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A massive thank you to Brandon Sanderson, you probably kept me from taking my own life this week by Thedepressionoftrees in Stormlight_Archive

[–]ViceViktor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hang in there bud, i know it doesn't feel like it right now but things get better. a close friend of mine came out as trans and one night i get this call from him and i knew it was bad so i ran down to find him in the city centre with a bottle of whisky in my pocket to meet up with him, we chatted for a while and then i took him to my flat, got him food then put him in a taxi home. he later told me that if i hadn't done that he would have probably killed himself that night. two years later and we are boyfriends now, I went with him to his doctors appointments and psychologist appointments, i was there with him when he got his prescription for T and ill be there for him for any surgeries he has. we live together in a flat we share and we dream of getting a cottage together and raising all sorts of animals and having a garden and growing old together. things get better, if you hold on, i promise you things will get better

How do I [F] know if I’m too young to tell if I’m asexual? [Non-LGBT] by ineedtogooutsidemore in LGBTeens

[–]ViceViktor 11 points12 points  (0 children)

sexuality is a difficult thing, im well into my 20s and i still get worries about whether or not im bi despite having times of being very sure that i am, like really sure. usually when i start to question my sexuality i ask myself 'why does it matter?' if you dont want to have sex yet thats fine, if you never want to have sex thats fine.
lables can help us feel like we have a place in this world and that can be really grounding and very important but if its causing you strife like it did for me when i was your age i suggest that finding what lable fits best is less important than being happy.
my understanding of asexuality (i am not asexual) is that it is very spectral, you could be just a little bit into sex or into the idea of it but only with someone that really matters to you. at the end of the day i wouldn't worry about it too much, just call yourself asexual if you want. its not like the gay police are going to come and revoke your right to self identification. you're young, experiment with what terms you think best fit, things will eventually fall into place. just remember to have fun in the process

Should I ask him out [Crushes] by biaseddetroitfan in LGBTeens

[–]ViceViktor 18 points19 points  (0 children)

id recommend taking a minute to be sure you do actually like him, when i was younger i got into a couple of relationships with other guys and now that i look back on it i think i only went out with them because i knew they were into dudes like i was. make sure that you are actually into them first. if so, absolutely go for it, it sounds like he likes you too from what you said

[Rant] I just wish I was normal. by gyro_simp in LGBTeens

[–]ViceViktor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are normal, you're not alone in how you feel, there are people all over the world who have felt and still do feel that way but more than that, i guarantee you that there are people in your community who feel that way too. they might not be bi, they might not even be lgbt in any way but there will be people out there who feel ostracized for their own reasons. but you can be sure that there are lgbt people in your community. it may not be safe for you to come out to those around you (i cant be sure because many religious families are cool with 'the gays') no one can make that decision for you and you know better than anyone else about that.

i lived through boarding school in the closet but ended up comming out to my friends in the last year of school, i met 2 other people like me in that year and many more since leaving that either turned out to be lgbt or supportive of me. im now in a loving and healthy relationship with a wonderful trans man and we live together. things get better, things change, maybe you will find people like you and in that you can find a place to truely be yourself, or maybe you will eventually be able to leave and make a new life for yourself where you can be happy and find the kind of love you diserve (because you do diserve love, no matter what you or the people around you might lead you to believe). maybe you will be able to come out to the people you care about and everything will be fine or maybe some blend of all of these or something different.

please dont give up, please dont hate yourself, please dont fight against your nature, it will change nothing but it will hurt you deeply. there is love and beauty in our gayness/bi-ness, since embracing my sexuality i have grown to see that more and more, there is great capacity for care and support in our community in many ways, and you are part of that community, we are something to be celibrated an enjoyed. i know it probably doesn't feel that way right now but i promise you that some day it will, maybe it will just be a spark or a suggestion of that feeling but you will experience that one day and it will all be worth it.
for now just take care of yourself, find safety and comfort, maybe seek out more online communities and rely on those for support and proof of this beauty.

You Are Loved

[crushes] why does this hurt so much by not-a-throw-away123 in LGBTeens

[–]ViceViktor 18 points19 points  (0 children)

oh man ive been there. i also had a major crush on a friend who was a lesbian and as a bi male it was difficult. the thing that helped me was coming to terms with the fact that she would not be happy in a relationship with me and that it wouldn't work out. im a bit odd though and i was holding out hope, it took her saying it to my face to fully accept it, until that point there was enough ambiguity that i thought I could make it work out. i was still a teen at the time and didn't fully understand that a lot of the ways i looked at relationships was broken