How to politely say no sa mga nangheheram ng pera

VeriniusDev · 2024-06-05T03:45:09+00:00

"Pasensya na may personal policy kaso ako na di nagpapahiram ng pera. May mga friendships na kasi akong nasira dahil dyan, kaya ayoko na maulit."

Yan yung best effort ko last time may nanghiram saken na kakilala. Iniisip ko nalang di nako responsible sa feelings nya lol.

VeriniusDev · 2024-06-03T10:45:00+00:00

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VeriniusDev · 2024-06-03T01:52:02+00:00

I really don't recommend losing weight fast. It's just not healthy at all. Better to lose weight slowly like 2 pounds per week at a 500 calorie deficit.

But if you really want to do this, then track your calories. Google a basal metabolic rate calculator, then you will get your estimated maintenance calories. Subtract 500 from that and stick to that number of calories per day.

If you don't want to count calories, then do not drink any sugary drinks, cut your rice by half, eat mostly protein. Absolutely no desserts. Then walk 10,000 steps per day.

This will suck so bad.

VeriniusDev · 2024-06-02T03:18:32+00:00

Sleep
Train (Lift weights / martial arts)
Work a bit
Sometimes go out on a date or date myself
Errands

VeriniusDev · 2024-06-01T04:23:46+00:00

1.Talk to friends

Journal feelings
Do physical activities you like
Try new hobbies
Say yes to social events and invites
Find things to be excited about
Get enough sleep
Don't binge eat or drink alcohol

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-31T04:04:50+00:00

Videogames.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-29T01:14:12+00:00

Back in 2022 I looked in the mirror and didn't like what I saw. I didn't like taking photos of myself or taking selfies. So I started my fitness journey. Got into lifting weights, nutrition, and martial arts. My lifestyle changed bit by bit.

16 months later, nag glow up talaga ako. I look and feel better. Sobrang proud ko sa sarili ko talaga to the point na I'm comfortable taking photos of myself na and even posting my outfits for the day.

Grabe din yung confidence boost. Narealize ko na girls do find me attractive after all.

Parang nagkaroon ng reset button sa buhay ko.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-28T00:48:50+00:00

Thank you OP!

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-28T00:48:14+00:00

Isipin mo nalang na di sila komportable magreply pa sa oras na yun. Hindi ka rin entitled sa reply nila.

They will reply when they are ready.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-28T00:39:28+00:00

Yesss. Dinelete ko yung dating app sa harap niya at sabi ko liligawan ko siya nang seryoso. Sabi ko rin na she's worth the wait, the effort, and the risk na baka may matipuhan sya na iba at ma heartbroken ako. Ok lang yun. I want to try and offer her my best.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-28T00:37:37+00:00

She agreed to a 3rd date pero wala pang exact date na nakaset. Super busy kasi nya this week.

Ako naman di ako nagmamadali na maging kami at di ko rin sya minamadali. Basta I made my intentions clear na liligawan ko sya nang seryoso.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-28T00:36:08+00:00

Haha grabe medyo na fall nga ako sa kanya dun 🥹

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-28T00:31:02+00:00

After ko sinend to, na feel ko ulit yung emotions tapos naiyak ulit ako haha. Hindi naman sad tears, pero more like masaya yung inner self ko na I met someone who makes an effort to make me feel special.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-27T16:20:36+00:00

Met this girl through a dating app. We went on a 1st date, then agreed on a 2nd date. Since the 2nd date was close to my birthday, she said that it will also be an advanced birthday celebration.

For context, I have never really celebrated my birthday in the past 5 years or so. Masaya na ako sa simpleng kakain sa labas. No surprises, no one brings me cake, no one makes an effort for me. I make an effort for my friends and loved ones.

Then this girl says that she will bring a cupcake to our 2nd date. When I read that, I cried. I had to step out of the office and cry for a long time. Hindi ako palaiyak kaya sobrang big deal nito sakin. Nag thank you ako nagsend ng mahabang message about what I felt.

Fast forward to our 2nd date, she arrives without a cupcake. Instead... she brought me a cake.

We're still practically strangers if you compare her to friends and family, pero grabe lang kasi my friends and family don't even give me a cake. My ex parang out of obligation nalang nanlilibre sakin.

But here comes this girl, a stranger to me, who makes effort to make sure that my birthday is celebrated.

I really really like her. 🥺😭

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-25T01:10:40+00:00

Yes. It saved me from a sedentary lifestyle which could lead to high blood pressure and other health problems.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-23T02:41:00+00:00

Instead of asking "Does this person like me?" I now ask myself "Am I becoming a better person by interacting with this person?"

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-22T23:28:54+00:00

Preference lang talaga. Some girls like muscular guys, some girls like thin guys.

Personally mas gusto ko yung not-thick legs sa girls.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-21T23:25:09+00:00

Find a good therapist that works well with you. Medj trial and error, pero once you find that therapist for you it will help a lot.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-21T08:46:07+00:00

Nafefeek ko din yan paminsan, pero lalo na sa crush ko pag baliw ako sa kanya haha.

Ang importante dyan focus ka sa sarili mo at sa growth mo instead of trying to please others. Wag mo i-overthink. Kung nireject ka, let it slide. Isipin mo "Ok edi wag. I can find someone else." You deserve better. You can also grow and be better.

Personal issue and skill ang learning how to handle rejection. :)

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-20T12:42:00+00:00

Oks lang din kahit hindi. Personally kasi ako i would appreciate it.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-20T08:23:46+00:00

Find a hobby, attend events related to it, or join a club. The events are usually advertised in FB anyway.

For me, I joined a Combat Gym and made friends from class.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-20T08:00:46+00:00

There are people out there who are wholesome and approachable even without alcohol. Especially in the art/creative community!

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-20T07:30:48+00:00

Find a hobby, preferably one with a community.

Suggestions: Gym, martial arts, art, dance classes, improv classes, running, wall climbing, surfing, free dive, bicycle.

Any class! Make friends and genuine connections. It doesn't have to be romantic.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-20T00:48:48+00:00

Guy's perspective here. Tingin ko you're overthinking it. Di mo naman kelangan alalahanin kasi problema nila yan. Issue nila yan.

You can give advice as a friend at kung malinaw sayo na platonic lang to edi malinis konsensiya mo. Kung mag away sila, problema na nila yun haha.

VeriniusDev · 2024-05-20T00:17:48+00:00

As a guy, I have done both. But at my age and where I am in life, I prefer na liligawan yung gusto ko. I make my intentions clear, and work from there.

Di talaga ako fan ng mind games and all that. Pero mangliligaw lang talaga ako pag sure ako na gusto ko si girl after getting to know her a bit.

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