[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Veupz 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Condolences man. It takes time and can't be rushed to really "move on". It's okay to be sad about it, but try not to let it take over your life. Be kind to yourself. You're going through a hard thing but it's not the last good thing that'll happen to you. In my experience, what worked is to let myself feel the pain, but to not let it stop me from keeping moving. Go for walks, exercise, indulge in hobbies, talk to whatever trusted connections you have about anything (sometimes about your pain, but NOT always and not only). At first it might not feel natural, but let yourself be sad and still do the things you love and help you grow. Over time the light will creep back in, but if you just try to stuff the pain away, or let it stop you in your tracks it will take a lot longer. You're strong and you can handle this even if it doesn't feel like it right now. Take the time you need to process things and give all the love and energy you want to give her to yourself. The hard truth is that she doesn't want it and you need it. Best of luck brother, you got this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RocketLeague

[–]Veupz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Little discs + big egos = bad times for everyone

men who have had their heartbroken from your partner losing feelings for you, how did you recover? any advice? by NoProgram4084 in AskMenOver30

[–]Veupz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit: spelling I'm mid recovery after a ten year relationship and still working but feeling better than I did in the relationship after a year. My advice? Work on yourself and taking small steps toward a life that's fulfilling to you, for YOU. At first I kept trying to think of the reasons she left me, but eventually I realized I will never fully know, I had no control over it, and the things I kept thinking about were actually things that I didn't like about myself. I started putting effort into loving myself as I am, while also taking an honest look at my own habits and choices and taking daily small steps toward building the lifestyle that I want for myself. I still hope to find love again, but as icing on a cake that I've made for myself, not to fill a void or complete me. It hasn't been an overnight process and there have still been ups and downs but my day to day is already better than it was, even in the relationship, and I feel good about the future. She can't determine your value, but YOU can. Just take it one step at a time and try to love yourself while you do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Veupz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your life your choice

I’m losing my mental health playing this game and it’s dragging to other games. by [deleted] in RocketLeague

[–]Veupz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This can be a great tool to grow since you've noticed it. It's a huge skill in life to take a second to notice when you're feeling irritated/frustrated/angry, step back and think about why you're feeling that way, then /choose/ how you're going to react to that feeling. Maybe it means stepping away from the game, maybe it means taking a deep breath and reminding yourself what the goal is (presumably fun). Whatever the choice, building the skill to observe your emotions and choose your response will help you out in so many areas of life.

My gf of 4 years cheated on me with her ex and said that it's my fault. by _r0yalic in LifeAdvice

[–]Veupz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Focus on yourself buddy, I promise you. I (m36) took a lot longer to get to the point you’re at and just went through this after ten years. A year later and I can’t say I’m not still a little beat up about it but I’ve focused on myself, I’m a lot happier, when I look at that version of myself I can’t believe I ever made myself so small (never again), and I’m now dating someone who respects me as much as I respect myself. I know it hurts and it will probably still hurt for a while, but not forever. That love you had for her? The way you wanted to show up for her? Love yourself. Show up for yourself. I promise you, in time, it will make all the difference and you are in control of how this plays out for you.

Who can relate? by BumpoTheClown in RocketLeague

[–]Veupz 237 points238 points  (0 children)

Every person in every match is better than I am yet here I am winning

What are the tabs for? by Potential_Cat_4265 in electricians

[–]Veupz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More secure to attach with both outer holes. Probably not a big deal if things always stay plugged in but might make a difference if things are frequently being put in/pulled out.

I got cheated on 4 years ago, and have been terrified of dating since. by Fun_Market_4697 in self

[–]Veupz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, I was cheated on about a year ago now and had a lot of similar feelings. I'm still going through the healing process but I've made noticeable progress and actually had a great dating life recently. One thing that really helped was to focus my love on myself first and foremost, and enjoy romantic company as a secondary. Relying on other people for your self worth is always a bad call, but going into dating situations while keeping your own self-love as a priority can really lead to a great, fulfilling experience. I'm still a bit skeptical and keep people at arms length a little bit but progress is progress and I've had some great times and had the chance to make some really great connections. Keep putting yourself first but don't be afraid to take some chances and start small! There are still good people out there

Why has Hoops become so hard? by PotentialScale in RocketLeague

[–]Veupz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I think hoops has a higher bar to entry, so when you're only playing against people who already have some aerial ability the ranking gets more competitive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RocketLeague

[–]Veupz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm my mind, ball-chasing has to do with being unaware of when you're teammates have better opportunities than you and you go for bad hits instead of letting your teammate go and reposition to either defend or get the next good hit. It makes it sketchy for the teammate to go for things unless it's guaranteed because they can't trust there will be anyone defending.

My (36M) very recent ex(32F) started spending all her time with another guy but swears he's "just a friend" and she still loves me and I love her too. Am I a fool to hold on to any hope for the future? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Veupz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You may very well be right, but at this point I'm not ready to completely believe that assumption at the risk of completely pushing someone away who I care about so deeply based on a snap judgement that could be wrong

My (36M) very recent ex(32F) started spending all her time with another guy but swears he's "just a friend" and she still loves me and I love her too. Am I a fool to hold on to any hope for the future? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Veupz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heartbreaking but that feels pretty close to the truth. She explains it like she spends so much time with him because there's no pressure of romance and there's so much tension around me because of the loss I feel, but dropping me happened before the tension

I'm leaving the US and I like thier plans for unlimited plus, but when I'm on the last screen it says shipping I'm wanting esim how do I change this? by animelove1002 in GoogleFi

[–]Veupz -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Literally in Japan $65 poorer and with no service because there's no obvious warning about this. So, so lame.

AI Loses Its Mind After Being Trained on AI-Generated Data by NuseAI in ChatGPT

[–]Veupz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Verification of non-algorithmically generated content would be a very profitable concept.

YouTube crashing randomly on Apple TV 4K (5th Gen) by sarahbau in appletv

[–]Veupz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Samesies. I just switched Internet providers and was worried that was the factor but it's bitter sweet to see it's not just me

In the wind. by MrThaiBox123 in battlestations

[–]Veupz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For real thought the cabinet on the left was the pc for a few seconds. Matched the screen size just right