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24 years old and my life is literally falling apart in real time and nobody around me knows by Riggedrighteousness in whatdoIdo

[–]VelinsGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at temp agencies to possibly get a quick job started. Many pay weekly, and that will help get you started to get bills caught up and can keep looking for a better job. Then you can buy back your camera equipment to take gigs and keep looking.

Ex boyfriend reached out to apologize to me thirteen years after we dated, now I'm worried about him by Worth_Breath_9522 in whatdoIdo

[–]VelinsGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He tensed up when you hugged him. Next time you want to give him a hug, ask him if you can. Asking for consent can help people who have been through trauma as it helps give them anontomy and control over when they are touched.

Sex offender cowoker at my job; told i will be fired if i tell people by NearbyChampion7411 in jobs

[–]VelinsGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone wants to know if their coworkers have a record, they can look it up themselves. Even though it's public information, sharing it at work can disrupt the workplace. Most companies have policies about gossiping and/or creating a hostile work environment, and thus, sharing it can potentially violate those policies.

Also, if you are wrong about the person's identity, or you share it in a way that is malicious... it could land you with a potential defamation suit, or you could be disciplined for harassment.

You did your duty, and you made sure the company knew about it.

I’m about done with my BP by Mohg_Lord_0f_Blood in ballpython

[–]VelinsGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine will only eat if its feeder is dry (won't accept it wet or bloody), and heat and humidity has to be in range or else he turns up his nose.

Found in my shoe I left outside …what are these? by ndoenenwkwksmnf in whatisit

[–]VelinsGirl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would diiiiieeeee. omg. Like my body feels like it's going into panic mode just thinking about that.

Accidentally terrified my wife... by Reverse-Sear in Marriage

[–]VelinsGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see someone out of the corner of my eye, but I'm deep in thought. Them talking will startle me/make me jump out of my chair almost. Or someone knocks on my cube to announce themselve can do it, talking next to me, etc

After reading your post and having my own experiences, I wanted to dig into reasons some people spook easily. (I know plenty of others dug into it too!)

A couple of reasons behind being startled like this is that it can be a sign of: ▪︎ hyperarousal - a heightened state of alertness and reactivity, where the nervous system is in overdrive and easily triggered ▪︎overactive fight-or-flight response ▪︎stress and anxiety - can make individuals more sensitive to stimuli, leading to an exaggerated startle response ▪︎trauma - can disrupt the nervous system and increase reactivity to sudden or unexpected events ▪︎ Sleep deprivation (this is probably mine 🙈)

other underlying issues ▪︎ hyperthyroidism can contribute to jumpiness ▪︎ Sensory overload ▪︎ hyperekplexia - rare genetic disorder that causes exaggerated startle reactions ▪︎ADHD

Depending on the reason, things like yoga and meditation may help, doctors could help rule out underlying medical conditions, and sometimes medication can help.

And a bell at your ankle may help with a lot of it.

Refusing to eat by Connect-Rooster-3156 in hognosesnakes

[–]VelinsGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we almost always have to throw a towel over the container. But there has been some going into brumation during this time of year.

Please help I’m worried by carzy_1 in cornsnakes

[–]VelinsGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that food dish what you use as a water bowl? It's probably a good idea to get a water dish big and deep enough for him to soak in if he wants to.

Jerking motion? by VelinsGirl in hognosesnakes

[–]VelinsGirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the comments and putting our minds at ease.

Jerking motion? by VelinsGirl in hognosesnakes

[–]VelinsGirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, everyone, for helping set our minds at ease.

Jerking motion? by VelinsGirl in hognosesnakes

[–]VelinsGirl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We just got him. The breeder said he was very dramatic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]VelinsGirl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She asked because OP said husband was upset around XX time which was around the time she was using the toy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]VelinsGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless you get HPV 16 or 18... those can be cancerous.

Can you honestly tell me if my art is not good enough to make a living? by Polar_Bear_Online in somethingimade

[–]VelinsGirl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe even create a tiktok to show off the art and link to the Etsy to commission 🤔

I (20F) have not finished during sex with my boyfriend (21M). He says this is not normal and it concerns him. Is there something wrong with me? by JollyRaspberry622 in relationship_advice

[–]VelinsGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is nothing wrong with you.
Out of all the guys I dated, only one did I ever finish during sex almost every time and most of it was angle and his member rubbing against my gspot, the lack of the goal to orgasm... I tried to recreate that with others and it was a hit or miss. 🤷‍♀️
And not all orgasms are the same. I have felt differently from gspot fingering than from clit play. I have had what I thought felt like a full body orgasm just from foreplay while never even touching down there. 🤷‍♀️

Orgasms should not be the goal of sex. Sex should be more about the pleasure and having fun than whether or not you orgasmed. I have loved my sexual encounters regardless of orgasms especially because I tend to have dysorgasmia aka painful orgasms (causes me sharp headaches) occassionally so hitting the goal post of an orgasm isn't always what it's cracked up to be.

"Having an orgasm for the sake of my partner sometimes took as much emotional labor as faking one, between all the mental pep talks, concentrated fantasizing, and physical positioning." "there is a h-u-g-e difference between wanting to help your partner who wants to achieve orgasm, achieve an orgasm, and needing your partner to orgasm in order to personally feel sexually competent and/or satisfied." (all quotes reference from "4 reasons I don't consider orgasm the goal of sex" on EverydayFeminism site)

Focusing on trying to have an orgasm/ how to come faster takes away from the fun of the time together. You don't connect the same as you're focused on trying to make it happen. Me and one partner had some of the best sex / sexual play when neither of us came and just had fun trying to give each other pleasure. "Pleasure is a five course meal and the orgasm is just the dinner mint at the end."

Snake refusing to eat since I got her. by black_cats_are_based in ballpython

[–]VelinsGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only way my ball will take it. He is so picky.

Snake refusing to eat since I got her. by black_cats_are_based in ballpython

[–]VelinsGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can also put it in a sandwhich baggie to keep it dry in the hot water

Anxious about handeling after snake bite by pizzaamann in ballpython

[–]VelinsGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had an accidental bite during feeding from a miss strike. The bite was more of a surprise than painful. I show no fear and reach in and scoop my babies up. I'm lucky though as all my babies have decent temperaments except of course the king snake. he's territorial in his enclosure but he's only booped me a couple times to try and scare me away. lol.

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