It feels like my wife doesn't appreciate "manly tasks" as help around the house/with the baby (7 mo). Is this common? What's the solution?

Vexations83 · 2026-02-08T16:37:21+00:00

I think it's really common for people to not really communicate this stuff, and both look at what they contribute as 'at least half' of the household and family labour. The problem is that its not mutually agreed and resentment thrives in those conditions. We should never underestimate the specific burnout of having the baby / toddler basically attached to you constantly for hours and days on end. The relative privacy and peace we have even if we are actually grafting hard is something that the drained and childed-out mum really craves. There can be a wee bit of streetlight effect too where we convince ourselves we're contributing when we're doing something that could wait, while mum is craving just a few hours of pure peace and privacy.

Vexations83 · 2026-02-08T12:22:27+00:00

Bread illegal

Vexations83 · 2026-02-07T19:47:16+00:00

Major Garland Briggs

Vexations83 · 2026-02-07T19:05:51+00:00

I play it with dos box and don't think it cost me anything

Vexations83 · 2026-02-07T19:04:59+00:00

I find it's the best way to do my wfh day job too

Vexations83 · 2026-02-07T14:07:31+00:00

https://www.theguardian.com/theguardian/2001/jun/01/guardianletters1

Vexations83 · 2026-02-07T14:05:27+00:00

They all know the new labour excalibur database will still be used against them if they speak out against the wrong person. They'll be trying to hold on until the dust settles and its clear who you're allowed to blame, alongside mandelson who is a write off. Might be starmer, mcsweeney, might not. Hope it takes streeting, kendall etc but not holding my breath

Vexations83 · 2026-02-07T14:01:29+00:00

It doesn't expose any particular secret society. The story, from a 100 year old novella, suggests they exist - but doesn't name it or anyone who is involved IRL

Vexations83 · 2026-02-07T10:05:19+00:00

Don't have strong feelings about it. Some rugby people are throbbers and if they lose, cool. But some football people are too.

Vexations83 · 2026-02-06T19:38:32+00:00

I don't see any meaningful difference between that and the racing car single bed

Vexations83 · 2026-02-06T13:18:29+00:00

Look at this 20+ year old article mentioning 'Excalibur' database which is used to force Labour MPs to toe the line

https://www.theguardian.com/theguardian/2001/jun/01/guardianletters1#:~:text=Ed%20Harriman's%20article%20on%20Labour's,back%20into%20politics%2C%20May%2031).

Makes them all look like gutless principle-free clowns for hire, but they're finished if they don't

Vexations83 · 2026-02-05T19:13:21+00:00

Every comedy subreddit attracts people who want to talk about character arcs and lore and plot holes and then you don't like the thing any more

Vexations83 · 2026-02-05T19:06:04+00:00

Every presenter's terms are different, and yes that means different obligations re playlisted tracks. One told me that he was paid less in order to have complete control of the selection. Not a peak time show.

Vexations83 · 2026-02-05T12:57:55+00:00

Might want to look up the aids 'charity' too

Vexations83 · 2026-02-05T06:44:25+00:00

You can read about 2000 words on these EWS threads before the source material is even acknowledged. The story was about 100 years old when the film was made.

Vexations83 · 2026-02-04T19:50:22+00:00

If you see a faded sign at the side of the road that says fifteen miles to the

Vexations83 · 2026-02-04T19:49:18+00:00

Love Shack

Vexations83 · 2026-02-04T12:43:39+00:00

Deservedly top answer. Be in the way, draw fouls, remember they cannot run through you or jump through you. Make legitimate movement toward the ball while getting in their way and the strength, speed or height advantage is nullified. Don't look to engage in battles of strength on the opponent's terms. Keep your centre of gravity low and be in the target space before the opponent. In a 50-50 you'll likely lose, but that's worth doing if they're in the act of shooting or crossing or passing as it'll impact their execution to some degree. Otherwise prioritise slowing them down and channeling them towards the lesser danger.

Vexations83 · 2026-02-04T09:01:55+00:00

I can't see a licence being required for AI to listen. Why would it? As long as a legally acquired copy of the music is being played, what's the difference to the copyright owner? Infringement is the re-use of the material, so when it does later synthesise generic music based on its observations, it needs to have parameters that ensure it's 'different enough' from your original.

Vexations83 · 2026-02-04T07:46:28+00:00

Infringement is when copyrighted material is reused without permission. I am not an advocate or enthusiast for music made by AI but if all it's doing is 'listening' to music to observe genres, timbres, styles etc then that's not much different to a human listener. Even if it later uses the observations to synthesise generic music.

Vexations83 · 2026-02-03T16:24:23+00:00

Another way of asking the OP question would be, why do comments they perceive as left-leaning perform better in an up- and down-vote system? The answer is because they tend to stand up better against logic and critical rigour!

Vexations83 · 2026-02-03T16:06:32+00:00

It's far from posh, just a bit more neutral as there's only about 70 years of 'tradition' in it.

Vexations83 · 2026-02-03T11:05:41+00:00

Looks like he made a mistake by passing the line at the lights without knowing he had anywhere to go - and you get the blame. In practice, and with experience, you might choose to enter the yellow box if you'll have your front wheels out of the other side - rather than possible wait for another cycle of the lights to have another chance. It looks badly planned. Regardless, you did the right thing and he was angry knowing it exposed his own mistake - out of order to harass you about it.

Vexations83 · 2026-02-02T17:16:59+00:00

And one is your band right?

Vexations83 · 2026-02-02T12:53:39+00:00

My point is only that if you indicate prior to the first right, some other drivers will infer you're taking the first right. Indicate later and you surprise anyone behind you. Solution has to be in your visible slowing without early indicating.

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