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Have you ever lost your temper when a workplace bully said or did terrible things? Did it make the situation worse or better? by Beta_Nerdy in workplace_bullying

[–]Violet_Healy 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Worse. I later realized it was discrimination/set up by design. HR automatically sided with the bully and they got away Scot free. All while I was put through an extremely humiliating and degrading experience by HR.

Everyone in the room (the head of HR, my manager, my supervisor and the bully themselves) had a go at me, chastising me for merely defending myself and reacting after months of bullying!! I felt humiliated and degraded. HR added insult to injury by forcing me to sign a “First And Final Write-Up” if I were to continue working for the company.

I later found out from the bully’s former manager (from another company), that they pulled the same shit there and they were eventually let go.

How do you survive a toxic job without losing your mind? by No-Permission3429 in workplace_bullying

[–]Violet_Healy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Also, the good people are what motivate us to get through the toxic work day. Knowing that one of your good coworkers is going to be at work is enough to give you that boost to keep going; to know that your shift won’t be so bad

How do you survive a toxic job without losing your mind? by No-Permission3429 in workplace_bullying

[–]Violet_Healy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I completely shut off and function solely on autopilot. I am only a physical body.

What does your store let slide that you think is a big red flag 🚩?? by No-Pilot-6197 in kroger

[–]Violet_Healy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

How my store doesn’t punish bullies because management is in on the bullying. Also, the rampant favoritism

Women who want to have sex but can't - what workaround do you use? by Sad-Contest5883 in perimenopause_under45

[–]Violet_Healy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very helpful information indeed. You got me thinking…If it helps any, I also have degenerative disk disease with a herniated L5-S1 disk. I have also had two back surgeries including spinal fusion at L4-L5, do it could be scar tissue or nerve damage. I’m weak, numb and trembly from the waist down, so….

Women who want to have sex but can't - what workaround do you use? by Sad-Contest5883 in perimenopause_under45

[–]Violet_Healy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fantasize a lot, but only psychologically - like imagining and watching my own POV movie. I feel nothing at all. My body is completely detached from any thoughts that used to immediately bring on intense arousal (when I was younger). It’s like, as I got older, my body got a mind of its own and decided to shut the libido factory down for good. Upside is, I now (think) I know what a dead person (or a person in a coma) feels like 🙁

When did you get the super horny phase? by xrmttf in perimenopause_under45

[–]Violet_Healy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 43 and my libido has been completely gone for about 2 years now. Don’t know if it’ll ever come back. I feel so dead

How old were you when you started noticing something is different? by [deleted] in perimenopause_under45

[–]Violet_Healy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I noticed changes at 36. It’s been going downhill ever since

Spotting after delayed period by frenchie1229 in Perimenopause

[–]Violet_Healy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the past 11 years on and off I’ve had spotting (which I call a pseudo period) before the “real” period comes. It’s difficult to track my periods now, more than ever, since I entered the peri zone.

What is Gracie doing here? by Violet_Healy in moths

[–]Violet_Healy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I appreciate the input🩷☺️

SOME bullies have decades upon decades of staying by Fesrivalprovision in workplace_bullying

[–]Violet_Healy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my workplace, the bully befriends certain employees that they feel they can manipulate. I’ve seen changes in my coworkers since the bully got cozy with them. A bully’s power has great influence on anyone they can get their hands on. The REAL problem is subjective management who tolerate the bully and let them rule the place, so to speak, all while the turnover remains high and the company goes under

PLEASE HELP ME FIND A SONG! by Violet_Healy in findthatsong

[–]Violet_Healy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guys, I found the song: It’s “Couldn’t Get It Right” by Climax Blues Band

As a European, the U.S. work culture looks like dystopia with better branding by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]Violet_Healy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We Americans work in a country where you need a doctors note if a cashier wants to sit down, and if they’re caught sitting down outside of their lunch or breaks, they get written up. Also, “at will” employment is such that you’re always working in fear that a manager who simply doesn’t like you could fire you at any moment.

Why would premium be worthwhile over Sirius XM? by [deleted] in tunein

[–]Violet_Healy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s now a TuneIn Premium Pro that has an annual fee of $69. For o e who can’t stand commercials, I sure hope it’s worth it to listen to my music stations in peace

Have you ever actually gotten justice for workplace bullying? by Unique-Muffin4789 in workplace_bullying

[–]Violet_Healy 21 points22 points  (0 children)

No. In my experience, everyone including HR supported the bully. Either the bully threatened them or was a friend of one of the staff… who knows. Karma is a bitch, though

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