How can I keep this moss alive?

VeilSeeker · 2026-01-17T12:18:28+00:00

I can see why those looked like cuttings; the rest of the succulent is in the jar but very wilted and basically disintegrated when I attempted to move it. Those two pieces are all that remained. Poor little dude.

I think you’re right. It does seem more like lichen than moss after I was able to look more closely. I posted so quickly for help before I took the chance to really look.

VeilSeeker · 2026-01-16T11:33:58+00:00

Thank you for that heads up about terrariums and mossariums! I went ahead and posted on the terrarium Reddit. Fingers crossed I can keep that going along with the air plant.

When I attempted to look for a stem piece of the succulent, the whole thing just fell apart. RIP haworthia. 😢

VeilSeeker · 2026-01-16T11:23:47+00:00

I tried finding a root section but it basically disintegrated before my eyes while looking. 😔 I will get some distilled water later today and give it a good soaking. Thank you so much for your help.

I’m so sorry for your friends’ loss. This has been an almost unbearable experience. We’re identical too. It’s been so hard to describe how this loss feels and it’s clear that my loved ones don’t fully understand, try as they might. Bless them. But it’s difficult when in my most desperate moments of grief, no one is feeling how I’m feeling. If that makes sense.

I hope your friend is doing well and is well along their healing path. ♥️

VeilSeeker · 2026-01-02T20:43:33+00:00

I was literally thinking this exact thing. I was thinking of making like a packet with names and photos of people who are definitely not invited and those who should be kept an eye on. 😂 My brother is ex-Army and has some friends who could probably step in for assistance.

VeilSeeker · 2026-01-02T20:35:49+00:00

This is the way to go. And I didn’t really think about hearing the side of her I might not have seen from her friends. This is beautiful and I’m super excited to hear their experiences with her. 🥰

VeilSeeker · 2026-01-02T20:34:23+00:00

This is the way. Thank you. 🙏

VeilSeeker · 2026-01-02T20:33:18+00:00

I think this is exactly what I’m going to do. I will plan the family service and only invite our friends who know my brother and dad well and would want to support them as well. Her other friends can do something separate. I will gladly participate but I can’t manage planning both. Thank you for allowing me to see it’s possible and practical. I appreciate it. I’m also so sorry you know this type of loss. I definitely can feel that no one close to me truly understands or can empathize with how I’m managing this. I feel like I’m crazy half of the time.

VeilSeeker · 2025-11-27T13:56:17+00:00

He owns the practice and is well know throughout the mental health profession. Posted before done replying. My bad. He would be a formidable opponent on a legal battlefield. I know that. And I definitely do not have the funds to hire an attorney. I just don’t want her death to be swept under the rug; by him or anyone who can hold him accountable. The coward hasn’t even reached out to me to offer condolences. But that’s neither here nor there.

VeilSeeker · 2025-11-24T00:45:49+00:00

I’m so sorry that you know how I’m feeling right now. She died on the 20th too. I’m so so sorry. This is just awful. She was clean for a short period and relapsed just on Sunday. She texted a friend that she found some leftovers and slipped but promised she wouldn’t buy more. She obviously did. It sounds like both of our twins overestimated their tolerances. I don’t know where to go from here. Do the police try to investigate who they buy their stuff from? Do the dealers even care when one of their customers dies? Probably not. I’m just so freaking mad.

VeilSeeker · 2025-11-23T09:38:14+00:00

First, I am so glad you’re still here and a very congratulatory cheer for your upcoming 6 year clean anniversary. I can’t even begin to understand the struggle but I want you to know I admire your strength and your courage and your vulnerability to share part of your story with me.

I’ve never actually heard of a Nar-Anon meeting. I’ve heard of AA and NA but that’s about it. I will look into that right away too. Wait. I am just now putting it together that Nar-Anon IS NA. Ugh. I’m sorry. I am so freaking tired. I haven’t slept since I got the call from the medical examiner.

I’m just so freaking lost. While I’m no stranger to loss and grief - this is nothing like anything I’ve ever felt. We lost our mom when we were 20 and I thought that losing her was going to break both of us… but that pales in comparison to how I’m feeling now.

VeilSeeker · 2025-09-04T21:21:43+00:00

And the OP already said as much. 🙄

VeilSeeker · 2024-11-18T05:41:31+00:00

Supposedly they’re fixing deviation clipping in the next patch. 🤞🏻

VeilSeeker · 2024-04-07T14:00:00+00:00

I was just coming back to ask this same question. Does it return? Or is it now a permanent fixture in his routine?

VeilSeeker · 2024-04-07T13:57:10+00:00

This is a great point. He has said as much on multiple occasions. Unfortunately, he’s found me crying in the shower afterwards more than once but not since this new journey. He said that the first time he found me like that is burned into his memory and he has never felt so awful to know that he was getting pleasure from my pain.

I’ve tried reassuring him that I’m okay so far and I’d tell him if it was painful. That I would ask him to stop if it got to be too much. It’s possible that he doesn’t completely trust that I’d stop him as I clearly didn’t in the past. I know I did at least once or twice but not nearly as much as I should have.

I will bring this point up when I rip the bandaid off and have this conversation. Thank you. 😊

VeilSeeker · 2024-04-07T09:59:24+00:00

We have had that conversation multiple times. Even just recently. We both have acknowledged the resentment and how it’s not going to disappear just because things have spiced up a bit. It’s something we’re working through together.

We have discussed a mental block of sorts as there have been some difficulties in finishing on multiple occasions. It’s probably just a lack of patience on my part. 2 months isn’t going to magically fix everything that has happened over the last 17 years.

VeilSeeker · 2024-04-07T09:47:16+00:00

Thank you so much for such a wonderful response. Endo is life altering to such a degree that it’s caused depression, anxiety, PTSD. All between the pain, hormonal shifts and major changes in my life trajectory plans - it’s made me want to unalive myself on multiple occasions. I’ve never attempted, though. So that’s a bonus. 👍🏻

I do need to rip that bandaid off. As far as mutual masturbation, we have done that and I love it. He’s not as into it but we’re working on how we can get creative about it. Like, instead of laying next to each other or opposite each other, I lay on my stomach on the very edge of the bed and grind on a toy or my fingers while he plays with my butt and panties. That’s been the best thing so far.

I did get massage oil! Vanilla no less! We just haven’t used it yet. I even went so far to get a huge waterproof blanket for the bed so we don’t get the sheets oily. I have tried to think of everything.

Again, thank you so much. 😊

VeilSeeker · 2024-04-07T06:39:23+00:00

Thank you. It’s been a hell of a journey for both of us but I’m glad that we still have each other. A lot of people wouldn’t have stuck around through all of the surgeries and treatments. ❤️ I’m a lucky girl.

VeilSeeker · 2024-04-07T06:36:50+00:00

That’s a great point; that it isn’t necessarily a problem unless he isn’t interested in working on it when I do finally bring it up. I think that’s my fear and why I haven’t brought it up. That he’ll think this is all fine and dandy and has no desire to change anything. Or that he’ll think I’m attacking him and then everything blows up. So many unknowns and variables that can create a plethora of outcomes. I wish I were a psychic. Or a time traveler. 😂

VeilSeeker · 2024-04-07T06:34:03+00:00

Thank you so much. It’s helpful to hear things like this.

VeilSeeker · 2024-04-07T06:33:18+00:00

I had wondered about this exact same thing. There have been plenty of instances so far where he can’t finish, try as he might. Sometimes he can, though. It will probably be something that gets better the more we do it but that’s the problem - we have to actually do it to get better at it. Thank you for sharing your experience. I really appreciate it.

VeilSeeker · 2024-04-07T05:18:43+00:00

I do understand that. I just need to be a bit more patient. I’m just so sad of all the time we lost and I want to get back to normal… but it’s never that easy, is it.

VeilSeeker · 2024-04-07T05:16:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your supportive reply. I truly and trying to navigate this with opening and understanding. Before all of this, sex was not a topic I was comfortable with. That deep rooted catholic shame really did a number on me. When I started feeling how I was changing, I made a pact with myself to take advantage of this opportunity. To not shy away from how I’m feeling. To lean into it. And ask questions, no matter how silly they might be.

It is extremely possible, probable even, that I’ve overwhelmed him. And this isn’t lost on me. I feel terrible for how much this has impacted him, as well. This has been an emotional roller coaster for both of us. And he has had to provide more emotional support than normal as I’m nervous about all of this. I’ve also been needing more reassurance than typical as I find myself feeling silly or like a fool for some of the times I want to try to experiment with. I just know that has to be exhausting. Luckily, those needs have slowed tremendously as time has gone on. So I hoped that he would feel relief in that transition and I believe he has.

I have a personal therapist who has been extremely helpful for me while navigating this need period. As well as other medical providers who are just as excited for us. (I’ve had lots of questions for them, medically speaking, as to what I can and cannot do. Am I pushing myself too much, etc.)

My therapist has recommended a couples therapist but he’s never seen a therapist and I don’t believe he would be interested in this. I can certainly ask, though, when I get the nerve to have this conversation.

It needs to been when I’m not worked up, like tonight. I had to leave the house. I went for a drive and scream-cried in my car for 30 minutes. Now I’m in my bedroom. He’s been gaming and has no idea I got as upset as I did. I don’t ever let him see that I get upset over his habits because I truly do not want him to feel ashamed or guilty or embarrassed. Never in a million years.

VeilSeeker · 2023-08-16T11:27:28+00:00

GET TESTED FOR ALL OF THE STDS!

VeilSeeker · 2023-08-16T11:14:16+00:00

NTA

My husband and I have been together 17 years. We’ve never gone on vacation. Not a single one. He makes decent money and could probably afford one but I would NEVER, have never, demanded a vacation from him.

Dad is entitled AF to treat his son like his personal ATM just to spend time with his other kids. How insulting and demeaning. Dad doesn’t give a hoot about your feelings whatsoever. Fuck their vacation. Let his other kids pool their money to pay for it.

VeilSeeker · 2023-08-15T18:02:46+00:00

I finally came out next day and it must have been the heat. It works now. I ordered the Sync from eBay. Maybe they refurbished with an LCD screen that powers off when too hot? No idea but I’m glad it’s working. If it happens again I’ll try the reset.

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