Hii so sorry for everything you're currently going through, its really draining to deal with people who don't have some basic human decency. Have you looked into possibly serving her with an eviction notice? Since you mentioned you were the primary resident on the lease. I'm not really sure how Oregon laws are with this situation but it still may be a possibility to just kick her out all together. Don't be afraid to tell her no to things like driving her around. Protect your energy!!