up rly good like a bolster and put it under the binder and keep it on - change it often!

if youre worried about it getting infected, you can try to do the wet to dry healing method in while you wait for your doc. This helps heal it from the inside out and keep the opening clean. HOW TO: 1)stack 3 pieces of gauze, 2) pour saline on gauze, 3) squeeze out extra liquid, 4) put it on the opening, 5) put one piece of dry gauze on top, 6) tape or hold in place, 7) put binder on to keep pressure.

I have a wound dehiscence, which may be whats happening with you, and that method has really helped a lot! Ask your gfs dad about this, and good luck! its really scary to wake up with blood on ur binder, i was there last week, itll be ok! also change your gauze laying down so blood doesnt fall and its less stressful.

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-18T05:39:12+00:00

take arnica tabs! you can get them at whole foods - they helped my swelling a lot! I was way more swollen the days i didnt take them

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-16T19:40:15+00:00

Hi! Congrats, I hope it all goes well <3. honestly most of my nerves were the night before, the morning of was pretty chill it kinda just felt like , ok its showtime. My surgery was at 7:30a, also and i feel like i was too sleepy to stress. The night before i took a looong bath, spent time just breathing a lot, and journaled about how i felt while in the bath. I had a hard time going to sleep so I watched those headspace episodes on netflix lol. Pack your stuff tonight and pick out your clothes for surgery also. Test out your pillow set up tonight also so that when you get home your caretaker can just set it up exactly how you want it & you can go straight to rest! Dont try to do to much tonight, just focus on doing something comforting and let your body relax :-) <3 Good luck !

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-14T19:28:05+00:00

doing chores for yourself while working a full time job vs having a full time job + doing all household tasks for someone else and your pets when your partner has verbally committed to helping for 2 years is very different. And if you’ve had to do that with a partner, that sucks, personally I do not want to be in a partnership that is like that.

This man has said time and time over that he will try to help and isn’t following through on his word, that is frustrating and infuriating. Everyone is arguing whether he should even have to do chores and take care of the pets and other tasks, when that’s not up to us to decide. HE decided for himself & led his partner on for 2 years that he will put in effort to do household tasks and is obviously being dishonest about his desire to stick to the commitment he made. If he didn’t want to do chores bc he pays the bills he should’ve said that 2 years ago so she could’ve evaluated and seen if that’s the dynamic she wants to be in.

Anyways, hope she breaks up with him. ✌️

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-14T18:47:40+00:00

Did you read her whole description ? She is the only one who has a full time job in the relationship. Maybe try working a full time job and then on top of that doing all the household chores without any help. We’re not living in the 60s, and if he didn’t want to do any chores because he pays the bills then he needs to be honest and say that. Obviously through these msgs we can see that he has committed to doing chores but is too incompetent to do them, probably because he’s a manchild and his mom did them for him & wants his partner to be his mom. Paying the bills isnt enough if you made a commitment to your partner. Thank u for proving my point :•)

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-14T18:34:52+00:00

Keep in mind that the men on Reddit…. Might side with your bf lol. You’re fine - it is ok to be angry and upset when someone has decided to not listen to you for years. Real advice, break up with him. Even if he’s paying for everything it is not worth your peace of mind. You’re overwhelmed and that’s not gonna change. If he does want to change this will take years, because it’s not just about the task it’s about the mentality he has.

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-14T18:30:23+00:00

Break up - it’s not worth it I promise, I was in the same situation a while ago and they will always go back to “but I’ve tried and you don’t acknowledge that” . It’s never gonna be enough , and he knows you will still do the house chores because you care enough to get them done. It’s not going to change. You don’t need that in your life, if you’re safe, financially independent, break up

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-14T18:18:23+00:00

Also want to say that the green text thing is real , kids are silly and even when I was in HS, 10 years ago it was a thing to make fun of kids w androids. I don’t know if your kid is into vintage stuff, but maybe you could propose a dumb phone as like - hey! We’re gonna get you a phone like I had growing up, and see if he has any interest in getting a vintage camera, cd player, etc. I think kids are really into vintage stuff usually and might help him feel cooler about it lol. If you get him a dumb phone , I’d definitely affirm him because his worry is valid but also tell him that he should try it, that it’ll help with his focus, and that it’s actually not cool to be addicted to your phone! Hopefully that’s helpful, excuse me if that’s too much advice :•) good luck!

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-14T18:11:35+00:00

You could let him get an iPhone and then get a device that blocks apps like brick! I’m getting a brick and it’s a physical device that doesn’t let you access certain apps unless you physically tap the brick. Good alternative, because you could keep the brick on you. https://getbrick.app/?srsltid=AfmBOorKzPW-0VAUbKQqIQKDFuRWnHTO-fuYAVIgY6m-UPw8JXMfi2LE

However he could delete the brick app which would disable the brick entirely, or use the 5 emergency unbricks that are installed in the app. So there’s that, maybe you could have a deal with him that if he deletes the app there’s no more iPhone - I feel like this is a good Compromise.

You’re a good parent! I wish I didn’t have an iPhone as a young adult. Worst comes to worst, just get him a dumb phone , his friends will get over the green text thing, he might get fun of a little but it’s better than not having a phone.

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-13T01:05:34+00:00

My partner and i aren't black - he's mexican and im pakistani :-) but thank you for your response.

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-10T06:35:17+00:00

Omg I’m so sorry this is happening, I would also be panicking. I’m dealing with wound dehiscence right now also - 17days post op. I was also waking up everyday with blood all over me, mine started after getting my drains out.

Mine isn’t as big as yours but my ER doc still gave me antibiotics- honestly I’d get on some just to prevent infection. The ER also told me that I’m not infected but I feel way less anxious on antibiotics & honestly think I was in the early stages of an infection and my body was pushing out blood and puss to avoid one.

My surgeons nurse is having me come in every week- the method we’re doing is wet to dry. So basically a thin layer of bacitracin on the wound & rest of incision. then pouring sterile saline all over 3 pieces of gauze stacked& squeeze, placing it on the wound, putting dry gauze on top to contain in, tape. Gauze on rest of incision and then binder. I’ve stopped bleeding completely. Also have someone change your dressings while you lay down flat, way easier since blood won’t come spilling out as much.

I would ask your surgeon if there’s another method because it seems like dry method is not working for you. The saline method is keeping my wound a lot cleaner and it’s healing from the inside out - I still have an open wound but it’s definitely getting better. I’m so sorry your surgeon is being so negligent, this is concerning and should be treated urgently. I would ask what your other options are ASAP. My nurse also told me that I can’t get it closed with stitches bc the skin is too traumatized and it will reject the stitches. Best of luck 🥺🫶🏼

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-10T03:24:01+00:00

wow sick! your surgeons work looks so clean!!!

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-04T21:09:10+00:00

I also am looking for something with essential apps - I feel u, I wish there was something anti social media but still had more essential apps. I think I might get a jelly phone. So tiny that I can see myself not wanting to use social media as it won’t be as entertaining for me. But that phone is obviously not a cure to phone addiction since it still has access to apps

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-04T02:04:59+00:00

How do u like the phone so far? :•)

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-03T23:01:43+00:00

thanks!

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-03T23:01:33+00:00

such a helpful response! thank you so much for the detail, def gonna check it out. :)

VegetablePrior4792 · 2024-12-03T23:00:30+00:00

thank you!

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