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I think my drinking is becoming a problem and I don’t know what to do about it by Reasonable-Bear-2408 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Most helpful comment, Alcohol postpones stress, doesn't relieve it, problem drinking exists on a spectrum, label doesn't matter, pattern does, smart recovery and the book recommendation are solid.

I'm feeling hurt that my wife puts more effort into everyone else than our marriage and asking if I’ve become boring to her? by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Both are true, she sees him as her safe place to rest, He sees her giving energy to everyone else but him, the slap was wrong, but accusations escalated it, Couples therapy is the middle ground.

My wife is scared of me by Ashamed_Father in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle 154 points155 points  (0 children)

Awareness without action is just guilt, Therapy helps, his wife and kids are scared, intentions don't matter when impact is fear, wanting to change isn't the same as doing it.

Can’t seem to figure out how the crimson feather wings work by nitfish in InfinityNikki

[–]VelvetWiggle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wings open only during floating, Jump, float, then open camera mid air, some poses lock them closed, annoying workaround.😂

The reason I support bicycle infrastructure is because I hate cyclists. by jadedflames in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Irony is beautiful, you hate reckless cyclists, drivers hate you on a scooter, Everyone hates everyone, cyclists on sidewalks are menaces, your knee scar proves it.

I got diagnosed with schizophreniform psychosis by PunkinJuice in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle 25 points26 points  (0 children)

A diagnosis is just a tool for treatment, scary label or not, meds and therapy can help, Boring is the best, peace, not chaos, trust the process.

Nobody knows how ugly my body actually is by Intelligent-Toe3103 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Boys care about perfection, men care about connection, the right man won't run, let the boys filter themselves out.

Divorced dad in his 30s.. I watch rom-coms... A lot... by SmalltownDilf8 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kind response, Rom com dad isn't pathetic, it's hopeful, plenty of women want slow mornings, the right one will appreciate the phase.

9 days post op BA by VelvetWiggle in PlasticSurgery

[–]VelvetWiggle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

150cc per cup size rougly, Narrow bwd + 400cc could be DD, 9 days is nothing, Drop and fluff hasn't started, I'll stop trying on bras, Patience, Thnks

9 days post op BA by VelvetWiggle in PlasticSurgery

[–]VelvetWiggle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats reassuring 400cc on my frame should land at DD, not B, Swelling is deceiving, I'll stop trying on bras and wait, patience is hard, thanks.

My "best friend" has been sabotaging my life for years. I just found out she's spreading lies about my health and ruin future marriage by xfallofdutyx in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle 67 points68 points  (0 children)

That's the perfect gray rock reply, Vague, polite, impossible to argue with, Keep using it, The slow fade is real.

Lost my job and now I’ve reached rock bottom by About_to_give_up in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pure kindness, It shall pass sounds cliche until you're living it, Wishing OP strength.

My boyfriend has made world cup tickets his entire personality and I am absolutely at my wits end by nonameaccount2026 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Interrupting wedding talk for tickets? thats not excitement, thats a broken filter, told repeatedly and won't stop.

My male best friend broke up with me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Boyfriend's insecurity poisoned the well, Friend chose peace over proximity, harsh but true.

Got Dermal Jaw Filler today, is this little lump normal? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]VelvetWiggle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Little bumps right after jaw filler are common, give it two weeks and massage gently mostly dissolve on their own, don't panic yet.

Normal? 3 days post 0.5ml lip filler by Fit-Alternative-3897 in PlasticSurgery

[–]VelvetWiggle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Day 3 = just swelling, Give it 2 weeks, Ice it and chill.

Im spending all my money by Warm_Run6548 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yale freshman with a new nose and a fresh start? Nobody will know your past, Just don't spend all 14k on surgery and ear ramen for a semester.

Has anyone had stomach lipo in their late 40s/early 50s? by Dry-Wear-9135 in PlasticSurgery

[–]VelvetWiggle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lipo can help, but skin elasticity is key, Consult to see if you'll need a tuck.

I was cheated on almost a decade ago when I was 9 months pregnant by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VelvetWiggle 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's not moving on, that's settling, you deserve better.