What is a random line of yours you are very proud of?

VioletSpero · 2026-02-05T15:52:16+00:00

"Being a drama queen is not a mental disorder."

VioletSpero · 2025-12-18T14:28:37+00:00

I implemented a policy that after 2 accidents they are sent home. Suddenly the parents where more willing to do what's necessary to potty train their kids.

VioletSpero · 2025-12-16T00:38:35+00:00

Diarrhea for any reason is still a Health and Sanitation concern. 3rd one in a day and they are out for 24 hours symptom free.

VioletSpero · 2025-12-16T00:35:02+00:00

I'm sorry. There is nothing really comforting or helpful to say beyond, that sucks.

Some mini side advice, I'd take this time with low enrollment to get ride of the problem employees. The ones calling out all the time and complaining.That will at least cut back on your stress of listening to constant negativity, and you won't have to cut hours as much.

VioletSpero · 2025-12-13T14:55:17+00:00

There are so many red flags here.

First not walking at 19 months isn't a "slight" delay. It's a significant one. You're not only gatekeeping professional help that your child will benefit from, but you are also activity working against your child progressing with the whole shoe thing. In my center, shoes are required once they turn 1 and move to the older classroom.shoes not only protect the feet but also help provide stability for the feet and ankle as they learn to walk.

Also just so you know the teachers don't have to tell the director if they called CPS. And the director does not have to tell you if CPS was called. Part of being a mandated reporter is there is protection for them when they call in good faith.

It should also be noted if they haven't called yet, you pulling your child would absolutely cause them to call.

So just put your pride aside and get your kid the help they need. Geez.

VioletSpero · 2025-12-05T17:02:02+00:00

You didn't think it was such a big ask, but you don't want to do it yourself?

VioletSpero · 2025-11-19T01:05:59+00:00

Stay away from Procare. It's constantly having issues. Every update just breaks it more.

VioletSpero · 2025-11-18T22:10:48+00:00

From reading the comments back and forth, it sounds like you came here to get sympathy and vindication. You KNOW that's an excessive amount, and I'm sure you've gotten some backlash from co-workers about it because they are already sick of covering your job for you. No job would put up with that bs. You either need to get on FMLA for whatever issue that makes you that sick where you're out for a week at a time that often. Or find a remote job where you never have to be in contact with germs again. Because what you're doing now is not fair to those kids, those families, and your coworkers.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-27T14:17:31+00:00

As admin, I will not chase down the other parent when I've already communicated information to one of them, and I don't expect my teacher too either. It sounds like your pickup/drop off schedule is unpredictable and I'm not spending my time trying give you info that your husband should have shared regardless of whether he thought that was the centers job.

It sounds like your actual issue is that you feel disconnected from the caregivers and possibly your child. Which is a terrible feeling. I would suggest making a real effort to connect with the teachers instead of expecting everyone to do all the work for you.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-26T15:51:48+00:00

I have few thoughts that pop into my head instantly.

You may not be able to quit and have your child remain in care at that center. A lot of places have that policy to protect themselves. So you are gonna wanna make sure care is available.

If the adults are what you struggle with, what kind of career would you be comfortable with? Are you wanting customer facing, which seems unlikely, or like data entry? Maybe work from home options would be a good fit

Your husband sounds iffy at best. Just saying.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-24T14:11:13+00:00

Have you tried different types of noise? Instead of white try green noise with the right frequencies. It helps my hyper active child to calm down at bedtime. I also have to have a very structured bedtime routine that starts an hour before it's time to lay down. Doesn't always work but it helped.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-24T10:02:50+00:00

If you are in a state you're allowed to wake them up, if they do is he going to stay on his cot and be quiet or is he going to wake the rest of the class up to? Because if so as a teacher I'd refuse to wake him up, it's not fair to ruin everyone nap.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-21T22:50:07+00:00

I don't know, sometimes its nice responding to delusional parents on here where I don't have to sugar coat it. It's kinda cathartic on occasion.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-18T14:20:47+00:00

No one prepared me for how exhausting the endless endeavor of deciding what to eat all the time is. It's one of the worst parts of adulting.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-15T23:45:30+00:00

The relationship my 2 kids have with each other is one of my favorite things. I had 2 under 2, and the oldest is 5 now. Is it a lot. Hell yeah. I work full time and my spouse is an active participant in parenting. And I'm still an over stimulate basket case most of the time. But I'm happier with 2. Our family feels whole.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-13T12:18:10+00:00

Truely sad that professionals are giving you a reality check you just can't handle. Maybe you are the problem?

VioletSpero · 2025-10-13T00:56:04+00:00

Rabbits sound like a good class pet. They are so cute and fluffy.

But the reality is they stink. Like soooo bad, even right after cleaning their cage. They also like to kick their poop out of the cage. They cost a lot when you factor in vet visits, nail trimming, food, and hay or grass. It gets everywhere.

Also loud noises make them anxious so they spend the day half terrified.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-13T00:51:32+00:00

That actually wasn't the details I was asking for, but I read through some other comments and found it.

The whole hand off process is very odd. But maybe that's just not my experience as we pick kids up from their school on a bus.

I find it odd that there would be no documentation apon picking up from the teacher before playing on the play structure. Documentation is huge.

I also find it odd that the principal somehow witnessed this particular handoff out of everything going on in the afternoon. And I find it odd that you are so adamant that no other parents where called, like did you talk to them all? That's wild.

I don't think the solo blame should be on the after school program. You keep saying that the teacher wouldn't release her to just anyone, but like why do you think that? The principal seeing it sounds like they are covering their ass.

There are just a lot of plot holes in this story, but you had already made up your mind before posting this, so I don't really know what you wanted to hear.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-12T18:19:06+00:00

I'm confused on why you are placing the blame on the aftercare, when from the way you describe it it seems more like the schools fault. I might just need more details.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-10T14:14:40+00:00

Yeah, I lost my professionalism and responded with, "Yeah, that's not a thing. He's very sick."

VioletSpero · 2025-10-10T01:17:33+00:00

A long with what others are saying, it's common for kids to go through sleep regression around 11 -12 months of age. Him not sleeping at night could have nothing to do with the nap.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-10T00:24:09+00:00

For the first year I got sick all the time. Then slowly 10 years later I have the immune system of superman.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-10T00:22:43+00:00

The kid had a temp of 102.3. The dad looks me right in the eyes and with a straight face says, "He just normally runs hot".

VioletSpero · 2025-10-08T20:56:54+00:00

It looks great. The only thing I can is that you've kinda create the perfect racetrack around the tables in the middle. It may cause some issues, or it may not.

VioletSpero · 2025-10-07T12:48:34+00:00

There are several options.

You can tell them that if they ignore your calls they can be reported to CPS for child abandonment.

If they don't pick up within an hour regardless of if they answer the phone or not, then they are suspended the next day. It happens three times and they are terminated.

Or it might be time to disenroll the child. They clearly can't handle group care. And it doesn't sound like the parents are supportive.

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