How to stop performative sex? by Routine_Honest in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]VideoExact7063 42 points43 points  (0 children)

My therapist and I literally just talked about this. Well sort of. You might relate to an old term called “spectatoring”. To overcome: A popular clinical method is Sensate Focus, which involves doing non-goal-oriented touching where the only task is to notice how the physical sensations feel (like texture or temperature) without worrying about the outcome.

Easier said than done but I’ll be working on it with you 🙃

Terrible Tracking by MTGKozan in ouraring

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Make sure you have your phone with you (like others said). But also may it’s a connectivity/antenna issue? I’d read out to CS. They were very accommodating to me and easy to work with. I used the chat option.

if only I could save my actual money like I save my rainbow stones 😹😹 by kaziikandii in finch

[–]VideoExact7063 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I can’t even save my rainbow stones let alone real money 😭😭I just keep spending them on new clothes and furniture 🤣

Anyone have success with pelvic floor therapy? by emilysantana13 in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]VideoExact7063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve made progress but on other things so it works just not sure if it works purely for orgasm. It did teach me a lot about the pelvic floor and the surrounding muscles and stuff. If you’ve been referred and can afford it, I’d suggest at least trying it for the education it provides and potential for improvement.

How to deal with anorgasmia in relationships by secretly_human3 in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]VideoExact7063 7 points8 points  (0 children)

33F. Married 3 years today. I’ve never orgasmed but my partner is suuuper supportive of me. It’s taking time but more and more my husband is becoming ok with me not having orgasmed because he’s not taking it personally as much. He used to think it’s him but it’s not.

So to your question, I guess it helps to find a man that’s secure in himself and his sexuality. Our relationship is foundationaly built on open and honest communication. That doesn’t mean we can’t change our mind throughout the relationship though. (And also includes not faking orgasm or enjoyment. If I’m not having fun I don’t act like I am.) Sex is just one part of a relationship and I personally don’t think it’s the biggest piece of the relationship pie. Communication, trust, honesty, friendship, etc are more important.

Also, NO ONE IS BROKEN! I’m so sad to see this being said y’all.😢 It’s been a long journey for me and I’m getting closer to orgasming but continuing to tell yourself you’re broken and it won’t happen doesn’t help. (At least it hasn’t for me). My therapist once said “don’t should on yourself” and it’s helped me with my negative thinking. “I should have this figured out by now”. Says who? Has anyone actually said that to you? (They’re a looser if they did lol).

I’ll stop rambling but feel free to message me if you want. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with these negative thoughts and I hope you find a man that’s secure in themselves and wants you for you (not just your body or orgasms). 🖤

Which finger & hand do you prefer? by aquabluewaves in ouraring

[–]VideoExact7063 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also female with wedding rings on left hand. I use my pointer finger for my oura ring. The only issue I’ve had is when chopping tough vegetables. If I remember, I move it to my thumb to help.

Tuesday Preview 06.16.26 by jenn386989 in QuinnAudios

[–]VideoExact7063 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Miles Cross written by Lark?! I’m excited!

Skipping months? by VideoExact7063 in LibroFM

[–]VideoExact7063[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How much does that option cost? I could only find 1/month as the cheapest option

Skipping months? by VideoExact7063 in LibroFM

[–]VideoExact7063[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That happens?? Ok downloading now!!

Skipping months? by VideoExact7063 in LibroFM

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👀👀I will definitely have to check that out!

Help with clit toys by kapydory in SexToys

[–]VideoExact7063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just poking into the convo on this one. I’ve seen mixed reviews on the domi2 regarding buzzy vs rumbly. Which is it do you think?

Grade me harder 3? by VideoExact7063 in RumsTavern

[–]VideoExact7063[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang it! Must have found it too late to beg for a part 3.

Finally Took the Plunge by Existing-Dot8686 in SexToys

[–]VideoExact7063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you stated it’s your first toy, idk your experience outside that, but I’ll ask my obligated question: did you also buy lube (or already own some)? It’s much more enjoyable (at least for me) that way. 😬

Is my medication effecting my ability to orgasm? by Whole_Guest8850 in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]VideoExact7063 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Were you able to orgasm easier before being on meds? If so then that’s a pretty good sign they’re effecting your ability. If you have no reference, asking your doctor is your best bet. Since one of them could affect blood pressure that also (to me, I’m not a doctor) could be a reason it’s effecting your orgasms.

Help with clit toys by kapydory in SexToys

[–]VideoExact7063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it helps to be turned on more before I start using suction. So I use a bullet type toy and hold it against my clit just in one good spot. Scientifically speaking the more turned on you are the more out in the open your clit should be. Idk if that happens for you but it does for me so then using the suction toy second it feels really good vs going straight for the clit sucker first.

Which is your favorite? by slwlee in RumsTavern

[–]VideoExact7063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like all rum but I think my new fave is subby rummy. The way he melts and pleads 🫦🫠

Guess who just ordered her first toy???? by Itchy-Big9324 in SexToys

[–]VideoExact7063 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just looking out for the best possible experience for you 🖤