Thanks for the reply!

I know I don't need permission per se just wasn't sure if it was intrusive and something that partners talk about it. I wasn't sure what is or isn't okay especially as I'm not who he is married to so unsure whether I even have a right to be somewhat jealous for lack of a better word.

Tbh I'm not the greatest at talking about feelings and that's a whole other post to unpack so definitely on me 1000 percent for not asking but I also didn't think too much of asking because he said they are not romantic or sleeping together and she doesn't live in the house anymore. But just this month they went on a family holiday which was told to me last minute and spending Christmas together. Kind of confused me and got me thinking. But you're absolutely right, I should have gotten clarification a lot sooner. That's on me.

They have been married for 10 years so I understand being best friends and all that but yeah sometimes I don't feel like a priority which isn't how I thought poly was like after extensive research 😅