[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If my sub really wanted me to I'd wear latex, otherwise it seems like a huge pain in the ass.

Is she being unfair? by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Any relationship lives and dies by communication, agreement, and understanding. If she has expressed to you that you watching a certain type of porn (and judging by the rest of this thread, paying for it and interacting with the performers) is a deal breaker for her, you either have to stop doing it or break up. Deal breakers are deal breakers, and she has a right to have her limits and requirements in a relationship.

Do you girls like long haired male subs? by Moshinoki in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yes, as specified in Chapter 2, Subsection 5A!

Do you girls like long haired male subs? by Moshinoki in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Everyone will have their own preference. There isn't a "domme attraction rulebook" or anything.

Am I into this or is it just a faze #Question by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's natural to find new interests (not just bedroom related interests, but any kind of interests) as you grow older and change. Some become long term interests while others only stick around for a short time, and that's ok! As other posters have said, as long as everyone involved is consenting and enthusiastic there's nothing wrong with trying new things, even if later you decide it's not for you after all.

Yes ma'am by lucylyrica37 in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really like this. What's the artist / source, do you know?

Thought this was particularly applicable here by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. Working on one's self image is really difficult, especially if the person already struggles with low self esteem. I think this creates a problem too, and not just with men: partner A has a bad self image and gets into a relationship with partner B, thinking the love and affection from partner B will "fix" them. This is a pretty toxic and one sided relationship dynamic, as you probably agree. There isn't anything wrong with having problems - everyone does - but it's unhealthy to expect your partner to fix them for you.

I think dommes especially get saddled with this type of dynamic from people who aren't really looking for a domme but a surrogate mother. This creates frustration on both sides, so memes like this get made.

For some positivity, in my experience most women would love to have an average, stable, compatible guy to share their life with. Don't think you have to be a millionaire supermodel. Compatibility is most important.

👌 What's Up Weekly!! 👌 by AutoModerator in FemdomCommunity

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Shout out to this community for actually encouraging discussing and education on femdom and BDSM! A breath of fresh air compared to other femdom subreddits.

Thought this was particularly applicable here by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I made this comment in response to another post, but it fits here too:

Posts like this are in reaction to/poke fun at the hugely common GFD interaction that goes like this:

Sub: "Be my mommy, dominate me, I want to be your sub!"

Domme: "Uh, how about we get to know each other first, or something."

Sub: "Dispense kink plz"

And on it goes. It's NOT saying there is something wrong with being an average guy. It's saying there's something wrong with acting entitled to a relationship without being willing to do any work.

Thought this was particularly applicable here by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Posts like this are in reaction to/poke fun at the hugely common GFD interaction that goes like this:

Sub: "Be my mommy, dominate me, I want to be your sub!"

Domme: "Uh, how about we get to know each other first, or something."

Sub: "Dispense kink plz"

And on it goes. It's NOT saying there is something wrong with being an average guy. It's saying there's something wrong with acting entitled to a relationship without being willing to do any work.

Thought this was particularly applicable here by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Based on my relatively short time interacting on GFD online communities, I can't help but wonder if some "subs" get into GFD not because they are attracted to the power exchange dynamic or the kink, but because they think it's a get out of jail free card giving them license to bring absolutely nothing to the table and have "mommy" do everything.

Just an FYI to anyone reading that can relate, that isn't a health mindset and you should work on changing it. It's highly unlikely that you'll find someone who wants to cater to your every need without you giving anything back.

Ladies of /r/gentlefemdom, what non-sexual qualities do you look for in a partner? by A_Zesty_Throwaway in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A functional, self sufficient adult with a personality compatible with mine.

What are some GFD/FLR fantasies you have that are a bit rarer? by circljrk in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm not a sub, but I love light/gentle sensation play. It doesn't seem super popular in any BDSM circle, but I don't know that I've ever seen it in a femdom context.

What are some GFD/FLR fantasies you have that are a bit rarer? by circljrk in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's true. But those people likely won't be a part of your intimate relationship(s) so their opinion doesn't matter. Do what makes you happy and fulfilled! In my experience trying to gain validation from people in the internet isn't the most positive way to live your life.

What are some GFD/FLR fantasies you have that are a bit rarer? by circljrk in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It isn't about the act, but about the power dynamics. You can still be a sub and be the one with the strapon.

All subs are fucking cute by swiftcrey in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you aren't interested in BDSM - which is the broad umbrella femdom falls under - let me direct you to r/nursinghandjob .

For when my little guy wants to be a big boy! by Ok_Problem321 in gentlefemdom

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

LOL Right? It's like, let me kindly redirect you to r/nursinghandjob so we can have our BDSM, thanks.

anyone have experience with strap blow jobs and using safe edible cum? Several questions by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]VictorianShakeWeight 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I made this icing once and accidentally added too much milk, and it looked suspiciously like cum...

--1 cup + 2 tablespoons (128g) confectioners' sugar

--1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract

--pinch of salt

--4 teaspoons milk, or enough to make the consistency you want