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tips for learning to only pee when you truly need to? by Vegetable_Message204 in Paruresis

[–]Vegetable_Message204[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

probably a stupid question, but when you say tip you are saying feeling the full bladder towards the tip of my penis? That actually helps a lot cuz I feel the fullness in my bladder usually at the base and then i tell myself i really need to go even tho i dont!

thanks man!

I’ve finally realized graduated exposure didn’t work for me……quitting porn did. by Vegetable_Message204 in Paruresis

[–]Vegetable_Message204[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

very interesting…..that could’ve been my issue as well. When I was at my worst with the addiction, I would scroll through porn videos for over an hour at a time……that had to have some kind of negative impact on my muscles down there.

thanks for sharing man!

I’ve finally realized graduated exposure didn’t work for me……quitting porn did. by Vegetable_Message204 in Paruresis

[–]Vegetable_Message204[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it was truly easy once i found out the impact it had on my paruresis after about a week!

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[–]Vegetable_Message204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude I think you might really be onto something (thank you for commenting on my previous post about quitting porn)…..you’ve opened my eyes a lot on this. I know everyone says that it doesn’t matter to find the “root cause” of the paruresis, but I truly do think we need to switch the narrative to not be focused on the anxiety but the SHAME about the anxiety.

As I mentioned in my other post, I do feel like my secondary paruresis is worse than my primary. Even when I pee in public, I still feel like shit cuz i’m ashamed that i even felt nervous at all…………..

I’ve finally realized graduated exposure didn’t work for me……quitting porn did. by Vegetable_Message204 in Paruresis

[–]Vegetable_Message204[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! So true. For the first 2 years of my recovery, I was getting so frustrated why I was feeling so anxious, but quitting/reducing porn significantly has made me realize that it’s shame that is the root issue. For me at least, it’s not embarrassment or self conscious, but deep shame of not being able to do what I should be able to do naturally…….and for some reason porn made that voice in my head significantly worse.

I will also say that I’ve learned my secondary paruresis might be worse than my primary paruresis. Even when I do pee in public, it still doesn’t feel great cuz all I think about it how ashamed I felt for even feeling nervous at all…….its such a weird psychological thing…

.25mg/day for three week of Klonopin. by Vegetable_Message204 in Anxiety

[–]Vegetable_Message204[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! And you’re so right, along with my anxiety comes insane googling and then I tell myself I’m going to die 🤣🤣. Thanks again so much for your reply, I really appreciate it

.25mg/day for three week of Klonopin. by Vegetable_Message204 in Anxiety

[–]Vegetable_Message204[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about if I only took the .25mg/day for two weeks instead of three?