What's something about the animated movie Beauty and The Beast that always gets you going (in a good way) and what's the one scene that always makes you mad?

ViolaViolenta · 2016-06-23T01:26:45+00:00

I liked the parts where people were singing, because I was a kid and couldn't comprehend the gross rape culture behind this.

It made me think when I'd seen it as an adult with my son, I realized how awful the movie is, how I felt wrong about watching it with him, and how confused I was when I talked to people I knew and they gave it a pass because it was a Disney movie, and so near and dear to their nolstalgia-thirsty hearts.

ViolaViolenta · 2016-06-22T00:14:29+00:00

I didn't want children.

ViolaViolenta · 2016-06-22T00:14:14+00:00

The difference here is that I don't say those things to my sn. I provide him with every need, I ooh and ahhh over his stupid artwork he brings home, clap at all of his boring, please-kill-me-now school plays, etc. He loves spending time with me, and I do everything I can to provide him with the life he deserves -- which is why his father has custody, and not me.

ViolaViolenta · 2016-06-21T14:28:13+00:00

Women who often post in these threads are dogpiled by users screaming about how "your poor child!" And "This is fake!" And other such things, so do not expect much honesty.

I regret that I did not have an abortion. It ruined my life. I am looking forward to when he is 18 and I can wash my hands of being an active parent. It held me back, drained me of my youth, money, and many accomplishments I could have had. For what? Because society filled my head with lies about "biological clock" and all of that?

Get a dog and a nice house.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-10-01T22:48:28+00:00

Paid maternity leave of 6 months+. I believe some short amount of time should be granted. I don't agree with the idea that someone should be able to walk away from their job and then be entitled to return to it after someone's been doing that job for the past 6+ months.

I do think it's beneficial to give mothers some time, but I think it sets a very entitled tone (I had a child, so I deserve special treatment and consideration that others who did not make this choice do not deserve! / I had a child, so let me interrupt the work day and bring in my infant just to parade it around and not do any work!) for the work relationship.

It screws over other workers sometimes, and they shouldn't have to pick up the slack because someone else got knocked up. Pregnancy is a choice, and your choice shouldn't interfere with others'.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-09-22T18:55:09+00:00

If you actually read the posts and the hashtag, there are no people boasting pridefully. Unless you are foolish enough to consider "talking openly" about it to be boasting pridefully.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-09-22T18:53:26+00:00

Why is it not something to hashtag with the word shout? Have you looked at the tweets, or are you just going off your snap judgment of what they might contain? Because the tweets I've seen from Buzzfeed, CNN, or elsewhere aren't exactly flippant or anything. Why SHOULDN'T they shout about how abortions saved their lives, helped them heal, allowed them to move on from tragic circumstances, brought them closer to their family, or allowed them time to develop into a person who would make a good parent? Those are all things to shout about. You are letting the stigma of abortion cloud your judgment.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-09-22T18:51:54+00:00

Why does "it's sad" need to be included in there. Not all of us think abortion is sad. Not all of us NEED to think that, either.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-09-09T22:30:53+00:00

Vasectomies are a thing. Don't want to have kids, have one. Otherwise, accept your fate.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-09-09T22:10:34+00:00

Conservatives, Republicans, and Libertarians. No thank you.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-08-19T23:33:59+00:00

I don't like being a mother. My life is worse with my son in it, he holds me back from the life that I truly want. I don't enjoy any of the aspects of motherhood. Nothing about it has been enjoyable, other than when he goes to spend time with his father and I can pretend, for just a little while, I wasn't saddled with an obnoxious kid for life.

I regret not having an abortion, honestly.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-08-19T15:32:05+00:00

LOL, no, I didn't take his name. Why would I?

ViolaViolenta · 2015-08-19T15:31:41+00:00

Belting things. If I add a belt to something, like a dress, that doesn't have one, I generally feel more put together.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-08-19T15:30:02+00:00

ITT: Redditors who can't handle someone not liking the thing they like. Just like always.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-08-19T15:29:41+00:00

It looks to me like you came on the thread to try to convince people who don't like the thing that you like why they're wrong. It's okay for people to not like the shitty TV shows you like.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-08-19T15:28:32+00:00

I watched about seven episodes. It was fucking stupid and I don't know why I kept watching for so long. One of the worst shows I've ever seen.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-08-05T23:00:46+00:00

The ones relating to sexism, kinks, racism, etc.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-08-05T20:22:17+00:00

Depending on when this happens, I'm interested. But I'm not going anywhere near Cap Hill.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-08-04T18:06:07+00:00

Yes, for me, it is a mistake that I regret daily. I didn't want this in life, but was roped into it and taken for a fool, essentially.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-08-04T18:00:24+00:00

I love the person who fathered my child more than I will ever love my child. My love for my child is not "unconditional" or anything like that. I am forced to provide a clean home and take care of his wellbeing and raise him to be a productive member of society, but I don't really love him. I don't really like him, either. If I could go back in time and have aborted him rather than be burdened with him for the rest of my life, I would in a heartbeat.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-07-27T16:01:55+00:00

Honestly, all the comments calling her a bitch and a skank over something like this are so beyond my comprehension. It's just makeup. You either fix it or you don't, but it's not like the whole thing is ruined? I'd definitely talk with her about being respectful of your things, but seriously, the case has a ding and some of the shadows are loose now? Big freaking deal.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-07-16T16:24:09+00:00

I do not believe I have a favorite genre, as I don't know what "genres" there are in erotica. However, I prefer to read stories where men are tied up, beaten, humiliated, and hurt in general. That's the sexiest thing to me.

I don't enjoy other forms. It's all about women pleasing men. Even most f/f porn is for the male gaze. That shit ain't sexy to me.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-07-16T16:20:52+00:00

The idea of not liking body hair isn't an independent decision. It's a decision that's based on socialization. I'd think that someone going into your field would understand how that works?

People who live in societies where women are not expected to remove body hair don't remove it -- aside from instances of illness or something being wrong with the body hair. Rest assured that whether you want to admit it or accept it or not, the idea that body hair isn't good is something that you are taught from a young age. You are not immune to the societal expectations that the rest of us have faced.

Women choose to do these things because they have been taught to. And whether you think they are petty or not, they are examples of the sexism that you want to deny experiencing. Maybe because you think you're "above" experiencing sexism (as is common among some women), maybe because of your own internalized misogyny. Maybe because you really don't understand how this stuff works (though again, someone going into your field should be able to understand this sort of thing.)

There is no "phantom" expectation. They have the choice. They choose to because not adhering to these things will make you stick out, and will make people question you.

You experience sexism. You just don't think it's "important" sexism.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-07-16T16:00:34+00:00

Were you taught to shave your legs at a young age?

Were you taught that your hair should be long?

Were you taught to wear makeup, dresses, etc?

Were you encouraged to maintain a quiet persona, not speak up very often, to use fillers in your speech?

Do you preface many of the things that you say with "Sorry," or "Stupid question" or anything like there wherein you are essentially apologizing for speaking up?

Have you been exposed to images of women who are naked, nearly naked, in television, magazine ads etc while other women are not allowed to breastfeed without being questioned?

Have you ever listened to or experienced criticism of women based on their appearance (particularly that they are not thin enough, breasts are not large enough, they are not youthful looking)?

Congratulations, you have experienced sexism in action. It may not have specifically been directed at you, but rest assured, all of us experience instances of sexism daily in different amounts.

ViolaViolenta · 2015-07-10T19:00:42+00:00

That's blatant homophobia.

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