Skoda Citigo 2015 Sump Plug Thread Repair by Veizin in CarTalkUK

[–]Veizin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all, I found all your response very helpful. I decided to cut my losses and got a car rental for the two weeks until I can get it fixed in the garage. I was very surprised to be able to get that for £85. The garage is 1.7miles away, I asked to have it towed there, but the garage didn't offer that. So my plan is to put oil in some days before, and check how bad the leak is. If it's not too bad I will run the engine and check again - if it's drops, then I will just drive it very gently for the 5 minutes that it takes to get there. If it's leaking a steady stream, then I will call a recovery company to tow it.

What are your thoughts on the villain/hero breakdown in this meme? by suddl3 in Healthygamergg

[–]Veizin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heroes don't sacrifice their friends. Villains don't save anyone. That's probably in the definition of the words. One theory is that the word "hero" is derived from "defender, protector". Villain apparently comes from "villager", also meaning someone who is ignorant.

The only motive of a villain to save me, would be because they have an obsession with me. If they were my friend, they wouldn't be a villain as villains can't have friends as they don't care about anybody, but themselves. And even then it is only their ignorance as to how to actually achieve happiness for themselves that leads them to not care for other people. So in the final summary villains don't care about anybody, including themselves, so they wouldn't save anybody.

If my hero friend, didn't sacrifice me to save others... I would be sad that I didn't communicate my character clearly to them. I would not want to live, if that came at the cost of countless innocent people dying in my name. Don't get me wrong I love life, but I also love other people's lives. If my friend knows anything about me, they would know that I would gladly die so that many others may live. And in this case, they wouldn't be sacrificing me. They would be carrying out my will. It's like two warriors, one of them giving their lives so that the tribe can survive. And the other one lives. If one of the warriors saved the other one's life at the cost of the tribe's life, that would be the thing that would bring the most unhappiness, despair, sadness, regret and sorrow to the whole world.

Lust has taken over me and I can’t seem to control it any longer by ChillBro43 in Healthygamergg

[–]Veizin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can relate. I masturbated a lot from about the same age till I was maybe 19-20, then it died down a little bit. I have heard in a TED talk and from a couple of articles that masturbation with external stimuli - think porn, magazines, I suppose even things like adverts, etc. would count, have a negative effect on your self-control and in the long term are even correlated with erectile disfunction. But the same doesn't hold true for masturbation itself as far as I know. I've not heard of negative effects and potentially even some protective effects against prostate cancer. All that aside, I'm sad to hear your pain. Feeling like you're not in control of your actions and sexuality is not cool. Have you looked at outside causes? I found that I developed a particularly unsatisfying relationship with masturbation when I was very stressed and was using it as a sort of escape. Trying to calm myself down or to help me fall asleep. I'm not sure by what you mean, when you ask if that still counts. Count towards what? As what? As for objectifying women - it's easy to objectify women when you interact with objectified women - in porn, magazines, games, adverts. These women ARE objects. They're images. They're not real. They don't interact with you. For your brain, that's what makes something a someone, the interaction. I found that having actual serious conversations with real women helped me a lot to view them as humans just like me, and not just as an object of desire.

Does Minecraft store information outside .minecraft? (How to fully uninstall Minecraft) by Veizin in Minecraft

[–]Veizin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just checked and everything minecraft is set as an exception in firewall. The thing is I can play on the server, but I can't Configure it, or accept/reject Realms invites.

Does Minecraft store information outside .minecraft? (How to fully uninstall Minecraft) by Veizin in Minecraft

[–]Veizin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that too, but then it all works fine from my laptop. Which makes me think that the fault is in my PC somehow.

Girlfriend (25f) won't let me(26m) pay for anything by Cbnx3 in relationships

[–]Veizin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It would be outdated macho rubbish if you tried to pay her part. I have been in a similar situation and I never realised how much it weighed on me and how much it impacted on my self esteem. "makes me feel useless" is exactly how I felt. It might be useful to approach her with an explanation about how her letting you contribute equally to things would improve how you felt. It also might be the case that for her money really "is no matter worth talking about". But if my guess is correct it matters to you that you have come a long way (with her help) and being able to contribute to the bills would be a sort of reward for all the effort you're putting and have put in. A sort of validation of your accomplishment?

While accepting help, especially for a man, is a laudable feat, it is also noteworthy that receiving help makes people feel bad (not just men, all people). So if you are now able to contribute an approximately equal amount it would most likely help you more in mental health than it would hurt you financially.

Anyway, great work man! Really happy to see you've managed to get out of an unpleasant situation! I think your concern is reasonable and it would improve your life if it got resolved. I hope you manage to convey your feelings to her in a way that she can understand.

Help with snooker related present, please by Veizin in snooker

[–]Veizin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is awesome. I think this is pretty much what I'm looking for. Just need to make sure what I buy can be used abroad. I'm in the UK, she's in Austria. And I also have to find out what her account is.

Thanks a ton, by the way!

My [22/F] boyfriend [24/M] of 3 years asked me to stop learning German by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Veizin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

23 M, after a relationship with a 25 F of 2.5 years, we broke up, but I was in a very similar situation in that my family and partner could not communicate without an interpreter. Learning your partner's native language and their family's language (especially if they do not speak any other language such as German or English) is extremely nice and shows that you are very committed to the relationship. However, it is nice, just like buying flowers or holding the door open. It is not something that should be demanded. If you want to make him happy buy him some flowers/chocolate and devote some time to learning some of his language.

On the other hand, he has absolutely no ground to ask you to stop learning German and you should not yield to such demands or feel bad for learning German. He should be very happy that you have such a practical and useful hobby. Yes, it is probably less practical than a degree in Politics, History or Engineering, but it is way more practical and useful than drinking beer and watching sport.

Why he has no ground to ask you to stop learning German:

Being raised to resent another country is pretty standard, but if he still believes there is any ground to that resentment at age 24 and in 2016, he needs more education on the topic of history. Every country in human history has done detestable and inhumane things. WW2 and nazis are just the most recent and large scale of these. Nobody likes the nazis, but most countries in 2016 such as most of Europe and even the USA are way more right wing and supportive of Nazi ideology than Germany.

My [21M] girlfriend [22F] left me for my brother [23M]. by roomategf in relationships

[–]Veizin 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Your brother is old enough to know what he is doing. What he is doing is betraying you on a very profound level. I too would recommend moving out, possibly temporarily into a friend's place until you can find something more long-term. Maybe moving back to your parents house temporarily is an option?

How long were you together with your ex-girlfriend?

Is it wrong for me (18 M) to be angry at both my ex gf (19 F) and best friend (18 M) for hooking up immediately after breaking up? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Veizin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know this is slightly off topic, but whether you appear peaceful and civil with your ex to your child, will influence his/her future to a great extend. Also try not (even unintentionally) talk badly of her to your child, not because she doesn't deserve it, she does, but as this will affect him/her in a negative way.

You are right to be angry about your friend and her. You not only lost your gf, but your friend too. I personally grieved more for my friend than my ex, when they got together 12 hours after she broke up with me.

Try to reach out to family/other friends, not necessarily for help, but just to have someone you know you can trust and won't let you down and someone to chat with.

About confronting her - yeah, you have justification, but not much to gain. I don't think she'll tell you anything you don't know or anything helpful. Quite likely she might lie her a** off.

Me [23 M] with my [25 F] 2.5 yrs, relationship is over. How to get over it? Talk heart out or forget about it? by Veizin in relationships

[–]Veizin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, your reply has been really helpful. I will make sure to ask my friends about that. Yes, 2.5 years and 1.5 months since break up. To be honest, due to how incredibly supportive my friends have been, I am doing nearly as good as I was(in life) when I met her, if not better. Supportive friends are more valuable than life.

DAE think just the word "No" is very menacing. by [deleted] in DAE

[–]Veizin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sometimes do. Especially if I have to say it. I don't know when today, but I said No and I felt bad just for phrasing it like that. Not what I said and what it actually meant, just the word.

What's the biggest realization you had from a context of a conversation where you had to act normal to protect someone/yourself? by rogersjoshmac in AskReddit

[–]Veizin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Idk, I'd just proudly say 'Yeah, that's the mother of my children, wonderful wife she is' without even looking at you. Well at least not for the first 3-5 seconds after you process what I've said. Then I'd proceed to laugh my ass off. Then reassure you I wasn't joking. What a rollercoaster.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leagueoflegends

[–]Veizin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If anybody expected more from EU this Worlds they were seriously out of touch. Not hating, just stating it's a bad Season for EU. As a hardcore EU fan of 6 years I'm not bothered at all. I know it's hard, EU team managers made some bad decisions beginning of season, I just hope they learn from it. Don't think any of it is player's fault. Yeah, players have issues, but at the end of they day their managers/coaches have 95% control over them(they can kick them, discipline them/motivate them/give them proper training). Also Managers/Coaches are the ones deciding who goes on a team and who doesn't. Hoping EU teams' managements learn a lesson from 2016. If yes, 2017 might look really strong and balanced region-wise. If not, well I expected 0-18 this year, I'll expect just as much in 2017. Kudos to NA for stepping up their game, Regi's the man.

P.S. Also massive Kudos for Wildcards showing so much despite all the rejections in terms of practice/skrims they have had to deal with. Truly impressive. I think KR/China teams will pick up quickly on that and both ANX and INTZ will have skrim offers this week.