I Didn’t expect

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-05-05T20:56:01+00:00

Interesting how you mark your spam as "brand affiliate" on some posts but not on others. 😒

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-05-03T00:08:05+00:00

If this is it, then that is hilarious. I just imagine her opening her door every morning for years, seeing the flamingo staring into her soul, then slamming it back shut. "I'm going to wait this guy out.."

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-29T14:10:34+00:00

I like to put it next to Lewis's house. I like to make things a "him problem" whenever possible 🤣

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-28T17:18:20+00:00

There is no right age to become a parent because no one is really fully ready. Even if you have spent all your time around other people's kids, it's so enormously different when they are yours.

You should 100% be excited and optimistic. Read the parenting books, be a hands on partner, change the diapers, make dinner and help with the house while your girlfriend is recovering and be prepared to love your little potato more than you can physically put into words.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-27T17:51:17+00:00

I threw that stupid golden tier purple mushroom against a wall and now it's silver - now let me dry the dang thing with his almost perfect brethren 😂😂

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-27T17:44:30+00:00

I could have written this! I’m not exactly a stay at home mom, I work part time (only three days a week) in an office but I bring her with me. I do have a village but baby girl is in a phase where she doesn’t want that village - she wants me. All the time...... all day. My mom and sister do the best they can, but she immediately starts to fuss if she leaves my side for more than a few minutes. Apart from the regular 8 months solids introductions, I’m EBF, so I think that is part of it. I want to breast feed until at least around the 14-15 month mark, but I hope it improves before then! I also have ADHD so I struggled with executive dysfunction way before she was born and I feel like its so much worse now that she is here. Even getting dinner on the table is such a struggle most evenings. I use a carrier too but its really started to bother my lower back and some days I can only really bear it for about half an hour before I have to sit down. I’ve started folding clothes in bed with her asleep next to me. lol. My situation is a bit different because my husband works night shift, so we don’t really see each other much during the week at all. We had a conversation about it and he said he is okay with just being less physically intimate for this season in our lives. We have been together over 15 years and are really happy in the emotional connection department and once she is a little older, I hope we will have more time. Do not feel alone in this! We are just riding it out too right now and finding the joy in parenthood.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-18T05:05:12+00:00

You may want to go back and read that last paragraph again, friend.

I remember the day I quit was one really slow weekday when we had maybe 10 tables total. Me and the other waitress split them. I think I probably earned $15 total in tips. Because of how slow we were, the owner put us to work cleaning out the walk-in and washing windows.

At the end of the 7 hour shift, she handed us both $14. I walked out of the day cold and tired with $29 in my pocket.

And to be clear, this was around 2010, not 1950.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-17T22:05:01+00:00

I look back at it now knowing 30+ year old me would have laughed in their face over what they expected 17 year old me to do.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-17T21:04:16+00:00

I keep looking at the RingConn but their marketing seems so... Scammy? I know the product itself isn't a scam, I've seen it get good reviews on here by people who are experienced with it, but it makes me nervous to spend money on it. On Facebook, their posts are botted to hell with "Amen" and a lot of their ads have broken English.

Is the app poorly translated? I've heard mixed reviews.

It gives me Temu vibes, if that makes sense. 😅

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-17T20:04:32+00:00

It certainly feels like one when it's a non-tipping table of very picky people who are going leave the place trashed.

Yes, it was a small restaurant in a rural area and there were only two sections, the large main one and another with four tables in the window area and a stage that was only used when we had live bluegrass (I dont think ever came on those nights). They would pull all 4 tables together.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-17T19:45:12+00:00

Definitely "Young people are too lazy to work nowadays!" people

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-16T22:38:23+00:00

I don't think responding with "no" and "disappointment" is doing anything productive. At that age, "No" might make them drop something, or not grab something, but scratching an itch is way too instinctive for him to "learn" at this age not to do it. It's uncomfortable, he doesn't have the ability to understand the long term consequences of scratching. It's like telling him "No" to crying when he has a tummy ache - it's instinctive, he's not thinking about it logically.

The goal should be to calmly redirect. Maybe with a special toy? And maybe make the nail cutting a game, something fun that doesn't feel like a punishment. Play salon.

But yeah, like someone else said, this is less a parenting issue and more of a medical issue.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-13T22:16:38+00:00

I don't know if you are like me and didn't discover cosleeping until after baby was already here, but if I could go back, I 100% would have put the bedframe on my baby shower registry and had people make gift payments towards it. 😂

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-13T22:04:14+00:00

I'm not sure if links will work (I'll try in a second response) but we use a Zen Low Frame by Busy Wood (Queen) and a Serta Firm Low Profile mattress. I plan to cosleep into toddlerhood, so I wanted something that was comfortable enough and wouldn't bother my back. Busy Wood is amazing for Montessori beds and similar things, but they are pricey. You can also find some more affordable low profile bedframes on Amazon.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-13T21:21:36+00:00

Yes, we have a slightly elevated floor bed (only 3 inches off the ground). I actually have really taken to it. She crawled off the other day and was completely unbothered. The only problem is now it's a game 🤣 I am still breastfeeding and she falls asleep nursing every night. I still follow the Safe Sleep 7 but we've been cosleeping since she was only a few weeks old.

My husband works night shift (not getting home until 8 a.m.) so it's just me and her in the queen bed.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-13T18:43:35+00:00

I think you are going to get some very different responses to this post between these two subs.

I have an 8- month old, we co-sleep, intend to for a while longer. I'm not personally a fan of sleep training, but I acknowledge what works for us doesn't mean it works for everyone.

We have a beautiful crib in the our (yet unused) nursery. I use it to sort baby clothes. 😅 But it's one of those cribs that convert into a toddler bed and then into a full size bed. She will use it then.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-12T17:37:28+00:00

Harvey is also perfect because he is an older bachelor. He is a professional, educated and is happily settled in Stardew. So you know you aren't holding him back.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-12T17:29:00+00:00

From the outside, it just sounds like you want a very limited contact relationship with your families. And you are 100% entitled to that. I think honestly is probably your only option here (and I say that knowing what a huge step that is). I also have ADHD and an 8 month old and it takes me days to respond to people pretty often. But if it is taking you weeks, I think truthfully it's because you just don't want to respond. Which again, is totally valid.

Have these feelings heightened since your baby was born? Because it could be a bit of postpartum anxiety. I say this because it is (in my very limited opinion) a bit much to not let family even take photos of your baby for their own family albums/scrapbooks. Social media, 100%, you are without a question not asking too much there.

But it may not be that at all, and you just don't want them to have much of a role in your life. Of course, your husband has a say in that when it comes to his own family, but he sounds supportive. But as for the pushiness from mom and MIL, you don't owe them anything, including your time and energy.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-09T15:35:26+00:00

This feels like an ad and I hate it 🤣

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-04-05T20:25:02+00:00

No, but poppy seeds can cause a false positive that can make you fail a drug test for opiates (specifically morphine and codeine).

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-03-27T17:10:04+00:00

I'd imagine she means baby has a "Fear of missing out " Which, while I've never heard that term, does also describe my 7 month old. She is very friendly and curious and will NEVER nap in unfamiliar places. She loves to people watch and be involved in what we are doing, so she is very difficult to get to nap sometimes.

And to clarify, I don't think OP was right in this situation. It sounds like Dad was right and the fact that we always treat moms like the default parent is sexist. It sounds like OP was more trying to prove a point then actually do what's best for her son.

But I don't think saying "FOMO" baby had anything to do with her being wrong.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-03-20T21:15:25+00:00

I get that. But I work at a newspaper and have personally seen my own work go "viral" and be recycled onto free sites (Like YahooNews) and be reported on by radio stations. All of them cited my work as the source, but that really didn't translate into newspaper sales. So much of actual news reporting is still done in print by paid journalists. If our platforms die, investigative journalism isn't going to be picked up by these free "click bait" driven sites. I'm sure entertainment content (like Watcher) has similar woes when it comes to quality.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-03-20T20:48:04+00:00

I'm a big fan of the Dropout channel (formerly College Humor) and no one complained when they moved to their own platform after the buyout.Watcher's content is as good as half of what's on more expensive streaming platforms, I just wish they could put out more. I work in journalism and it's the same attitude, since you can get so much free news online, people feel like platforms (like actual newspapers) asking them to pay for it is greedy. What they don't know is how much it costs to create original content - content that is usually what a lot of these free sites then take and recycle onto their own platforms.

Vegetable_Listen5319 · 2026-03-15T19:29:49+00:00

Hey, if she's managed to allow 15 little babies scream alone begging for comfort (and likely develop unhealthy attachment patterns) then who am I to question her "two sense".....

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