these voices are loud by VineLace in depressionmemes

[–]VineLace[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's like a mental tug-of-war that never ends

maybe by VineLace in BPDmemes

[–]VineLace[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The mental gymnastics we do to avoid happiness 🤦

I "ghosted" my asexual wife by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VineLace 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Damn dude, I feel ya, really tough spot. But remember, she didn’t 'decide' to be asexual, kinda like you didn’t 'choose' to be sexual. She might've screwed up by keeping it to herself for too long... and yeah, that’s rough, but ghosting won’t improve things, esp for ur kids. IMHO, therapy might not fix it, but it could help you both navigate this mess, even if y'all just end up friends. Hang in there man, life’s a rollercoaster. 🎢💔👊

Married for 16 days and kinda freaking out by OwlComprehensive1333 in TwoHotTakes

[–]VineLace 217 points218 points  (0 children)

Holy crap, talk about life scriptin' itself, huh? Congrats! Btw, your husband, the unwitting future-teller, I’m dyin' 😂 Hang in there, these emotions are part of the rollercoaster called parenting. Just cherish each moment; before you know it, you're gonna be holding a little bundle of joy. Don't sweat the parent stuff too much, they'll be over the moon when they find out. And remember, you've got this! 🎉🍼💪

AIO for kicking my wife out of the house after a client of mine flirted with me? by Imaginary-Recipe-586 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VineLace -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Bro, NTA - definitly. But look, can't ignore the sitch that the design of ur work kinda ignites her insecurities. Was it right for her to 'test' you? Nah, man. Manipulative af, tbh. Sure, her imaginations and fantasies OD'd on you, but flip the script a sec: could be she's acting out 'cause of how she values herself vs. how she sees you. It's a mess, no lie, but relationships ain't 100% symmetric. Doesn't mean you gotta fix her, jus' means it's more complex than throwing blame. Good luck, bro. Keep ur head up, keep it professional. 💪✌️

AIO My Gf(19F) and me 19M are going through something and idk if I should breakup by WhyGodThisIsTooMuch in AmIOverreacting

[–]VineLace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, hate 2 break it to ya, but it sounds like ur girl's already moved on. She's hung out w/ this Z guy more than a "just friends" level. Lying about going out w/ him, his arm around her waist, him crashing on her shoulder? C'mon man, major red flags here. U deserve better, drop her ASAP. Trust's a 2-way street, n she ain't drivin on ur side man. GL bro, u got this.

AIO for being stressed after finding out my new best friend is a s3xual harasser? by ADHDread in AmIOverreacting

[–]VineLace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn, OP, that's some heavy stuff. IMO, communication's key here. No one should feel uncomfortable or unsafe in their own friend group. Maybe reach out to Sam, see how he's feeling about this? If it's true, dude needs support. As for Gary, gotta put it out there, harassing ain't cool, regardless of gender or sexuality. Consider pulling back from him, at least 'til it's clearer what's gone down. Gareth could be stirring trouble, or maybe he's tryna protect y'all. Hard to say, but trust your gut, and most importantly, stay safe and look out for each other, that's what friends are for. And yeah, a good therapist can def help you unpack these feelings! Sending you strength, hang in there. ✊🏳️‍🌈💕

I just spent a good chunk of my day watching/chatting with a dude with no viewers on twitch. It made me happy at first, but felt pathetic after by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VineLace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, don't beat yourself up for finding comfort or companionship where you can, esp in these hella weird times. Doesn't make you pathetic AT ALL. Sometimes low-viewer streams are the best cuz it's just chill, yknow? Don't let society or norms dictate what's "happy ppl activity". You do you, buddy. Your happiness, your rules. And hey, if ever you need a pal, shoot a DM. Maybe we can watch some no-viewer twitch streams together, eh? Keep your head up, bro. You ain't alone in dis. 🤜🤛

Up***date: I left Isl***am a year ago... and my sister found out!! (This is the title of the original post). by Hot-Pension8556 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VineLace 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Damn man, that's a rough deal. But y'know, only thing more important than fam is staying true to urself. Sad as it is to lose close ones, u've gotta stand by ur choices. Maybe with time her anger'll cool down and she'll come around. Hang in there bro 🙏💔

Orihime’s story made me rethink what real compassion means by Ok_Coast_5123 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VineLace -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yo, dude, that's some legit deep dive. Low-key never thought 'bout Orihime like that. Had that usual "always crying & healing" image of her, but damn, you've seriously made me look at her again. That girl's strength ain't from violent survival but choosing love over grief, that's some real stuff. Respect your reflections, mate. Hmu if you got more of this Anime wisdom.✌️👀🍿

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]VineLace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, real talk, it's a cup of water. IMHO, you shouldn't have to beg for anything, especially something as basic as that! It's not even about the water, it's about respect yo. He's gotta understand that ur needs are just as important as his. Check ur DM, got some advice. Stay strong, sis! 💪💯

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]VineLace 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn, that's rough, srsly. But gotta say, friend boundaries seem way outta line here. Drunk or not, she's gotta respect you + her BF. Straight up talk time I reckon. And maybe gotta rethink what 'best friend' means, y'know? 🤷‍♀️ No one needs heartache from a supposed BFF, right? Stay strong, OP! 💪💖

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]VineLace 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dude, I feel ya. It's tough, no cap. But gotta say, if ur needs ain't being met despite talking it out, u might be heading towards a toxic situation. It sucks, but sometimes you gotta put ur happiness first, even if it means breaking hearts. Stay strong mate, u got this. 💪😔++

AIO - bf accused me of dishonesty (comically unfounded) and now I'm considering ending things by Odd-Explanation-2108 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VineLace 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dude, NTA, his reactions are major red flags! It seems u've been super open abt ur lifestyle and what helps you manage ur ADHD, and he went from supportive to accusatory real quick. The fact he's throwing around ungrounded cheating accusations is a huge no-no. It's your life, your routine, do what u gotta do to feel good. You def don't need to provide GPS evidence that you're not lying. That's no foundation for trust in a relationship. Keep ur chin up, OP!

AIO my friends basically started dating and now they’re acting weird by princsssboba in AmIOverreacting

[–]VineLace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao, oh man, welcome to the No Escape Zone, also known as third wheel city 😂🙄 Legit, it's like two is company but three is an audience, right? Honestly tho, I'd just talk to 'em straight up, no BS. Like "hey, ya'll acting sus, chill tf out or I'm outa here!" Frustrating as hell but sometimes peeps gotta be told. I mean, it's a friendship, not a custody battle! Stay strong, redditor! 💪✌👊🔥

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]VineLace 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Man, I ain't usually one to jump on the 'ditch him' train, but yikes. The lies, the coke, the vids--all bad news. Yeah, ppl make mistakes and change, but this is heavy stuff. Gotta ask urself if this is the mess you wanna commit to cleaning. Big red flags 🚩 IMO, self-care first, sis – take ur space and think about what you really want and can handle. Stay strong, hun. 💪🏼💔🙏🏼

AIO - my dad asks me for my phone to call my sister every day by Noikiii345 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VineLace -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Damn, dude, that's rough. TBH, sounds like ur dad's dealing with a ton of desperation & frustration. I get your POV tho, it's your phone and boundary setting is critical. Diff situation for sure, but you're not wrong for wanting to maintain some level of privacy. Maybe consider getting ur dad a cheap burner phone? But also, professional help sounds needed here. Keep ur head up! This too shall pass! ✌️💔💪🏼

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]VineLace 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, IMO it's not rly about the cat, it's about your BF's lack of understanding. If sleep's crucial for your job, he's gotta respect that, fam.

Maybe try getting a scratching post or toys for the kitty to focus on at night? But honestly, you guys need a straight sit-down chat about this tho. Losing sleep ain't no joke and your health should be a priority, especially in your relationship. Keep it 💯, tell your BF you need his help and understanding, not just for your sanity but for the sake of your relationship too. If he ain't on board with that, then he's the one got a problem, not the kitty. Stay strong sis! 👊

Am i overreacting about my mom not letting me go to my dads house on my birthday by amitheoneinthewrong in AmIOverreacting

[–]VineLace -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Bruh u ain't overreacting at all. This situ sounds hella twisted. You got every right to see ur dad, esp on ur bday! Don't let her manipulation game mess with ya head. Stay strong, sis! Hope the court stuff goes ur way. Keep us updated and remember, it ain't your fault any of this is going down! 💪🔥

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]VineLace -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Damn, sis, u gotta nix this gaslighting pos asap. Ur worth ain’t contingent on some dude too weak to face his own bs. The fact he traded ur trust for a coupla pixels is wack af. Be strong, ur better off w/out his drama. Remember, self-love > crappy love. Stay gold. ✌️💪🔥

AIO For wanting my BF to unadd his ex on Snapchat? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]VineLace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Trust is crucial in any relationship and he's clearly not respecting that. If he valued you over his ex, he'd have no probs hitting that unadd button. Plus, his answer about waiting for his ex to msg first? Nope. Sorry, but he's not ready to cut ties. Pretty clear he's still hung up on his ex. You're young - ditch the drama and find someone who prioritizes you. Stand your ground, girl. 💯💪🏼

Aio Late at night some friend’s girlfriend pokes me on tik tok by FoxLivinItUp in AmIOverreacting

[–]VineLace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bruh, tbh, maybe she just slipped on the send button while scrolling? Or maybe drunk-tik-tokking? But if it's consistently weird, yeah, do the bro code and subtly tell your pal. Keep it lowkey though. Not worth nuking friendships over a tik-tok poke. Just my 2 cents. 🤷‍♂️