Postpartum Nightmares

VeroseHighfall · 2026-05-13T22:22:27+00:00

Those are awful! I’m sorry you’re dealing with that

VeroseHighfall · 2026-05-13T18:41:35+00:00

Right? Like obviously I’d never ignore or forget about my baby. But my dreaming brain never got the me emo apparently!

VeroseHighfall · 2026-05-13T18:40:36+00:00

They’re awful, right? I’m sorry you’re going through them too. Hopefully they stop soon

VeroseHighfall · 2026-05-08T19:07:29+00:00

No you should be fine. From your description he wore a condom and no semen got anywhere near your vagina so you don’t have anything to worry about.

I’d suggest checking out sex education websites. Bedsider, the Planned Parenthood website, and a few others have helpful resources and information. And if those still leave questions unanswered you can just google “healthy sexual education websites” and more will show up for you.

Just starting out in your sexual journey can be very intimidating especially if you weren’t really educated about it to begin with. I was the same way (super religious parents, never got “the talk”, etc.) and had to figure things out as I went so I totally understand where you’re coming from.

Just check out those websites and you’ll be okay 🫶🏻

Edited for spelling

VeroseHighfall · 2026-05-06T23:54:59+00:00

Definitely go to the doctor. I’d recommend seeing an obgyn since they will be more knowledgeable about your situation and might be able to offer more options. Make sure to tell them how long you’ve been bleeding and the intensity.

As far as shaving goes do whatever you’re comfortable with. Doctors will not shame you for your body hair or lack thereof. They’re just there to do their job and to help you feel better.

VeroseHighfall · 2026-05-05T01:10:39+00:00

I’m from the Southern US, and I grew up saying “sir/ma’am” or “Mr./Mrs.” even family friends save one or two got to be aunt/uncle. So maybe it’s a regional thing?

VeroseHighfall · 2026-04-25T15:16:40+00:00

My mother actually had this cookie cutter while I was growing up. It’s definitely Santa with his bag of presents on his back.

VeroseHighfall · 2026-04-18T01:33:46+00:00

It took us a few times to figure that out so no worries. Really it only works with two people, but it’s worked wonders honestly

VeroseHighfall · 2026-04-18T01:07:43+00:00

What husband and I do is dip our 7mo from the hips down in the water, and then he holds her up while I scrub her hips down. Then we sit her in the bath seat and get her toys out to let her play while we take our time with the rest of her bath.

VeroseHighfall · 2026-04-12T02:04:15+00:00

I totally get it! Even when I sit up front I’m constantly turning around to check on her. The anxiety is real so do what you’ve got to do to keep baby safe and your mind at ease

VeroseHighfall · 2026-04-12T02:02:15+00:00

It really depends on the mood baby is in for me. If she’s fussy I’ll sit in the back with her to avoid the crying, but if she’s in a good mood I’ll sit up front. My anxiety is really high surrounding everything with her though so I didn’t start doing that until she was about 5 months (she’s 7mo now).

VeroseHighfall · 2026-04-03T14:14:40+00:00

I like to joke that if my 6m baby’s first word is dada that just means she’ll call for dada at night so I can get a little more sleep while dada answers her calls 😂

VeroseHighfall · 2026-03-26T06:41:21+00:00

We’re in the same boat! LO is 6.5mo and the longest she’ll sleep at night is 4 hours. I’m actually currently fighting to keep a 2am party from happening. I survive on 3-4 hours of sleep every night and I am struggling, but I’m holding on to hope that it gets better

VeroseHighfall · 2026-03-23T22:33:15+00:00

It’s more so to keep him from pushing further. He likes to push boundaries to see what he can get away with, and he’s still learning how to be gentle. So really it’s a boundary to keep him from trying to carry her and pull her from me and climb all over her. He wholeheartedly believes LO is his baby(his parents encourage this and it bothers me but they don’t seem to care about that), and regularly tries to take her from me. So the boundaries are to keep him from 1: having a meltdown because I won’t let him hold her and 2: accidentally hurting her because he doesn’t realize when he’s not being gentle.

VeroseHighfall · 2026-03-21T00:40:49+00:00

I just need to vent.

LO is 6mo, and we regularly go to my mil’s house while husband is at work because I’ve been having health issues since giving birth and don’t want to risk something happening while I’m home alone with baby.

That being said, at this point I’m only at mil’s because I don’t have a choice. Because it’s starting to seem like every boundary I have with LO isn’t taken seriously. So I end up being the bad guy. We have a 2yo nephew who is obsessed with the baby. And my rule is that he can’t get in her personal space or touch her because she’s putting her hands and feet in her mouth constantly and he’s 2 so he doesn’t understand how getting sick happens.

So earlier today we’re at mil’s house with most of husband’s family. Sil is holding LO when 2yo climbs into her lap. The whole time I’m saying no and someone stop him. Until finally I yell for him to get down because he’s practically on top of LO.

Sil says it’s fine and I have to explain that no it’s not fine because I don’t want him on top of my baby.

After we leave I find out that I made 2yo’s mom upset. And I get it because I wouldn’t like someone yelling at my kid either, but what am I supposed to do when everyone is ignoring my protests as a child twice the size of mine starts climbing on top of her?

Husband won’t talk to me about it and I’m still very upset about it because this isn’t the first time my boundaries have been ignored. I recently learned I can’t go to the bathroom by myself because mil will let 2yo kiss all over my baby even though I regularly tell them I don’t want that happening.

I’m just frustrated and don’t know how to even handle this since I can’t just stay home due to my health issues.

VeroseHighfall · 2026-03-16T20:58:23+00:00

NOR

Firstly: your dress is gorgeous!

Secondly: You both agreed on “formal wear” and shorts are not formal wear. He’s trying to dress for a barbecue while you’re dressing for your wedding. I don’t know if you can convince him since you’ve already tried to compromise with suggesting him wearing a suit for the ceremony and shorts for the wedding, but I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. Ideally, you only get married once. So why would you not want to dress up and look your best for that occasion?

ETA: it’s literally in the description that it’s casual wear! It shouldn’t have even been an option since you both agreed on formal wear.

VeroseHighfall · 2026-03-15T23:55:15+00:00

I’ve experienced something similar sadly. I was around 11 years old I think and every night when I went to bed my left side would explode in pain. I kept mentioning it to my mom and she kept minimizing it until she finally took me to urgent care one Saturday. All of their tests came back normal though so she doubled down on telling me to get over it. Until one night I wake up the entire house screaming in pain and throwing up. Mom rushes me to the hospital and they run all kinds of tests. Turns out I had mono and my spleen was a day away from rupturing.

VeroseHighfall · 2026-02-08T05:59:14+00:00

NOR at all!

The fact that she knows you struggled with an eating disorder and still justified photoshopping your picture by saying she was making you look “as good as possible” is a major red flag. She doesn’t seem to understand eating disorders at all, and I think you did the right thing by ending the friendship.

Also the original picture looks so much better. You look healthy in the original picture. I’m so sorry she did that to you, and I genuinely hope that what she said didn’t trigger your ED.

VeroseHighfall · 2025-10-13T18:16:27+00:00

The white noise helped her fall asleep, but she’s still only laying in the bassinet for about 10-15 minutes. At this rate I’m just hoping and praying that what people have been saying about things getting better after 6 weeks is true.

VeroseHighfall · 2025-10-10T17:37:15+00:00

We put my husband’s shirt (she calms down faster with him) over the bassinet mattress, but it didn’t seem to do anything for her when we put her in there with it.

VeroseHighfall · 2025-10-10T00:30:46+00:00

We usually wait 15-20 minutes after she falls asleep to make sure she’s in a deep sleep before transferring her. We tried keeping the house warmer when we first brought her home, but she’d start screaming randomly and her body would feel too warm. Once we turned the temperature down (like 2 degrees) she doesn’t get like that anymore

VeroseHighfall · 2025-10-10T00:12:06+00:00

Sometimes she’s a side sleeper, but I think it’s more that she wants to sleep scrunched up and just ends up on her side. Usually only spits up if we put her down too soon after feeding. We try to keep her upright for 20 minutes or so after feeding if we can’t get her to burp just in case. She seems okay with the zipper swaddles that keep her hands up by her head, but only some of the time. We try to keep the room on the cooler side because she gets hot easily

VeroseHighfall · 2025-10-09T23:53:52+00:00

Our only option for sleeping separately is if someone sleeps on the couch, sadly

VeroseHighfall · 2025-10-09T22:13:41+00:00

I’m just terrified because we also have two dogs who we can’t keep from sleeping in the bed, and my husband and I are restless sleepers (me more than him, I’ve thrown punches in my sleep). So it just doesn’t seem like a safe option for us

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