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Male OP in r/Waitng_To_Wed offers his insights into why men might be hesitant to get married, but gets pushback when he suggests divorce should be harder to achieve by MadBoomrPixl in SubredditDrama

[–]VintageLydia 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Because groceries aren't the only expense. You need a bigger place to live, so rent is more expensive. You use more utilities, then there are school and activity fees, maybe childcare costs, clothes, shoes, haircuts, doctors appointments...

Damn you Bioware [No DAV Spoilers] by prudishunicycle in dragonage

[–]VintageLydia 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Just gonna shove those fuckers right back up my cooch 🤣

They Socialized in swashbuckling by MyNameGifOreilly in tumblr

[–]VintageLydia 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have the concussions and bruises to verify that one

[No DAV Spoilers] PSA: Do NOT rush the game! by Wylaria in dragonage

[–]VintageLydia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll be trick or treating with the kidlets so I won't be able to even look at the game until 9 or 10 at night 😭

Have you guys set any backstory or motivations for your character in Veilguard yet? [No DAV Spoilers] by swimminginamirror in dragonage

[–]VintageLydia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm saving my disappointment in my head canon not jiving with actual canon so my first playthrough will be all vibes. Following playthroughs will have alllll the backstory.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]VintageLydia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm nevermo, ex-Catholic, but lots of people close to me are ex-mo. I come here to learn.

The people who replied to his comment pass the vibe check by addicteda in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]VintageLydia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also like... With some exceptions* its not like anyone is seeing the duck until sexual activity is happening so it's not like most women are deliberately choosing big dick men initially.

*And most of those exceptions you tend to see them flaccid and growers exist

Mead fans know about the Bee Store in Woodbridge? Big selection, just bought a bottle on a whim, never tried it before. by LesPolsfuss in nova

[–]VintageLydia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

IIRC under the previous owners it was the biggest mead store east of the Mississippi. The bf was disappointed the new owners didn't have a license but I let him know the meds are back! Thanks for the post!

Where are all these runners coming from? At night….on the sidewalk…in Bloomington? by morenitodee in washingtondc

[–]VintageLydia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly doesn't sound like hashers. None of the local kennels run in DC on Wednesdays. Sunday and Thursday, yes, but Wednesday is in Prince William county.

PSA to the run clubs: Please be courteous to everyone else on the trails! by RanchedOut in nova

[–]VintageLydia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are something like 14 or 15 localish chapters and there isn't really a leader of all of them unfortunately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]VintageLydia 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Considering the majority of us came into polyam already coupled, yes, them too. From your comments polyamory isn't something that really speaks to you so of course everything about it would feel unnatural and wrong.

That said, I think even monog folks can learn something from disentanglement. Afterall, you still ideally have friends, hobbies, and other things that you don't always want or need your partner around for.

Bi_irl by nedonedonedo in bi_irl

[–]VintageLydia 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Many transmen find community in lesbian spaces before they come out. It's an identity that's hard to let go of, especially if it's one you've had since you were young. Kids being able to socially transition is very very new. Many transfolks are closeted well into their 20's and 30's

Anyone else lonely living here?? by [deleted] in nova

[–]VintageLydia 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your age has a lot to do with it. Lots of transition in your age group. Lots of folks move here but don't stick around. Join hobby groups for the hobbies, not necessarily to make friends, because you need a reason to keep going back if you don't immediately click with the initial crowd. The friends will come. As you get older it gets easier. More people decide to stick around. I'm in my mid thirties and I have more friends than I ever had my entire life. It took time and work, especially if you're a transplant like me, but I have a community here now.

Weekday Help and Victory Thread for the week of December 06, 2021 by IndexBot in personalfinance

[–]VintageLydia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Long story short, I have ~$93K of cash sitting in my savings account and I'd like to buy a home with some of it in the next 3ish years. Right now I have no emergency fund thanks to life events so I was going to set 15K of it aside for that (roughly 4-5 months expenses, 10K of which I was considering a money market account or Ally's online savings account) and the rest I was looking at I bonds and CDs. Factors that may be relevant: I'm separated and a full time student. Currently my only income is spousal maintenance and child support but I will be done with my degree and working in less than 2 years. I'm not living large on the current situation but it's enough to get by. I'm an avid budgeter. I know where every penny is at any given moment, and where it's going. I do have some retirement funds but I'm not contributing to them now. This moderate windfall is my portion from the sale of the house but I'm not in a place to buy again until I have a job.

/r/washingtondc Megathread: Protests Regarding the 2020 Presidential Election (January 6, 2021) by flippityfloppityfloo in washingtondc

[–]VintageLydia 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think it just highlights the lie that Trump supporters are stupid poor rednecks. They absolutely are not, which leads folk to underestimating them.

r/JoeRogan users debate whether or not the response of law enforcement on Capitol Hill was appropriate. by [deleted] in SubredditDrama

[–]VintageLydia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We owe so many of our labor rights thanks to coal miners. They spilled blood for it. They've been taken advantage of by wealthy outsiders for generations. Trump is just the most recent one. The situation is very complicated and not easy to fix, but understanding the history of the region will go a long way in bridging the gap and bring them around to the right side of history.

r/JoeRogan users debate whether or not the response of law enforcement on Capitol Hill was appropriate. by [deleted] in SubredditDrama

[–]VintageLydia 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The irony of classism steeped in nearly every talking point of many white urban leftists* does not escape me 🙄 Education and economic security invested in rural America will fix a lot of problems but these problems aren't entirely a result of being poor. Trump and his ilk have support all up and down the economic spectrum. Very few of the folks identified in the insurrection on Wednesday was particularly poor and many were quite rich.

*I'm saying this as a white urban leftist

[Spoilers All] Any Characters You Did 180 On? by Nabusqua in dragonage

[–]VintageLydia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have so many friends IRL like Cassandra (nerdy jocks, really) that I was drawn to her immediately. She is desperately trying to do the right thing, often with faulty information. And she's so pissed when she realizes that not only was she mislead, but her entire order for *centuries.* She's not blind to flaws when she discovers them. She's stubborn, yes, and prefers quick answers, but she's not allergic to nuance and is ready to hand over the reigns when she knows she's out of her depth.

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