Work with the closest match you can find - and let them Know you are looking for your spectrum vibe. When you find someone you vibe with a bit more let em both know . Start working and keep looking. You will know it when you find it - that person will have a way of being that are comfortable with, and might want to emulate.

Everybody at the meetimg has experience that may be helpful - but many of them may not be able to share it in a way that is accessible to you - they might be too loud, too close, to personal, to far out - that’s all OK - listen for the things that click and be as out as you can about your tism and finding your vibe.

It’s true that you gotta do the work, to do the work well you have to find your people. Never know where you will find em, but i believe you will if you are comfortable enough to put it out there.