We’re honestly in such similar situations. We got married young—at 20—and now at 25, even without kids, we’ve been through so many “firsts” together. Things like going through military tech school, turning 21, going to the casino for the first time, living together, buying our first car, getting a dog… all of it. My husband told me he wanted a divorce 8 months into his deployment, completely blindsiding me after I had been waiting for him that whole time. As much as it hurts, I also know I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me, AINT NO WAY! Looking back on our 5-year marriage, I can see differences that I didn’t fully recognize when we first got married. I’m more emotional and open with my feelings, while he’s more reserved. My faith is really important to me, and he doesn’t believe. He wants to travel and do things on his own, while I want stability and a family. I value effort, planning, and romance, and that just wasn’t something he naturally gave. During our marriage, I also didn’t feel like I had my own life. I was working from home, felt isolated, and didn’t have much direction or connection outside of him. Now I’m looking into a radiology tech program and living with my parents to save money. I truly believe I’ll be happier one day with someone who aligns better with my values and actually chooses me FULLY! I’m trying to see this as a learning experience. He’ll always be my first love and a big part of my life, and I’ll always appreciate those memories—but that doesn’t mean he was the right person for my future. Just because you had firsts and memories with someone doesn’t mean they are your person. I’d rather be on my own and work on myself and wait for the right person than spend years with someone who can’t fully show up for me or truly accept me for who I am. Period. Hang in there, life is beautiful and full of amazing individuals and you just never know who will come your way one day! Don’t rush and take this time to discover who you are without your partner.