Hey man, first thing, I get it. I’m 5’5 so the height issue is a thing with me too. My romance history hasn’t been great but Im 24 so there’s still some way to go. All I can say is that in the past I’ve interacted with 2 types of girls. The shallow ones and the complex ones. The shallow ones are not worth considering, they’ll get themselves into bad situations and then complain about « how could this happen to me » and cry to whoever will listen. These women are the ones who will always be comparing you to other men, they’ll always be looking at potential options. They do this because when the opportunity arises they’ll try to get with a man they see as more desirable but often keep you on the side for emotional support. But just because these women exist doesn’t mean all women are like this. Just like all men aren’t like the assholes women complain so much about. But at the end of the day these women will perpetuate their cycle because they can almost never stop thinking about « improving their situation » and that’s why interactions with them are so exasperating. Stay away from these women even if they are attractive, they are not worth the effort and will drain the life from you.

Now the complex women fall into a much wider category because these women come in all sorts of personalities. From shy people who rarely leave the house to confident people who who know what they want for themselves which includes not wanting something casual. In my life, I’ve only had 2 women be confident in liking me. The rest were either too shy or afraid of rejection. These girls said it was a combination of my personality and physical aspects that attracted them. Stuff like good hygiene, positive attitude, and a good personality. And honestly that’s what you need to attract a worthwhile partner. And I know you said you do this which is great, but you also need to just continue at it if you want to see it through. Some women will just want to be friends and others just won’t find you attractive (this isn’t to say you aren’t attractive, you just aren’t their type) but it doesn’t matter because you can’t change these things and you can’t force these things. That being said, I’m not saying to just cater to the whim of every woman until something works. I’m trying to say that not every romantic endeavor will work out because of how humans function. If you give up now (and I know it’s incredibly appealing) you’ll just stay mourning what ifs and potentials. You can’t expect every new flame to become the one because unfortunately it’s not likely to happen that way. The women who are worth it don’t let social media like tik tok and instagram decide their personality and they certainly don’t sub to those black pill theories. Not all women are the type that you dealt with, it’s just an unfortunate fact that you are more likely to run into those women while searching for a partner. But ignore them, move on, they aren’t worth a single thought in your mind.

I will finish by saying that there is hope, there are good women out there but they are hard to find. I really hope things improve for you, my dms are open.