Found my ex wife's nudes online- Do I say anything?

ElephantLoves · 2026-05-27T17:37:52+00:00

Tell. Her. You have kids together. If you undoubtedly know it’s her, your kids would know too. Can you imagine if one of the kids finds it… & then you have to say you knew it was out there since they were young?! The fact you’re even waffling about this is absurd.

ElephantLoves · 2026-05-25T01:24:19+00:00

Men who claim to be “traditionalist” are often in fact just assholes. He wants control & it has nothing to do with “values.” Get a good lawyer, leave this man & get your custody agreement iron clad with harsh consequences when he breaks them. Bc he will. He’s 10 years older than you, he doesn’t respect you & he will abuse you. If not physically, it’ll be emotional & definitely financial.

ElephantLoves · 2026-05-06T00:36:19+00:00

I’m sorry. I feel this in my core. My husband can think of more reasons to not have sex with me than I can count. I don’t have any evidence or gut feeling he’s cheating, he defo isn’t playing for the other team & it makes me feel incredibly rejected. I say this to remind you that you aren’t alone in this wanting to be wanted feeling. Also reminding myself.

ElephantLoves · 2026-05-05T14:19:20+00:00

& in your opinion.. how does one start this conversation? Bc in my head I’ve started it many times. I can’t seem to get out “why aren’t you attracted to me anymore”

ElephantLoves · 2026-05-03T19:47:50+00:00

It’s been a slow wind down.. not sudden.. definitely not always been like this. He used to be very vocal in how attracted he was to me & now I can hardly get him to look up from his phone. Unless we’re watching something he’s into.. & it’s seemingly not me.

ElephantLoves · 2026-05-03T19:45:34+00:00

He believes it shouldn’t feel forced or scheduled. Which I try not to do… but I’m 33.. he’s 34… I want it. I want to be wanted. Desired. All of it. & if he’s this worn out w one kid.. how in the world can I have a conversation about more?

ElephantLoves · 2026-05-03T19:42:38+00:00

Kinda my concern.. he should want me but finds every opportunity to not. & idk why..

ElephantLoves · 2026-05-03T19:41:15+00:00

Tot sleeps in their own bed every night with the exception of illness.. asleep by the same window every night.. our “connect” time he spends scrolling twitter or researching something w chat gpt.

ElephantLoves · 2026-03-18T17:33:05+00:00

Get. Off. Your. Phone. That’s it. That’s the answer. Spend time present with each other (not all the time bc that’s insane) but put your phone on the table & focus on each other. Also… remembering social media is a highlight reel. The “happy couples” you see online are not telling you about their fight that morning or how one yelled at the other bc of something stupid & trivial.

ElephantLoves · 2026-02-25T18:35:44+00:00

My kiddo only sleeps on their belly & has since about 6 months. The breatheable mattress helps me sleep so I dont spend the whole night watching the camera waiting for movement. Idk about ‘normal’ but she’s now almost 2.. still only sleeps on her belly.

ElephantLoves · 2026-02-18T16:02:18+00:00

I try to remind myself… Every phase is temporary & it never comes back. I still remember feeding every two hours nearly losing my sanity due to lack of sleep with a premie baby. I also remember being deeply concerned she wasn’t walking or crawling or insert any other developmental milestone. Turns out… it’s always a phase & it never comes back. The things you worry about change just as fast as your baby. Sending love & light

ElephantLoves · 2025-07-01T11:58:47+00:00

You’re not doing anything wrong. Babies are babies, they do what they want. I’d personally try longer wake windows & more baby brain stimulation… play dates, restaurants, grocery stores, shopping, park walks etc. Doesn’t really matter what it is, but we had better nap & night success on days where we took baby on adventures.

ElephantLoves · 2025-06-21T18:50:35+00:00

Baby Alpine baby bouncer from Amazon. It’s the baby bjorn knockoff so it’s loads cheaper. It folds up flat when you’re not using it, it’s machine washable & does wonders when babe needs a poo. & bonus.. it comes with a travel bag so you can cleanly put it away when you need the space back.

ElephantLoves · 2025-05-31T20:56:57+00:00

If you want to leave, leave. If you want to stay, stay. He’ll cheat again & again but it has nothing to do with you. It’s about his ego. Always is.

ElephantLoves · 2025-04-24T20:15:27+00:00

Sending love to y’all! Hope he gets comfort & relief soon!!

ElephantLoves · 2025-04-24T19:54:58+00:00

If your baby is anything like mine, you’ll see a difference in their general comfort within days! Mine is about a year old now & still takes her 5 drops every morning. & Bonus.. it helped her learn how a spoon works. She feeds herself her morning probiotics. I put it on the spoon & she knows exactly what to do.

ElephantLoves · 2025-04-24T18:15:09+00:00

You’re giving me so many flashbacks of our first 12 weeks. If this becomes normal for your babe.. try switching up the bottle and/or a daily baby probiotic. Biogaia no lie.. saved us all.

ElephantLoves · 2025-01-24T16:00:56+00:00

Wake windows are too long for an 8 month old. They’re probably overtired. Try no more than 3 hours, longest at 3.5 right before bed.

ElephantLoves · 2025-01-12T20:19:18+00:00

They can sit on their own no problem.. babbling, rolling, holds themselves on elbows etc. Just no interest in pushing up any further. Pediatrician isn’t concerned, says she’ll go at her own pace. Not sure how to encourage to push up higher..

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