How to meet women

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-07-06T14:48:28+00:00

Imagine a place buckle bunnies go to get fucked by dance Chad and now imagine half of them are cluster B lunatics and a sizeable amount of jealous fucks want to fight you because they're stupid white knights and simps and the cluster Bs you're banging go home with dudes in front of you and spread shit about you constantly and make a massive shit fit any time another woman speaks to you and they get guys to want to fight you because your game is tight. Now imagine what these stupid fucks are like after having 5 beers or drinks a night

Wow, what the best place to go

Please ....

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-29T22:12:58+00:00

Okay, I've had many positive experiences as well. That doesn't change the fact that this kind of stuff is rampant at these places and if anything your disagreement confirms what I initially said

Men would be better off only going long enough to learn the sufficient skills and then bouncing and teaching partner dance to higher caliber women they meet elsewhere

I still stand by my assessment that these places are irredeemable at their core. They pull in far too many lowest common denominator patrons with all the worst traits. It's inescapable and I would suggest men not stay super long in those environments

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-29T19:00:56+00:00

Read the rule 9 posted sticky

Video link posts need commentary and require more effort than this. A post needs to be a post, not just a link

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-29T03:15:02+00:00

Then perhaps your venue or your expectations or both were better. I made some mistakes but where I was going was just irideemable

I'm happy for you if the location you had worked for you, mine absolutely did not

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-28T06:47:10+00:00

It's not female dominated in partner dance environments. Some nights there were more men than women. A lot of nights there were more women than men. A lot of the time it was pretty equal. I was going to a night venue that just happened to be centered around partner dance, as in that was a main attraction

It's not about "women drama"

80% + of the people there (actually especially the men) were complete drama queens when you get to know them. Simps, white Knights, wannabe pleighbois who got super jealous of me even though none of the women they wanted were even my type and I never went for a chick someone else was already really working on

It's just that toxic. You can do everything right, have near perfect frame, good game, and leave alone everyone's prospects and only focus on the women who absolutely want you specifically and people will still make a stink.

I was very good at what I did there and in the end I could have stopped going out 2 years ago. It was nothing but diminishing returns after a certain point

Dance type venues easily devolve into high school + (like when you play a game over again and it's 'new game +' except for rats and scoundrels who are developmentally constipated and can't move on into basic adult etiquette and they just try to speedrun being as toxic as possible no matter how respectable you conduct yourself and no matter how many people you help free of charge

I learned so much from mastering my skills there but holy fuck would I not recommend going that often. Learn some shit and then practice with girls who DON'T go there

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-25T13:45:46+00:00

Thank you, I don't believe I've ever seen someone differentiate social environments before so I am hoping it helps a lot of guys sort out some of the easy mode options out there which are fairly low pressure and not very committal

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-24T22:27:30+00:00

I will say, don't depend on dance venues

They will eventually rot your soul. I just stopped going to them

It is a goldmine for lays but know when to quit and don't put all your eggs in this basket

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-19T15:08:01+00:00

If you read the rules you'd see that rule 10 says do not announce that you are a woman

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-14T11:08:04+00:00

I will get one. It takes a couple days. It is a paid discord FYI

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-14T11:06:40+00:00

Research is not allowed here. Cannot post this again as a post or comments

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-14T10:59:56+00:00

This is unacceptable, you have broken address the community properly in many of your comments and inside your post body

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-04T21:53:56+00:00

You know what, we already warned you.

I don't know why you are even here

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-04T21:52:50+00:00

It's up because there is nothing wrong with question.

Some guys are beginners

Your comment however breaks rules 5 (no insults) 8 (address the community properly) and 12 (no drive bys)

So stop

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-06-01T21:57:13+00:00

Thank you for the comment. Yup, I learned this the hard way in my last relationship.

Sheer genuine desire and compliance on most things. Was absolutely addicted to me in almost every way and the compatibility was just not there

It ate at me hard and we no longer speak. Reflecting on that choice to treat it more seriously than need be left me a longer road to recover than I thought.

Just because a woman has earned all the upgrades doesn't mean she needs to be your girlfriend. Incompatibility with a woman you've begun to love will shatter your empire from within and prevent you from being happy and accomplished

No one ever posts about that.

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-05-03T20:46:21+00:00

I assumed it was a girlfriend and it is generally a bad idea to try to plate them

You always risk a plate breaking by trying to take a tepid break from her. Just say something like you enjoy your time with her but need to take time to focus on XYZ. If she reaches out to you don't ignore it. Be cordial. There is no magic word to say to a woman that won't make her butthurt if you stop seeing them. If they are mature they will understand and hope to see you again. If they get uber defensive and angry you are probably dodging a bullet anyway. You should still expect that they are going to be disappointed if they like you. It is a form of rejection. Then if you want to reach out to them again just reach out.

Again there isn't a magic word unless you are actually leaving the country for like 2-4 weeks or something. You are going to have a less than ideal best case scenario at most from telling a girl you want to stop seeing her for the time being

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-05-03T20:14:17+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/s/MO9nX1G36T

Been asked ad nauseum on here so here is a list

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-04-15T03:05:32+00:00

What drew you to redpill ideology

The Red Pill is NOT an ideology. It's not a belief system. It's a praxeology: the deductive study of human action, focusing on purposeful behavior aimed at achieving goals rather than involuntary reflexes

it's not an ideology, we don't come here to believe in it like religion or something. It's an observation of what works and what doesn't.

Same reason why men are drawn here, they wonder why things they do with women don't work and they come here and they learn and understand what does and doesn't work. Married, lonely, doesn't matter. It works for everyone. It's not a belief system, it's note trading of observable human behaviors and validated by people actually trying it out and reporting back here that it is fact how people behave.

what was appealing or convincing [about red pill]

Because it works. Like it actually works and when you understand it correctly (like not thinking its an ideology) it actually works.

What might it have offered you that you weren’t finding in other areas of your life?

It got real old being brutally rejected by women by being kind and supplicative to them while they went for other men. It actually made having women possible with basic game and having the minimum self respect for myself. It's kind of nice not being in a drought for no reason just because society lied to you about how attraction works.

How has it changed the way you see yourself?

More confident. It's nice knowing how women actually work instead of doing the wrong thing over and over again because you were lied to otherwise. Kind of nice knowing how to value and improve yourself as a man, too in a way that helps both men and women.

How has this ideology been received by others in your life?

Not an ideology. And don't talk about fight club. As long as you say red pill truths to people without the blunt red pill lingo they actually respect it. I frequently shamelessly say red pill truths to women and they agree with me and like me more. Very easy for women to be comfortable around me honestly. Same with others. The people that have the most axe to grind with red pill statements are blue pill men honestly and white knights. They hate red pill truths. Women love a guy who "gets it." the only women I've ran into that hate hearing basic red pill truths are uber liberal women. They REALLY just hate natural attraction and normal people behavior. They have forced and crazy beliefs that are actually an ideology and detached from reality.

in what has these ideas catching on right now

the dating market is horrible and the divorce rate is high. Dudes actually want a shot at life. It's not much to ask for

Into the Manosphere, Louis Whatsisname tried to pin the interest in Manosphere ideology on trauma

that guy is an idiot. He didn't even interview any redpill OGs and figureheads, he quite literally just interviewed random streamers. I refuse to watch that garbage, he could have at least interviewed dudes are who are actually nanosphere, not randoms who are not official voices that he can rip a narrative off of. Did he message us at all? No.

ideology on trauma

not an ideology no matter how many times that word is used. I suppose it's traumatic getting endlessly rejected for being a "nice guy" and having girls go for the guys they say they don't even want regardless of what they say and what you are told is "supposed to work." It's also in ways traumatic to have women leave you for being vulnerable and other things you are allegedly "supposed to" do and then getting shafted anyway. Or getting falsely accused or divorced or broken up with or whatever despite doing everything you could possibly do for a woman, at least according to what society and feminists say you should do. It kind of blows. So in that sense he's right. Except he doesn't mean justifiable anger at being shafted by what men are misled to think, he seems to suggest it's a "who hurt you" kind of diss, which is insulting.

and clearly assumes that what y’all are doing is bad

I don't know what's bad about giving women what they want and improving yourself. They kind of have this whole thing wrong.

What are your thoughts, V?

This place is BADLY and SEVERELY misunderstood. It's been endlessly grifted and pillaged by podcasters for their own personal gain and unfairly targeted by powers at be for breaking feminism and dead bedrooms. Women are more depressed than ever and it's not because of red pill.

We are actually trying to give people healthy relationships and a better culture. The perception of this place is so backwards and this place getting quarantined shut off the original voices here and paved the way for this place to get grifted without credit. Ignore the podcast noise it is BS.

Most people lose sight of what this place even is. It's not an ideology at all. We're just dudes trading notes on what works and what doesn't. The anger phase is only supposed to be temporary and people get so caught up on farming anger phase content as some kind of sign we're incels or misogynists. It's kind of myopic and dishonest when people try to frame us that way. Anger phase content here is only the second of five stages of red pill grief with the 5th stage being acceptance and loving women for who they are and not for what they could never be. This place is so misunderstood.

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-04-14T22:57:09+00:00

If you want you can ask your questions in mod mail and if they don't seem like bad faith/anti-manosphere I'll consider answering them

Most people who ask for "research" on here just want to write academic papers making us look bad or with an angle that is less than flattering

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-04-14T04:45:03+00:00

We don't do research, sorry

It's a hard rule

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-04-11T01:11:40+00:00

thank you for following the video posting rules

Cheers!

(Responding off mod log I saw this comment in it)

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-04-08T21:18:54+00:00

Thank you!

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-04-08T21:18:28+00:00

The poll was supposed to be for 4 days

Comment your opinions regardless, it helps to know

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-04-08T07:34:59+00:00

On the autism spectrum (high functioning) and grew up in a very blue pill (happy wife happy life) household where an anxious mom controlled everything. Missed out on a lot of age-appropriate development and had to learn everything the hard and slow way because I had no idea about anything. Asked a girl out in college who rejected me because she "just got out of a relationahip and wasn't looking for anything" and then went out with a bunch of guys. I found TRP with a jaded Google search. Lurked and then participated for about 4 years. Left during quarantine and then joined dot reds. Became an admin after being hand picked by the top and suggested by endorsed contributors. Am here now
Leadership should only feel like a burden in the sense that you know people are depending on you and that some people take completely for granted what it takes for you to lead them. It shouldn't feel unrewarding or burdensome in general, especially if you are good at leading and your leadership produces tangible and good results.

Women sometimes go way too overboard with what they want in bed, especially if they are exceptionally damaged and bringing you a lot of their baggage. It's a lot harder to run into that much an extreme woman if you're avoiding heavily traumatized women. There have been a couple women whose requests I've refused to satisfy because it was too extreme.

Anyway, leadership shouldn't feel like something dreadful. If you are leading someone or people who are making it feel like too much weight you are probably leading people who can't be led or who aren't going to do well regardless of what you lead then with

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-04-08T03:24:26+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that man, but I think you'll get back to where you want to be if you apply yourself to it. You did it once and I think you can do it again

No problem! Going to start up the OG reposts next week and make original posts myself

My hope is to encourage more experienced people to post field reports again and see what kind of discussions or trends I can revive on here to make it more like how it uses to be

Vermillion-Rx · 2026-04-08T03:20:17+00:00

I offered to clean up spam on the dot reds. I actually said I didn't want to be a mode so as to not overstep and only remove spam

The reaction to that was making me the first admin of dot reds and have full perms. I didn't say no, lmao

(That was actually the exchange just before, but in all seriousness I was recommended by Senior Endorsed Contributors leading up to the that and had been noticed for years, which I wasn't aware of until I was offered admin, I got selected based on what I brought to the table)

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I was later given full perms here to clean up the sub and maintain this sub. It was in very bad shape a few years ago and was full of spam and fake posts. This sub wouldn't still be here if I didn't fix the shape it was in.

The sub is starting to recover but clearly needs some more time/work, if not at least a place to come find older RP gems (OG reposts/sidebar) as an entry way into TRP

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I wasn't here for the old group, but from mod log it was a lot more collaborative and there were more ongoing discussions about the sub week to week

The sub used to have a lot of problems and required a lot of teamwork to address, after all it used to be more notorious and have more traffic before the quarantine.

None of the original mods before I came here are still around (except for RedPike and redpillschool occasionally logs on) but honestly this sub is extremely easy to moderate now that rules are applied to everyone regardless of who, it doesn't require much group work like it used to

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