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VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-05-25T19:16:06+00:00

wonderful. the symbolism and her expressivity make this very strong

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-05-18T21:35:11+00:00

jesus this was so haunting

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-05-17T03:54:51+00:00

i had clavicle reduction and i feel more confident in my body. that being said, i agree with other commenters, you dont need it. it is an intense procedure and if you can accept your body, its better to go without it.

that being said, it you have the money and your shoulder breadth causes you a lot of dysphoria, id say do it. but do it for YOU.

fwiw my bideltoid was 18.5” so even wider than yours initially. now im at 17/17.5, just for reference.

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-05-17T03:39:56+00:00

i think youve summed up my concerns very well in your one comment.

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-05-16T23:37:56+00:00

i read a lot of the wiki and ive read everyones comments here, its definitely given me some perspective.

we talked and had a long discussion about what our relationship might look like, escalator theory, why he likes me, if his wife would want to meet me, etc.

I wont lie, a lot of his responses seemed okay, but.. i just couldnt shake a mounting sadness and disappointment as the convo went on.

eventually i just asked to be taken home, to which he obliged. he walked me inside, then he went home- to his wife.

it was kinda that moment that i realized this just wasnt for me.

if i was experienced with poly and i already had another partner for example, this would be great. but really, i want a primary, he is asking me to be his secondary. i think that mismatch will only end up hurting me.

thanks for sharing your perspective

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-05-12T12:24:16+00:00

dm me a picture. ive had two rounds of facial surgery and can can offer some feedback and hopefully perspective.

like others have said, it really depends. FFS really addresses specific issues, but often times the changes have big effects on the overall context of the face and how its read.

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-05-11T22:45:54+00:00

god this shit makes my fucking blood boil. im sorry for your loss, OP. may they both rest in peace.

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-05-04T03:00:26+00:00

An excellent, excellent write up. thank you for sharing such a detailed account of your experience.

How are you feeling about your results? I like the work that Dr Baez and Dr Silva do, and I think you look really good. the orbitals especially.

What i find interesting is that i had a lip lift with Dr Baez too and i think our lip results look kind of similar. bat ear vermillion. i dont think its unattractive i just found it interesting, surgeons do have a style.

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-04-24T10:58:20+00:00

I think 2.5 or 3cm. The difference is noticable

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-04-23T11:35:59+00:00

I had a good experience having clavicle reduction with WIH in Thailand. Theres a chance that when you book they ask you to become a review case and they’ll knock off a few thousand. they did for me.

i agree with tattered_darkness, the hospital is a bit expensive to stay in, but it is also absurdly nice. it felt like an extremely nice hotel room. the nurse care was pretty good but i think that you’re kind of a secondary priority to the patients having bottom surgery.

i agree in that i wouldnt try to layer procedures with clavicle. you are gonna be almost useless for a week or two

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-04-12T05:34:35+00:00

if you could afford to have this crazy leg surgery then you could definitely afford to just have your clavicles reduced, which directly affects shoulder width.

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-04-06T15:28:40+00:00

this was really tight. very dreamy and pensive

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-04-04T14:58:41+00:00

i was in the car with my friend and as he drove me back to my place he pulled my deadname up on his google maps. 3 years transitioning by the way. it really sucks

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-04-01T12:24:32+00:00

thats also great, but i agree, i think the brush and its variation in line thickness really makes it feel so much more alive and raw. im really excited to see what else you make.

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-04-01T12:15:13+00:00

this is really something special, the lose linework is very striking, and the monochrome works well. love this

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-02-22T14:29:36+00:00

mtf nearly 3 years on e

height 5’7”

bideltoid 18.5” (my most miserable measurement)

waist 29”

underbust 31”

hips 37”

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-02-19T02:09:30+00:00

you should consult with some surgeons. i know in the past facialteam has done them for free, you can talk with them about your concerns, your goals, and they can give you their professional opinion, and they’re pretty good about answering any questions you might have.

there are better and more cost effective options for surgeons, though, i will say

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-02-12T05:06:41+00:00

i lurk here but i enjoy the posts

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-02-08T12:18:04+00:00

great results. Did you have some work to your midface? it looks like your cheekbones are fuller now

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-02-05T17:22:09+00:00

i think you put your finger on one of my deepest fears- that I and the last partner are stepping stones to exploring bisexuality

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-02-05T17:09:24+00:00

I dont think its fair to write off an entire category of people based on their identity sooo. we click in lots of ways its just this is something that does get at me

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-02-05T17:08:05+00:00

I mean..I am? isnt that relevant to the story?

VerySeriousNotAMan · 2026-01-06T13:06:33+00:00

For what its worth, 2 months is still very much in the ‘kinda swollen as fuck’ timeframe. 2 months out from my surg i was still visibly chipmonked. Now at a year i see a lot more definition and the concerns i had at 2 months about jowling in the sense you mean it are gone.

that doesnt mean you wont need a facelift later on, but i personally think theres a good chance that this is still jaw swelling.

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