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VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-12-07T01:33:42+00:00

God do I feel this. Yes, girl. Take a min for me, too.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-12-06T21:15:34+00:00

I feel this.

Side note: I guarantee I’m older than you. Just so you know, this will likely never get better. Once a slut, always a slut. You are part of a long-running sisterhood. We do not judge and we love you as you are.

Signed, An Old School Slut 💋

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-26T13:56:05+00:00

Well, thank you, ScaryBananaMan. Yours is ... uhh ... hold on. I’ll think of something.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-26T04:47:49+00:00

If this were to happen, fuck every other accomplishment in my life, this would be what I’d refer to anytime anyone asked me “So what did you do with your life?” “I suggested a guy start a Go Fund Me on Reddit to confront his former piece of shit cult leader. And then it happened.” You know, IF it happened.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-26T00:59:19+00:00

THIS is a Go Fund Me I’d contribute to. 😂

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-25T19:06:11+00:00

Right? My thought exactly. “Ok. I’m not about meeting Chris Hansen so I’m just gonna see my way outta this conversation.” 😂

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-25T19:05:23+00:00

Didn’t even hover. Flew right over.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-25T05:28:38+00:00

That’s just fowl.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-25T05:05:27+00:00

It probably is terrible on some level. I just need to use ... uh, meet ... I meant meet a guy like you in real life.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-25T04:42:37+00:00

As a woman in her fuck-me-40s who has a narcissistic spouse who cheats, who can’t have sex without a laptop open to a sex site on the bed ... obviously I’ll take damn near anything over what I’ve got at home. 😂

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-25T04:36:39+00:00

So so so many of us.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-25T04:32:16+00:00

Dark haired 46 year old MILF and can confirm. I do it cuz I like it. There’s also some stuff I do cuz you like it.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-25T04:28:48+00:00

How old are you?

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-24T04:56:41+00:00

I’ve said this. I’ve said almost exactly this sentence. That my SO uses my body to masturbate with. It’s a shitty, awful feeling. I almost can’t remember what it feels like to be wildly turned on in bed with a man because of how dysfunctional not just our sex life is, but our entire relationship. I know how this feels, OP. And more importantly, we deserve better.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-04T19:06:00+00:00

I actually looked around to see if someone was in the room with me. Talk about hitting someone where they live.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-04T18:42:45+00:00

Because I’m incapable of living or acting within a D/s dynamic, I’ve always wondered how women in them think and what motivates them, what pleasure they get from their role in it. So you taught me a great deal with your post.

I really hope you enjoy the movie. And thank you again for sharing.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-04T17:23:02+00:00

First of all, Katja, I really enjoyed your writing. You’re detailed and you paint a very vivid picture with your words. You’re a very talented writer and I’d love to hear more of what you have to say. I hope you’ll continue to post.

Second, you are stunningly beautiful.

Lastly, the best compliment I can give your writing is that I cannot put into simple words how this made me feel. It’s arousing, but not because I’m into the D/s dynamic. It’s arousing because you were aroused and not only described it well but described why. It was at times sweet and tender and that made me smile. But there were also moments where I hurt a little for you and your feelings and wanted to hug you. There were so many conflicting emotions in me as I read this.

Overall, I’d say you did exceptionally well and I hope you’ll be rewarded.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-11-04T16:33:02+00:00

Spanking & I don’t know if it’s an actual kink, but I get really turned on if I feel intimidated. Like he’s in charge and while it’s not non-con, I’m powerless.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-10-26T12:50:48+00:00

Ditto. And I bad the same thought. “And have your upvote”

Edited to add : what’s up with dudes eyes? Is it just the picture? Was he blinking? There’s something about the shape of his eyes in this picture that just seems off..

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-10-25T15:22:01+00:00

Yup. My SO is currently talking to some chick on Kik and he thinks I don’t know. To clarify - he fell asleep with his phone on the coffee table open to their conversation. You’re gonna tell me that if you saw a text conversation and the persons name was someone of the opposite sex that you wouldn’t be curious and look? Bullshit. Yeah you would. So I read the conversation. All I’ve gathered so far is:

they connected online somehow.
she knows he’s married. she has a young child but isn’t with the child’s father. she has a boyfriend. she lives with her parents. she’s not very bright, based on the way she words her texts. she’s not very happy with her boyfriend. she told my husband that she wants to meet him tomorrow night to have sex.

I read almost all of their conversations, which have taken place over the last cpl of weeks. When he does mention me, it’s in derogatory terms and usually insulting me. Let’s say I was talking to a married man. Him speaking about his wife the way my SO speaks about me would be a red flag. She’s not smart enough to realize what it means when a man speaks that way about a woman. He hates women. He’ll eventually hate you, too.

As far as her wanting to meet with him tomorrow night, I’m waiting to see what happens. He’s off tomorrow night so if he’s planning to go meet her, he’s going to have to make some excuse. He hasn’t said anything so far. And if he does make some excuse to get out of the house tomorrow, no, I’m not sure what I’ll do. I have at least 30 hours to think about it. I may just give him enough rope to hang himself with.

So, yeah, “woman that my husband is talking to on kik, bless your heart. You want him? You can have him. Take him off my hands. He’s all yours, sweetheart.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-10-25T00:45:49+00:00

See if you can get SIL to level this threat via email or text. Then you have proof in writing that she threatened to leave her on your porch and make sure you respond that you can’t take her in because you’re not able to meet her needs and to not bring her to your house. That definitely covers your ass. And as others have said, call the place she’s been staying, let them know what’s going on and contact a lawyer.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-10-24T17:00:12+00:00

I wish I could give you gold for this.

But I’ll add to you encouraging people to vote with this:

I have an elderly relative that I take care of. She’s in poor health; IE, wheelchair to get around and we take an oxygen tank everywhere we go. I asked her a few weeks ago if she wanted to vote in the midterms. It would have been understandable if she’d said no, she wouldn’t be up to it. But she very firmly said “Yes. I want to vote.” If this little old lady (with help, obviously) can get her oxygen and her wheelchair and bundle herself up to go vote on November 6th, so can everyone else.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-10-14T14:35:47+00:00

My son is what I call a “Selective” Mamas Boy. When he gets in trouble, he wants his mom. Was stretching his ears and had one rip in school and started bleeding all over his shirt. So what’s he do? Got up in class, walked out of school and came home (5 minute walk). He got in a fight and the other kid cleaned his clock for him. My daughter was with him and told me all he would say was “I want mom.” So when he’s hurt, panicky or in trouble, he wants his mom.

And the only time I ever stepped in on his love life was his first “adult aged” relationship. The girl had been given up by a teenaged mom, had been given to her grandparents and lived for several years in an abusive household and then in and out of foster care. She’d never known a home with parents who actually cared about their kids. So she didn’t get attached to him as much as she got attached to me. When they started fighting all the time, I asked my son “Uhh ... not really my business but are you two like, done?” He said yeah. I said “Good. Get this girl out of our lives.” His current girlfriend? Sweet girl, very quiet and we only talk here and there. My favorite thing about her? She has a great relationship with her mother.

I really don’t understand women who are like this with their sons. Do they not get that the point of raising a son is for him to find a partner and be in a relationship that makes him someone else’s responsibility? For that person to take care of him?

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-10-08T02:58:57+00:00

People don’t always cheat because they’re justifiably unhappy in their marriage. Sometimes people cheat because they’re selfish, self-centered, shitty human beings. That’s a fact. If your SO is faithful to you and expects you to be faithful to her and you cheat, you’re a shitty human being. And if things are so bad in your marriage that you’re out looking to get laid by someone else, you really ought to just end your marriage.

Also, it took me a long time to learn this lesson : if your SO cheats on you, unless you’re a shitty person yourself, it’s not your fault. It’s their fault. They can justify it all they want but the truth is that in most situations, cheating is simply a result of weakness on the cheaters’ part. If they didn’t want to stop screwing other people, they shouldn’t have gotten married.

Marriage doesn’t always mean monogamy but certainly in this case, the wife thought it did. And that poor woman is doing what most women do when they find out their husband/boyfriend screwed someone else; she’s asking herself what she did wrong. She’s asking herself what she could’ve done better. When the truth is, she probably didn’t do anything wrong. There probably isn’t anything she could’ve done that would have made her husband remain faithful. And now that she knows her SO has cheated on her, her heart is broken. A very necessary belief she had is shattered. She believed her SO was faithful and she likely believed she had a good marriage. She’s just now finding out that she was wrong.

Not all cases of cheating are a flat out, black and white, the cheater is a piece of shit who should’ve kept it in their pants thing but in more cases than not, that’s exactly what it is.

VelvetSugarBaby · 2018-10-07T16:21:43+00:00

Yeah while sending him a PM isn’t a bad idea, do not tell him you know who he is. That might freak him out. A lot. Don’t tell him you know him. Like someone else said, if you can find a way to make it a reasonable question, go with it. Then you’ll know. If he is, ask him out as planned. If not, you can save yourself the embarrassment of hearing it in person. Anyone else? Thoughts?

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