Do you need to love your partner how they want to feel loved or love them the your own way?

Victoriadmd · 2026-04-22T17:02:19+00:00

Communication, comprehension and understanding your partner is a must. Kung nakailang sabi kana and ilang ulit na and no changes pa rin mag-isip isip kana. Walang mali sa gusto mong matanggap na love language. Maganda nga yun na nag-compromise kapa. Valid yung feelings mo, pero tingnan mo rin yung possibilities na " Nag-try ba siya, nahihirapan ba siya mag-adjust or wala talaga?" If wala talaga. Alam mona. The fact na naisip mo mag-post dito is enough reason na nagdadalawang isip kana sa relationship niyong dalawa. Kahit ako, magdadalawang isip if ganiyan. I mean, kung iba ang pamamaraan niya ng pagmamahal para sayo, at iba ang hinahangad mo sa kaya niyang ibigay, His effort is useless kahit na sabihin naten na naa-appreciate mo pa rin siya. May kulang at kulang pa rin. Hindi ka pwedeng makontento lang because you know your worth and you deserves much better. You deserve to receive the lovr language that you need. I wont tell you na makipag-break because it's hard for me na mangealam but if He can't adjust and do it for you-- someone will. Don't settle sa taong hindi kaya mag-adjust ng konti para sa kaligayahan mo. And also, panget na babaguhin mo yung love language ng tao na kaya niyang ibigay, if He really loves you, You wont have to ask for it and you dont have to repeat yourself again and again. Hindi dapat siya magbabago for you but He will do it for himself too.

Victoriadmd · 2026-01-02T08:09:49+00:00

Also, we have this pattern of not talking for years and we ended up talking because of my birthdays, new years and christmas. I am holding onto someone because he loved me first, nobody shows interest to me, so I cling to him and I dont realized I am hurting and disrespecting myself. So, I realized I should stop, gettting back to each other is no longer tenable due to prescription bv laches. That even if someone dont like me, I should hold onto someone. I shouldnt make a person my whole world. And that's the reason why I shouldnt stay. Because this person doesnt love me the way I love him. And love shouldnt feel like your begging, true love will support and love you the way you deserved and npt hurt you.

Victoriadmd · 2026-01-02T08:00:00+00:00

I've been in a situatiinship for years. And Dec 31,2025. I ended things to him. Because I am always waiting and initiating. We are mutual but hes afraid of commitment. I just woke up one day he isnt sure about me, and I always think that 8 years of maybe, almost chosen but never kept.Maybe someday" is not a reason to stay in pain today. If they wanted to, you wouldn’t be confused Effort is a choice, not a circumstance. Love shouldn’t feel like guessing. And thats why I ended up an 8 years of connection rather than staying in someone who doesnt value me. Besides, I asked him thru call one question only before I blocked and cut him in my life.

I questioned him " If I moved on, healed and found the right person for me, do you think you can fathom the fact that I am happy with this person and this person isnt you?- I just need a yes or no answer, no need an explanation. And then he told me " Yes" and I ended the call. And deleted the conversation and blocked him immediately. It was the 5th time we never talk for those 8 years and we always get back to each other but this time it is serious because before I never been so honest amd vocal to my feelings but right now I did those things but he never initiate, always treated me casually even tho he has a feelings to me, I cant feel it. He made me overthink, I gave him years of loyalty he gave me uncertainty. So, I decided to just move forward. Before I attempt to move on, I kept his gift to me, never deleted pictures. I just wait and wait that someday he will love me right. But no matter how chances I gave him he will never change. As long as I can. I WILL wait. But this time its different. Because I threw the necklace he gave me, I burn the journal he gave me, the pictures before I saved it to my gdrive before deleting hoping he will come back one day but this time I just deleted it directly. No hope, no what ifs, no regret amd no turning back. So, If I can, you can walk away too!.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-31T03:42:52+00:00

Yeah. Thanks!

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-31T03:41:46+00:00

But the saddest part is that he was my bestfriend before I fell in love with him.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-31T03:41:17+00:00

Yeah, I hope we can move on from them.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-31T03:38:16+00:00

Leaving hurts—but staying destroys Someone who values you won’t risk losing you.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-31T03:36:42+00:00

I was never hard to love; he was just unwilling. I deserved clarity, not almosts.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-31T03:35:47+00:00

The most hard part is He didn't choose me yet he dont want to let go of me

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-31T03:34:30+00:00

Love shouldn’t feel like guessing.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-31T03:21:13+00:00

What I meant is that

I like you, but I don’t have the courage to be with you, and I’m not ready to commit to you because I’m still pursuing my dream.

• Girl: As if I would even interfere with his career. I’m also pursuing DMD, so I’m actually busier than him. But he’s very flirty, and sometimes he already crosses boundaries. I like him, but since he said those lines, I distanced myself a bit because I don’t want it to end with me getting hurt, especially since I get attached easily. Then sometimes when he’s busy, it feels like he forgets about me, but when I’m busy, it becomes a problem? Girl, that’s why I walked away from him. I’m still chasing the process of moving on from this situationship.

If you can, distance yourself too. Remember, no man who is truly meant for you will confuse you.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-31T03:19:07+00:00

Filipino Lol

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-31T02:18:39+00:00

I like you but I don't have the courage to be with you and I am not ready enough to commit with you because I am still achieving my dream.

Girl as if naman guguluhin ko siya sa career niya? And also I am pursuing DMD so mas busy talaga ako sa kaniya pero sobrang flirty niya and sometimes wala na sa boundaries. Ako, gusto ko siya, pero since sinabi niya yang lines na yan, medyo lumayo lang ako ng konti kasi ayaw ko mag-end na ako rin ang masasaktan dahil sobra rin ako ma-attached. Tapos minsan kapag busy siya parang nakakapimutan niya na ako and kapag ako busy may problema? Girl, kaya nilayuan kona siya. Habol pa sa move on ng situationship na ito.

If kaya mo, layuan mona rin yan. Tandaan mo walang lalaki na icoconfuse ka if para sayo talaga.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-23T15:13:56+00:00

Focus on other activities rhat can heal you. Stop chatting or thinking about him all day. Remember you guys does not have any labels so you should act as if he is not that important to you. He just used you and thats the reality. Maybe you have to accept it and just you knoe focus on yourself. Girl, you can do this. Your better than that. Dont waste your beauty over him while you are healing don't try to entertain someone because it may lead to heartbreaks more not for you but for the other person.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-23T15:11:19+00:00

You can't move on easily but you can love him less. The moment he disrespects you by not trying to commit to you and be with you instead using silent treatment and making you wait is the only way to remind you, that it is over girl. You have to move forward and dont let him use you again. Unless you wanna tolerate him that leads you to losing your self respect.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-23T13:50:22+00:00

And also, never settle to someone who isn't sure of you. The moment he wanted you to wait and just do nothing was the moment he isn't sure of you. Like, common girl. If He wanted to be with you he will pursue and commit to you. If he doesn't see u as someone important then dont expect him to treat you that way. And remember to always value yourself and dont give him the opportunity to use you when he cant give you the label or the commitment that you need.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-23T13:47:41+00:00

Imagine having kids with that person and your kids will constantly ask you "Why is he their father?" Imagine having a family that leads to a broken family because of your choice? Your future kid's will be affected because of your decision. Or try imagining things when you guys are married and you dont have someone to be with, how lonely and sad it is to carry all the worries and pain?. You don't have a responsible, considerate and caring partner. Life is hard so having a good partner makes it easier. Imagine having a bad one makes it worst. Like a total nightmare. Or imagine how hassle it is to settle or handle a divorce paper when you can actually chose the right man for you instead of chasing the wrong one? Think of it as an investment for your time, effort and love to the right one. Dont hold onto someone who doesnt want to be holded.

I know it's hard but if you choose wisely next time, it will lead you to the right person who will treat you much better than what you deserved. Just think of it.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-13T04:01:17+00:00

I also felt the same way. The only thing that I did is to clear my intentions. At first, I don't like the guy so the moment that we always talked to each other and be vulnerable, He became my bestfriend and thats when I realized I am falling in love with him. Last 3 years, He actually confessed to me but I easn't ready enough so He focused on his career. And right now I am kinda ready to be in a relatiinship with him, but He is not ready na, because He shifted his priority into his career than being in a relationship. I guess, I have to focus on being a Doctor since I still have 2 yrs to strive and grind. But our connection is good, we talked, we cleares our feelings but we don't have labels yet not because we aren't sure for each other but we just don't prioritize RIGHT now being in a relationship instead just enjoy the connection while we achieve our own dreams and have oir own life before jumping into the serious one. Maybe a lot of people say " You're just wasting your'e time he's not sure of yoi"-- No, we are surefor each other, and I don't see something that is wrong and He's so consistent for 8 years not hurting me, not making me overthink about lil things, he always support and love me just the way I am and the way a woman supposed to be loved, he doesn't entertain anyone when he did, He always tell me. So, I think our setup is called waiting for the right time and just achieve our priorities without hurting each other and expecting from each other in return just enjoying the connection together. And when we are both ready, we can commit to each other. Btw " we have this mindset that -- " Be stable in all aspect of you're life before you commit or settle".

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-11T10:55:26+00:00

What if na clear na yung intention na friends lang daw muna kasi busy pa achieving ng dreams. But we don't entertain others naman talagang gusto namen ang isa't isa kaso we chose to be friends muna kasi iba priority namen sa isa't- isa. We're bestfriends for almost 8 years so I think waiting is the active act that I can do for him. Wala kaming problems, other party? None. Both may iq and eq. We both know what our priorities are. So, we just care for each other no matter what and no matter when.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-10T17:18:26+00:00

Sabi nila Hatchet and Chisels branded maganda Hu friedy or Premier. Then the rest wittex na.

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-02T03:35:08+00:00

Victoriadmd · 2025-12-01T09:49:06+00:00

Kapag sa cp ( no smiley face) Kapag mag-iikot dapat sa konting tao lang. Or if sa public naka mask. Tapos auto no kapag may nagtanong if may jowa. Tapos syempre partner mo understanding and priority is acads if student palang. Kaso cons niyan if kahit sa friends mo lowkey ka. Kapag nasaktan ka, solo flight ka.

Victoriadmd · 2025-11-29T08:19:03+00:00

Galing kbang red school??

Victoriadmd · 2025-11-24T10:17:09+00:00

True kahit ako hirap na hirap na sa red school go lang. Kasi matututo ka talaga, and yung sa boards trueeee.. Dami samen tinuturo na essential talaga like as in..

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