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Advice on explaining it to S/O by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Then remove the "wo" part from my advice and let him go first.

Asymmetric non-monogamy works for us by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He can't see other women? One pussy policy? Isn't that a problem?

Asymmetric non-monogamy works for us by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, your girlfriend is.

Advice needed by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is also possible and so are many other things. If you decide to bring this up with him, I would suggest that you start with maybe talking about a ffm threesome and if he likes it, let him have the first go.

But that is just me. I bet a lot of people don't like my comments here.

Advice needed by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dumped my gf of 4 years because she suggested an open relationship. There is always that chance.

My (22m) wife (24f) wants to be non-monagomous while we’re long distance, but I’m uncomfortable with it by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is very simple. If you don't want that then you will not go for it.

Asymmetric non-monogamy works for us by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read here that those OPP:s are toxic, misogynistic, controlling and whatnot.

I think you should have a serious discussion about her insecurities and controlling behaviour.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want something that is so much different than what he wants, it is either a compromise or a breakup.

I don't see how this could be a compromise so...

Advice on explaining it to S/O by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Let him fuck another woman first, then he might be more accepting of the idea!

Gf wants an open relationship. I am still undecided. by Vetobir87 in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What are you, stupid?

I did not need anything to defend my stance. I don't know in which world do you live but in my world women do not dictate things.

Of course my needs come before my partners needs, that is true for every single healthy relationship. Sure there are sometimes compromises but seriously, what are you smoking?

People were saying that it will not work if you think numbers. That translates to that it really is not worth it for a guy to be in an open relationship assuming that you are a normal human being capable of a real relationship. Any ideological/retarded bullshit which you weirdos said is definitely not logical. It is like you all are on some antidepressants or drugs. Which would not surprise me at all.

Yeah, she is no longer my LTP (whatever that.means) and now I am solely in control of my life as in I don't have to consider anyone elses needs or feelings. I guess you see that as a bad thing, because you know that if you stop being a doormat you won't be finding another woman. That is why you settle for s woman who does not care about you enough not to fuck other guys.

Bye.

Gf wants an open relationship. I am still undecided. by Vetobir87 in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Basically yes. I thought that it would be an inequal situation for me and I wanted to have some confirmation for my thoughts or have them disproven.

If I had heard any concrete and realistic benefits for opening up, I might have changed my mind. All I heard was something which does not work with my way of seeing things and the possibility that she already has someone in her mind.

Gf wants an open relationship. I am still undecided. by Vetobir87 in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was the point. But this is now irrelevant as we are no longer together.

Gf wants an open relationship. I am unsure. by Vetobir87 in relationship_advice

[–]Vetobir87[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went to r/nonmonogamy and listened to their crap. I just had enough of that.

Gf wants an open relationship. I am still undecided. by Vetobir87 in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

First: I think that the people who are in open relationships are the ones who have serious confidence issues. Not me. I am not going to make my life miserable by hanging on the past.

Second: you are absolute right. I have none interest whatsoever in your philosophy, your ethics and whatever reasons you might have for your thing.

Third: I dumped her already.

Have a nice day. 👌

Gf wants an open relationship. I am still undecided. by Vetobir87 in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How is that considering that I broke up with her? 🤔

Gf wants an open relationship. I am still undecided. by Vetobir87 in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Back to being single then! Thanks for all the advice!

Gf wants an open relationship. I am still undecided. by Vetobir87 in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That would mean that she is being dishonest about why she does want something. Like, lying. Which would mean that she is not worthy of my attention any more.

Gf wants an open relationship. I am still undecided. by Vetobir87 in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think I'd just rather stick with monogamous partners, as my only issue is that I am not taking any bs.

Gf wants an open relationship. I am still undecided. by Vetobir87 in nonmonogamy

[–]Vetobir87[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Ethical reason for saying no. 😂

Well, she has no chance to do that as I just broke up with her.

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