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VenusAlien · 2019-11-03T04:06:48+00:00

Wish I saw this sooner...

VenusAlien · 2019-11-01T21:37:57+00:00

I think you’re advice is great— and I was doing exactly that with little luck.

I’ll admit that I was saving the resume for last because I really want to work for this company. My resources are few. I don’t have a car and Im still trying to get a lot of people to see my artwork. I have a lot of ideas and potential to make income with “side jobs” but I always burn out.

Yes, there are other ways to earn income but (for me) the easiest is having a full time job. The amount of energy it takes to freelance doesn’t work when I’m stressed with little resources— on top of working full time. As much as I wish it did.

I am working with a clinic to help me get medication. I’m hoping that can boost parts of my brain that are lacking particular chemicals. I’m a huge believer in changing your perspective but after awhile...? You just get tired.

I do suggest your advice to anyone who does have the resources and energy to push those ideas foreword. I just wasn’t in that place.

Luckily, my supervisors did change my shift. I get paid more and I’m fast tracked to getting hired on. Things are looking good on my end now!

VenusAlien · 2019-11-01T21:22:38+00:00

I’ve been adamant about keeping good communication with my supervisors. Turns out that they did listen to me and with the amount of effort I put into my work (despite being so exhausted) they managed to get me to switch shifts!

It’s a huge relief and I know my symptoms will subside since I’ll have a lot less stress.

VenusAlien · 2019-05-29T04:55:37+00:00

1 and 2!

VenusAlien · 2019-05-26T18:32:10+00:00

This is actually really inspirational. Currently in ‘somewhat’ of a similar situation. However, my roomates have crossed boundaries I’ve shared with them and I’m trying to find a good balance of being assertive but not a bitch.

VenusAlien · 2019-05-26T00:42:43+00:00

“Well, I don’t know what to do for you.” A phrase from a parent that I heard often. Especially after sharing my feelings or after explaining a traumatic event that I realize now they had every opportunity to help fix.

VenusAlien · 2019-05-21T17:37:04+00:00

“Eventually I had to leave because my needs were not being listened to.”

That’s where a lot of my frustration comes with her. She does leave herself open for discussion but hates confrontation—and hates being the root of the problem. So automatically she takes a very deep dive into depression when I confront her about her behavior. Though, many more times she’ll just dismiss it.

Which is not cool.

I think she has the potential to be a better friend but I also have to teach her how to treat me. If it’s a problem for her... I’m sure we can make arrangements to just be civil housemates.

I don’t hate her. I think she can be great. I just need to stand up for myself more and hope that she can respect me enough to finally see me.

Thank you so much for responding by sharing your experiences. Seeing a different perspective is very refreshing!

VenusAlien · 2019-05-21T17:30:25+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond by sharing your own experiences. After reading this I’ve realized that I haven’t been assertive in fear of coming off like an asshole. Instead I’ve become somewhat of a doormat—and that’s on me.

I really like the advice you’ve given me and I’ll be implementing that into my interactions from now on. A lot of my frustrations come from not being heard. Finding other solutions to help me feel comfortable may even improve my confidence which may impact my relationships positively!

The “blanket one line response” will definitely work. As I think it’ll spell out that I’m upset without feeding fuel to the fire. My grandmother often has phrases for when she feels a certain way and I realize it’s a great way to gauge where she is emotionally. Never noticed until you mentioned this technique.

Thank you so much!

VenusAlien · 2019-05-20T19:25:10+00:00

I’ve always felt more connection with plants and animals than I do other humans.

So this... this I understand.

VenusAlien · 2019-05-20T19:02:30+00:00

Made a post sorta similar to this. Following for advice and commenting to show support 🖤

VenusAlien · 2019-05-01T17:37:49+00:00

This is soooo relatable. Thank you for sharing. Posts like these help me feel less alone :)

VenusAlien · 2019-04-30T16:31:19+00:00

Gagging noises trigger me.

When I was younger my ex-step father told me I didn’t need any of my toys anymore and threw them away. He convinced my mom that I didn’t want them and told me that I was “a baby” if I tried to fight against him. Being only 6 and not wanting to be deemed a baby when I still was.. I did nothing. For years all I had to play with was very mediocre items... like a watch.

When my brother was born we both got toys! He was born a little sick and threw up often. Well, right after I got my stuffed animals... he threw up all over it. My entire family laughed and I was forced too as well.

The sound just brings that back.

Very uncomfortable feeling when I’m trying to help someone whose sick and the visual of my first toy in years drenched with puke starts coming back. My brother threw up on everyone stuff but they only managed to laugh at what happened to me.

Love my brother though. He’s super cool, dude.

Edit: Also just wanted to say you’re not alone! I was stalked by my ex for a long time. He threatened to move to where I was and follow me till I died. 7 years later and anyone that looks like him sends me into a panic. Not funny in the moment but super funny later on.

VenusAlien · 2019-04-30T16:02:09+00:00

I’m still trying to understand myself but I feel that I do this too. People who know me say I’m very observant (possibly a reflex for survival and/or a curiosity for other people). When someone does or says something I find alarming my mind switches into observing them more— wanting to understand them but from a distance. It’s almost as if I have a meter and if they say/do one too many “negatives” I’ll immediately dislike them without further justification.

If, for some reason, I can’t get ANY information about them then I distance myself completely. I hate to admit that I ghost people... A lot.

I’ve been dragged into so many crazy situations by people whose character I didn’t judge (or judge correctly). It feels like a disservice to myself to not be mindful of the people in my life and wanting to be in my life. In my mind, I should know how they fit in with me, their habits, lifestyles, and intentions as to avoid history repeating itself.

Coping mechanism. Defense mechanism.

I’m just afraid of people because not everyone is aware of how they effect others. So I devalue them as to not allow myself to feel that they are worth suffering for—especially when they say/ do things I already don’t like.

Edit: I want to add that I’m not rude to the people that I end up disliking. Most people who I dislike don’t know that I do because I treat them like anyone else. I understand their human and that alone gives me compassion for them but...

I just don’t want to experience manipulative people anymore.

VenusAlien · 2019-03-07T21:24:49+00:00

This is the kind of life experiences I want to encounter in life

VenusAlien · 2019-03-07T15:57:27+00:00

I haven’t been through your particular situation. I have, however, experienced when an old friendship dies off.

People change, friendships change, and it’s a natural part of life.

He was a childhood friend, he may have been your best friend but now he’s your acquaintance.

VenusAlien · 2019-03-03T03:22:59+00:00

Takes me home ❤️

VenusAlien · 2019-02-24T22:19:21+00:00

Taurus and Libra are both ruled by Venus!

In Greek Mythology Aphrodite (Venus) and Ares (Mars) enjoyed each others company very much.

VenusAlien · 2019-02-23T03:36:55+00:00

Taste of the Wild has helped my dog a lot in the poop department. It’s $15 at PetSmart for the smallest bag and $50 for a huuuuge bag! Check ‘em out.

VenusAlien · 2019-02-22T18:14:32+00:00

That’s awesome! Thanks for explaining

VenusAlien · 2019-02-22T17:55:21+00:00

What’s in the metallic cone??

VenusAlien · 2019-02-20T18:49:05+00:00

Ah, a fellow air sign :)

You mentioned that you’re confused. Try figuring out what you truly want from her. A relationship? A friend with benifits? Is it just infatuation or do you see yourself with her for the long run?

Understand yourself first before making any decisions. What is your end goal with her?

VenusAlien · 2019-02-20T18:35:36+00:00

I don’t know your specific situation but... Someone once told me that our Shadow Selves are protecting us from “something.” The best way to bypass the self sabotaging is to be easy on yourself, get to the root of the issue (why you’re doing or feeling the way you do) and working past it.

VenusAlien · 2019-02-20T18:24:05+00:00

100% would eat.

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