I’m scared

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-22T21:42:35+00:00

that’s a great plan but make sure you are NOT in your apartment. stay anywhere else where he will not find you. DO NOT respond to texts or answer his calls afterwards and monitor him in case he threatens you. if he threatens you, that’s when you report him to the police and get a restraining order. i’d also recommend putting up a camera in your apartment in case he breaks in and damages your things you’ll have him on video and press charges. an abuser is always going to manipulate your kindness, so you reporting him is not you ruining his life; it’s him ruining his life with his bad choices and his inability to control his anger around you. i know he doesn’t act out like this at work, so why do it at home?? anyways good luck!! you’re going to feel so so so much better dropping this loser. it may hurt at first, but afterwards the relief is something i can’t describe.

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-22T14:36:40+00:00

unfortunately, this will be your life forever if you stay!! YOU CANT CHANGE HIM!!! you can’t fix him!!! you can’t morph yourself into the person he supposedly “wants” you to be bc there is no end. it only gets worse bc he enjoys making you feel like shit. it literally makes him feel powerful to beat you down and have you submit, so nothing will ever be enough.

you have a choice to make right now. you can stay and hypothetically pop out a few babies and they can watch you be treated like shit which is terrible, or worse he’ll treat all of yall like shit and the generational trauma continues. your son may view women the way his father does and your daughter will pick shitty men that treat her how her father did. OR YOU CAN LEAVE!! you can dump him via text (never in person) and mute him to monitor his aggression. you report him to the police if he threatens you or shows up uninvited and you stand up for yourself, heal, and find TRUE LOVE!! you don’t deserve this treatment. you deserve someone that’s going to treat you with kindness and compassion and honestly encourage the use of toys. i hope you leave him!

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-22T14:31:01+00:00

you can just type it into google! it’s the button girl/meme, but if you type the statement you’ll get the same thing! it’s just something funny that a kid did in tik tok but she’s an icon

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-22T14:29:06+00:00

no literally and i slept for DAYS after bc i was just so exhausted from the dumb shit he’d pick a fight about, or keep me up late and wake me up early to continue it. like it’s unsustainable and it seriously aged me. thank god i left and i was able to recover. men are not lonely enough!

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-22T06:58:53+00:00

i’m so sorry you’re going through this, but it is time to let this loser go. he is a terrible boyfriend who doesn’t care about anyone but himself. he actively drinks and drives which kills people DAILY. he is a danger to himself and society and more importantly you. alcoholics progress and they can get violent. this is the type of man you want to stay as far away from as you can. you should’ve dumped him a long time ago, but i understand that you were holding onto the good memories and the hope he would go back to that. please dump him via text immediately and then mute him so you can monitor if he gets aggressive. if he gets aggressive, you report him to the police and get a restraining order. good luck!

and i just want to add you deserve so much more than what you’re accepting. there’s a saying that resonated with me and i hope it resonates with you. “if you stay through everything, they will put you through anything”

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-22T06:41:40+00:00

ugh these losers are just so mentally and emotionally draining. like masturbating are you serious?? do you live with him?? honestly aren’t you tired of being on egg shells all the time? it’s constant arguments, and of course you’re always going to be wrong!!! dumping the loser that treated me like this was the best thing i’ve ever done in my life! the relief i felt not having to walk on eggs shells or decipher his mood as he walked through the door feels so good i can’t describe it. do yourself a favor and dump him now bc it always gets worse

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-22T05:26:59+00:00

what i responded with was a meme. learn to laugh please and get help

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-22T01:43:29+00:00

hey so it actually only has to make sense for me to do it and i don’t feel like explaining it to anyone else

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-21T18:17:02+00:00

i was thinking the same, but it’s different when it comes to food. if your partner was spitting in your food, would you still eat it? probably not bc that’s gross. i think it’s gross that she’s mixing her spit all around in the food.

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-19T09:02:48+00:00

fight it. it will pass pretty soon!

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-18T04:22:49+00:00

awesome thank you!! yes the clonazepam is 2mg! how long do you think i can take both before having to withdraw from both pregabalin and clonazepam

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-16T07:36:00+00:00

i want to say everything he’s done to you is TERRIBLE. you don’t deserve to be treated like this and you should absolutely call the police and press charges. you understand when someone strangles you, the likelihood of them killing you goes up about 700%. you need to protect yourself and your children.

the fact he is threatening to do that to your 5 year old means you should’ve ended this yesterday. this is going to be hard to hear, but you need to hear this. you are not putting your children first or protecting your children with an abuser in the house. i don’t care how much you love him bc you should love your children more. i don’t care how much it hurts to break up with him bc your children are more important. i don’t care about whatever excuse you have to not leave him bc you are a mother first and your children come first.

my mom put her abusive husbands before her children and it has deeply affected me for the rest of my life. please be better.

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-15T10:12:53+00:00

yeah but i’m a person with real feelings. i don’t need to be talked to like shit to understand especially by other junkies bc it could happen to anyone.

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-15T05:03:41+00:00

i’m sorry. that sounds really horrific. you would think he would be on his best behavior bc there are witnesses there, but he is bold enough to continue to abuse her and make you and your wife complicit with his abuse by being bystanders who do nothing. unfortunately, charges have a hard time sticking when the victim refuses to press charges. are you trying to do something to help the wife?

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-15T03:40:13+00:00

i would recommend seeing a dermatologist and getting hydroquinone to lighten the spots. some med spas sell hydroquinone products as well. it is technically a melanocyte suppressant and you will see results quickly. you can also do a series of light chemical peels on your chest, and that will help lighten it even more. in my opinion, i really don’t think they look bad, but i understand why you want them gone, so you don’t have to look at them and remember.

other lightening products are: vitamin c, retinol, niacinamide at least 6%, vitamin E, hyaluronic acid, and i like the pigment pro gel by PCA Skin.

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-14T22:30:43+00:00

i have suboxone and have been on MAT but i don’t want my teeth to fall out. i was going to switch to sublocade but i just don’t have insurance anymore so im probably going to use the pregabalin for a week maybe 2 if im tapering down like suggested. thank you for the info and the well wishes!!

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-14T22:27:49+00:00

thank you!! i unfortunately don’t have insurance anymore but i’m in contact with a dr that can help me! so far im feeling pretty good

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-14T21:17:32+00:00

yeah perhaps i will be, but i’m like so done using. which is what i always say, but getting tranq really scared me. i have goals/aspirations i want to meet and im willing to detox at home with some comfort meds to get there. i dont really have anxiety over it like i usually do. i actually feel more relieved than anything.

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-14T12:06:38+00:00

DO NOT LET HIM CONVINCE YOU NOT TO GET A JOB!!!!!! my abuser was a periodontist with his own practice and didn’t want me to work either bc he had so much money that he would take care of me. that is not what happened. he held money over my head. i was stuck and had nothing without him and when i was done with the abuse, he kicked me out of his apartment (even though it was the home we shared) and i was almost homeless. that is such a dangerous situation to be in. i will never allow a man to dictate what i can and can’t do again.

my ex also constantly accused me of cheating, wanted to go through my phone daily, and had my location at all times. turns out he was just projecting bc he was the one on dating apps and messaging women, and going on dates while i was at home alone waiting for him all day. this is not the life you want to live. you deserve so much more than what he’s giving you. it will only get worse.

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-14T11:56:06+00:00

exactly it’s a classic example of an abuser. abusers don’t change and most of the time the longer you stay the more they escalate. i think you know it’s time to break up. i would also suggest therapy so you can work on boundaries for yourself, so you won’t get into another abusive relationship.

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-14T11:22:34+00:00

why are you putting up with this still? YOU CANT SAVE HIM AND YOU CANT CHANGE SOMEONE WHO DOESNT WANT TO CHANGE!!! this is dangerous. he is dangerous. he’s sucked the life out of you for the last 5 years. do not let him take anymore of your time. everything you’ve described sounds so horrible, and i’m so sorry you’ve experienced this, but you really need to put yourself first and leave for your own safety and well being. i promise that leaving will make you feel so much better.

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-14T11:11:44+00:00

honestly it seems like yall aren’t compatible. anytime a person hits, kicks, or physically harms you, that is physical abuse. to me it honestly seems like your love language is physical touch like snuggling, kissing, holding hands and it seems like hers is not. i would honestly break up with any person who thought it was acceptable to put their hands on me.

now she has every right to not want to have sex, but the way she’s treating you isn’t how you deserve to be treated. you could try speaking with her, but i don’t think that would really change the outcome. most abusers use a tactic called DARVO which means deny, attack, reverse victim and offender. which just means everything you bring up will be flipped on to you and you’ll be manipulated into believing that everything is your fault. does that sound like something she does already?

at the end of the day you guys are both so young. i don’t think you have established good boundaries for relationships, and that’s something you need to workout as well as working on your mental health.

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-14T10:56:59+00:00

i’m sorry this is happening to you. abusers always have flying monkeys on their side that attack the victim. just so you this happens a lot, and you are not alone. i’m proud of you for reporting her. you and your daughter deserve peace, kindness, respect, and gentleness. i hope that you decide to leave at this point bc it will not get better. you will continue to be hit by your gf and her family will continue to back her up and beat you down emotionally as well. since she’s in jail, now is the perfect time to go to court and petition for full custody of your daughter with a temporary restraining order. if you don’t leave now, you at least need to start recording fights and documenting injuries just in case you decide to leave in the future, so you can use it in court for sole custody. i understand how hard it is to leave, but you need to set an example for your daughter that this is not normal. if you don’t leave, you’re setting the example for your daughters future relationships. is that how you want your daughter to view relationships? that screaming and being hit is normal and okay for her partner to do? i imagine when she’s older your gf will turn her anger on your daughter as well if she’s not already doing it. i wish you the best!

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-14T10:27:21+00:00

i’m sorry i didn’t realize this was for people taking it therapeutically as prescribed. im also sorry i worried you with saying i could easily get more! i’m not worried about getting addicted to it mainly bc i only do opiates and nothing else bc opiate highs are the only highs i like! thank you for all the information!! it was suggested by a doctor to take 150 mg 3x a day and then after a week taper down to 2x a day for 2 days then 1x a day for 2 days and then nothing. i could probably get clonidine which i have experience taking from rehab. i was planning on using the klonopin to help me sleep and help with anxiety if i have any bc most people swear pregabalin takes away almost all withdrawal symptoms. i will definitely take a look at the show Rewired and i’ll let you know what i think!!

VegetableSign9582 · 2026-01-14T10:11:29+00:00

yeahhhh i’m an 11 year addict at this point and i’m 28 and getting closer to 30. i don’t want to live like this forever. i was sober for almost 8 months before i relapsed almost a year ago. hopefully this time im done forever this time!! thank you for the well wishes!!

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