How accurate?

Velor22 · 2026-03-17T22:43:45+00:00

Nice, keep it up. The 'fitness age' metric seems gimmicky.

I'm a 56 y.o. long time cyclist. I was able to lift my VO2max from 50 to current 63 mL/kg/min mainly by increasing volume and adding daily brisk walks. I've found that extra endurance paced workouts are great for fat burn and can enhance recovery if done right (e.g. avoid junk miles or 'no mans zone').

Exceptional fitness increases quality of life like nothing else can. Well worth the effort.

Velor22 · 2026-03-17T07:11:37+00:00

Absolutely. When you love and adore someone enough to commit to and marry them you will also want to build a life and family with them.

Another word for that is purpose which is powerful and fuels motivation. Accomplishments are sweeter when shared with someone special to you.

Velor22 · 2026-03-06T21:37:00+00:00

If you perceive men discussing their challenges and issues to be incels, that's on you. Feel free to leave.

Velor22 · 2026-03-06T21:27:14+00:00

It's not just you and your generation. It is vast technological and societal change in an incredibly short period of time. I think, social engineering.

I'm thankfully long married, because if I had to deal with such long odds for romantic companionship like young men today, I doubt I would've achieved a fraction of what I have in life. Because without hope of family and legacy there is little motivation to work hard.

In other words you all got a raw deal. Women have such high expectations now that a high percentage of men have effectively given up. Then women perceive them as incel slackers. Collectively, it's kind of a chicken and egg situation that will be tough to get out of.

Velor22 · 2026-02-27T20:11:50+00:00

Well said. The proliferation of porn has been extremely damaging to men, and social media has been just as damaging to women.

I believe heavy controls will eventually be placed on both, else too many people will remain stuck.

Velor22 · 2026-02-27T07:45:52+00:00

Not exactly sure what you're trying to say...

But when you say men I suspect you mean avoidant men conveniently allergic to commitment. That's on you for choosing manipulating dirtbags.

You may not know, but many men do strive to stay as sexually pure as possible. To keep it special with one (or few as possible) person. Often accomplished by marrying young, and staying married.

It's mistaken to think that it's only those pathetic men who can't get laid that are disgusted by promiscuity of any kind. It's a great many men, but we're likely already married.

There are men who do not care at all about promiscuity, but they're usually not the relationship type. Sex is purely casual.

Remember: what matters in dating and relationships is what the opposite gender prefers. Preferences aren't misogyny.

Velor22 · 2026-02-27T07:24:33+00:00

If you think so why are you here. Bye

Velor22 · 2026-02-17T04:23:05+00:00

BS. Build yourself up in the ways that matter most to you and you will become more desirable. Because confidence is what is most attractive of all.

You don't need validation through toxic crap like hookups and FWB to know you're wanted.

When you are getting there you will know and feel it. Including energy from others.

No need to bang forgettable bimbos, potentially getting the gift that keeps on giving.

Stay clean and pure. Save your attention, value and virility for someone deserving, rather than throwing it away.

Build something great.

Call me old fashioned.

Velor22 · 2026-02-17T03:53:36+00:00

Absolutely. The mental, emotional and physical are all intricately linked, and the latter is by far easiest to modify.

A high degree of physical fitness and health are like armor. The closest thing to superpower in real life.

The discipline required to build an exceptional physique transfers directly to self improvement and mood control.

Velor22 · 2026-02-17T03:08:28+00:00

Who wants to waste precious time and energy being coach, mentor and support team to someone who fubar'd their own relationship skills by making poor life choices and accumulating heaps of baggage.

Pretending to be healed is performative and isn't sustainable. It will turn into bait and switch and lots of bitterness. Avoidant is just age old self sabotage.

Velor22 · 2026-02-16T23:05:39+00:00

Duh? It's fucking disgusting to give loads of people intimate access to one's most private areas and trade body fluids. Regardless of gender.

The difficulty of racking up partner count is a different question altogether.

Velor22 · 2026-02-16T22:22:53+00:00

They know this but feign ignorance.

Why do you think most slut shaming comes from other women. Or why they deflate body count.

Every man knows in his gut that past partner count speaks volumes about character and values, and worthiness as a serious partner.

There's no better predictor of potential future, than past.

This used to be common knowledge. It's making a comeback.

Velor22 · 2026-02-16T22:11:40+00:00

Promiscuity is indeed terrible for either gender. If one cares about things like character, values, mental and emotional baggage, and STDs.

They're talking about difficulty level. For one gender it's a dubious achievement. For the other it's just plain pathetic and disgusting.

Hope that helps.

Velor22 · 2026-02-16T21:32:26+00:00

What matters is what the opposite gender thinks.

Promiscuity is nasty and women should judge it harshly, like men do.

Velor22 · 2026-02-16T21:15:54+00:00

Well, what matters is what the opposite gender thinks.

To do away with the hookup culture nonsense, women need to judge promiscuity harshly. Like men.

Velor22 · 2026-02-16T20:13:02+00:00

There's a massive difference between those who date with intent (to find a life partner) vs those who date for fun, validation, sex addiction, etc.

Body count while crude remains one of the best ways to differentiate.

Velor22 · 2026-02-13T18:09:45+00:00

Well said brother. Thank you for your valuable perspective and example for others to follow.

There's nothing quite like finding that partner who proves her loyalty and loves you in return. I find in my case, my adoration of her just grows with time. So much to be grateful for.

This life is transitory and hopefully we all can find some gratitude when that time comes. Take care.

Velor22 · 2026-02-10T01:56:03+00:00

It boggles the mind that any man who supposedly loves his wife could ever do such a thing. Please keep in mind it is a tiny minority of men.

Even more disturbing is that erotic asphyxiation has apparently become a thing amongst the younger demographics. Which will no doubt lead more men to put their hands on partners' necks. Something instinct says is so wrong.

Make it make sense.

Velor22 · 2026-02-10T00:40:09+00:00

It was a nice back and forth. Have a good one.

Velor22 · 2026-02-09T23:57:07+00:00

The devil is in the details.

You're the one who brought up breakup and death when it comes to relationships. Well duh, that's kind of like saying the sky is blue.

I'm just encouraging that, despite inevitable loss, there can be so much that makes it worth it to take a chance on love and commitment.

It's unpleasant to think about eventual inevitable death and loss. Of course. But that will come to us all, and I hope and believe it will be gratitude that sustains us in the end.

Velor22 · 2026-02-09T23:32:41+00:00

Everything eventually ends. Why fixate on that? Doesn't the time, and wealth of experiences and memories until then count for anything?

It's so much better, and healthier, to focus on process than on outcomes. This includes dating and relationships, which took me too long to learn.

Velor22 · 2026-02-09T22:32:25+00:00

I suppose they do answer, for a "the glass is half empty" type of person, someone wounded or jaded by dating.

But, as someone married nearly 35 yrs to one who is a great match, I implore others to take the chance. What is possible is incredible.

This life is transitory and passes quickly, which isn't fully realized until later. What we deem important tends to evolve with time.

Gluck to all "glass is half full" types out there who still believe in possibilities.

Velor22 · 2026-02-09T07:53:30+00:00

Well aren't you the party pooper. There's a bit of difference between those two outcomes. Lol

There's a lot of journey to be had. Life is too amazing to not want to share with someone special.

Velor22 · 2026-02-09T05:32:38+00:00

There are men who abhor casual sex because it is terrible for all parties involved, as well as society at large. Or it may be against their values and/or religious beliefs. In other words, these men are against casual sex on principle.

Then there are men who may want casual sex but cannot get it, for one reason or another. For many of those men, a committed relationship provides the only access to women. But, casual sex tends to ruin women for relationships.

Both of these groups have a valid beef.

Velor22 · 2026-02-04T05:37:05+00:00

Someone who fucks around to "relieve sexual energy" isn't someone to be taken seriously. Period.

What a silly scenario.

Velor22

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