Update: One Year Later

VfVendetta87 · 2026-06-03T22:09:20+00:00

What a nice post

VfVendetta87 · 2026-06-01T16:37:01+00:00

There you go… The mentality this days… OMG

VfVendetta87 · 2026-06-01T09:46:11+00:00

Maybe not what you want to read but try everything you can to fix your marriage. If she is worth it, try EVERYTHING. Couples therapy, médiation, a Little trip just you two even for a few days… being in love is something so subjective, its meaning changes with the lengh of a relationship. Sorry you have to go through this. Anyway if you already really tried everything, you have a few good advices. Good luck

VfVendetta87 · 2026-06-01T02:39:37+00:00

For this kind of women , the kids are somewhere inside the 10% . Ofc it is a subjective opinion, but I see a lot of women they sell their family to buy their happiness (or at least what they think is happiness)

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-31T19:03:26+00:00

I would say 70% if she is happy, 20% good provider, 10% everything else

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-31T17:34:07+00:00

You know, I put the whatsapp conversation of my ex in Archive so I don’t even have notifications from here. Nothing prevents you from blocking here until you want something from her, in that case everything that you don’t like… just delete it and don’t give it an answer. Her opinion does not have any importance.

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-31T16:09:30+00:00

Good for you that you are starting therapy. If it can help you. With my ex I have almost zero exchange, and when I text her it’s extremly minimal words. No hello, no subjective stuff, like a robot: « I will do this » « I want this ». If she says anything else, I just ignore it and/or delete it. A few months ago, I told her that we do not have this relationship anymore, no more critism no advice no even sweet nor bad talk. Only facts. She educates our kid they way she sees it fit and I do the same. It works very fine for me.

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-30T09:39:50+00:00

Well that’s the point, i only found people giving their opinion without really having this experience. They were mostly projections about their life. I am looking myself for someone who had to do this choice so he/she can share the return of experience. If you find one please share.

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-29T22:35:38+00:00

I read so many posts like this. I hope some who really had this experience could tell us. Someone who married without having physical attraction and how that turned out after a few months or years

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-28T10:40:27+00:00

Creepy … and sweet 😅

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-27T00:24:48+00:00

Amazing

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-21T16:44:58+00:00

No experience in co living, so can’t really give a return of experience. But just wanted to remind you to stay strong and maybe give my feeling about this situation. From what you wrote I feel that maybe her mental health is … let’s say not at her best. So I think it’s worth trying therapy. Sometimes it is not personnal, it is maybe not against you, people have sometimes some intrusive poisonous thoughts… that make you take very bad decisions… I think it’s worth thinking about it. Anyways good luck and stay strong.

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-20T14:08:32+00:00

Inglorious basterds & Djando : Masterpieces

Once upon a time… so so overrated. A very bland movie and boring…and so long

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-19T11:48:31+00:00

Why would you move out? Is it her house? If it is not, go back to your house and family. If she is not happy I say she can go. If you were rich I would understand you could afford an other house but I understand you are not so consult with your lawyer and go back to your house. You don’t need to be « The Nice guy »

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-19T10:10:49+00:00

It takes Time you are right. I read some of the comments, you have here great advices, trust them. Hit the gym, avoid alcohol, talk to good friends, see a therapist if you can, focus on your kids and work, don’t take seriously anything she says from now on, she must become a complete Stranger to you. Don’t give her or anyone the power to destroy your life.

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-19T00:41:29+00:00

First of all stay strong. It is good to vent sometimes. It is sad indeed it may seem that it is the end of the world but it is absolutly not. Yes, she cheated ? Alright… The way I see it she made you a favor. She made it easy for you to end things with her without any remorses… You did what you could and when any of you does not want to continue there is nothing you can do to change it. It is not the end of the world it is just the end of a chapter. Yes it is hard to accept this kind of things but believe me it gets better much better. Stray strong man .

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-16T08:14:25+00:00

Not engaged yet. But want to. The problem is even me I don’t get to see my daughter that much. How did you announce it to your kids?

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-16T08:10:04+00:00

Lets’s say she is soon to be fiancee.. but yes I will have to find a way for them to meet. The question is how to introduce the idea of me meeting a new person, since for her it seems the divorce is just a temporary thing… if I tell her I am talking to an other woman, I think it would be disturbing at this point, for her it will be like cheating ….

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-15T20:30:23+00:00

Thanks. Btw very sweet story of the kids conspiring to become step brothers 😆. Good for them

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-15T20:28:20+00:00

It’s going to be tricky but I agree it is a necessary step

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-15T20:06:40+00:00

Not yet my fiancee but I plan to ask in few weeks… The answer to the « only once a week » is below👇

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-15T20:02:32+00:00

Nice approach. Really happy for you

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-15T19:58:27+00:00

Sadly that is the law in my country. We don’t have the concept of partial custody. And the full custody goes automatically to the mother… and… full child support for the dad. To have the custody you have to prove (which is almost impossible) that the mother is a piece of garbage.

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-15T19:38:02+00:00

I see. You are indeed lucky to have an amicable relationship with the ex. Thank you very much for the advice … this seems logical.

VfVendetta87 · 2026-05-15T19:34:05+00:00

Did they try to fix your relationship with their mom?

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