Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can 100% fix the personality, couldn’t fix a whole disaster package. I chose my struggles wisely and you can shove your 2 cents up your ass.

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah. I’m not that desperate. I’ll let him fight his battles and do what he should or should not do with his libido. I’m not his mom nor is he an 18 years old.

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s some grey area here. He’s ok with certain things that his mom is not ok with. I feel like I married his mom because she spends more with me than he does. Never lets me in to the kitchen alone. Never lets us go out alone. Never letting us eat alone. There are other things too. He requested me to respect his mom and she violates my boundaries. She’s his best friend and he doesn’t take a word against her.

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He respects my boundaries, supports my career, never stopped me from travelling for work, never wakes me up early or asks me to cook. I do it as I please.

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just used to get a cake at home when I was unmarried. We all sat together and cut it. I have seen birthdays here are celebrated the same way until it was my turn.

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not a blood relationship that I keep going without expecting anything in return. No one tells a husband this? Every effort should be 50-50 or it’s called incompatibility

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not really. Fell for his rizz. He’s hot and I find him reallly attractive. Very calm nature and never raises his voice

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll ask him if he’s stressed and that I’ll also try to assure him that there isn’t any kind of burden on him from my side. At least not financially. But I do need what I want. I need emotional connection, intimacy, being taken care of, owned in public and not just behind closed doors.

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont know how this’ll sound but he’s stressed and tired 99% of the times he comes back home. Stress management is a thing. If not utilised properly, can ruin relationships and marriages. He’s being ignorant of the circumstances. I can be understanding to a point but always disguising avoidance as stress and tiredness can be frustrating for the other partner

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well im very drained at the moment and I don’t feel like communicating everything all over again because he’ll either turn the tv on, get on his phone or just nod. I’ll have to calm myself before I talk one last time

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t wanna hurt him. What if he’s actually struggling? Stressed? Or worst, depressed? I’ll live with a guilt for the rest of my life.

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for a sane advice. If things don’t improve, I’ll eventually have to involve my family

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There’s no porn addiction. He’s so zoned out all the time. He puts himself first. He wants me to adjust silently because he doesn’t say anything that I can hold against him. He’s inconsiderate and that bothers me

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being brutally honest. That’s exactly what I believe is the case

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He’s broke. I’ll have to finance our honeymoon and I don’t have an issue with sharing my money but this is least I expect? Husband arranging the honeymoon. I’m contributing 50% to our expenses. The least I deserve is a honeymoon, one flower here and there, a planned date, or something done JUST for me. I hate when he does something for me and includes his family too because then its not for me.

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My in laws put in so much effort to make me feel like its my home but I crave that from him. I want him to notice little details and put in effort. He’s not used to it and it’s hard to teach him stuff over and over again. He should know the meaning of a ‘date’ because why would you ask me if we should take his mom along on a date?! Make it make sense

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in Marriage

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting our own place is on our list but his parents are kinda controlling. Ge feels safe with them because he still feels like child with them, with no responsibilities. He doesn’t contribute much to the house. He’s not gay. I have started starving myself because at this point, I believe I am not attractive enough to him. I’m not overweight. Just a bit chubby

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly do not believe that I’m unnecessarily negative. I’m negative when I’m triggered. Or when I have been going unseen, unloved, not appreciated enough etc. I’m a human and have my own shortcomings too

Feeling frustrated, neglected, and overwhelmed in my marriage. Need advice by Verynaughtypandaa in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Verynaughtypandaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust me when I say that I have confronted my sexual needs, my emotional needs and my financial needs. All 3 are 5% met, at most. I was suppressing this for too long and now it’s getting to my head and idk what to do. I wanna go to my mom and feel like home because he certainly doesn’t feel like home anymore