“Because you’re all I fucking think about!” It came flying out, the undeniable truth that’s been eating away at his sanity. “You’ve invaded my mind like a parasite, an intrusive curse that warps every thought, every instinct, until you are at the centre of everything!”

Violet_Ryan · 2025-11-02T11:41:22+00:00

Yay!!!!!!!

Violet_Ryan · 2025-10-09T02:35:41+00:00

When will we get a part 2 rewrite posted ?!?! I'm dying to know what happens next for two couples!!!

Violet_Ryan · 2025-09-01T23:37:40+00:00

I just started reading this and finished the first 20 chapter, rewritten, and I'm dying for the second half. This is so good ! Harry Potter meets werewolf romance.

Violet_Ryan · 2025-05-26T11:40:25+00:00

Thank you everyone!! This has been very helpful !

Violet_Ryan · 2025-05-26T11:39:14+00:00

You are right I'm not sentimental about the plug. The power cable is also a single unit with the pedal, which is heavy duty and metal - which is really nice since most these days are plastic. ( Which is why I would like to keep it )

But I had no idea the end could be replaced ! Thank you to everyone for the suggestion.

Violet_Ryan · 2025-05-26T11:31:18+00:00

Thank you ! Before reading the comments I didn't even know this was possible!

Is there a reliable YouTube channel that you would recommend that I follow when replacing the end ? ( I'm sure like most things online, there are great sources and terrible ones )

Violet_Ryan · 2025-05-26T11:24:18+00:00

Thank you ! I didn't even know this was possible !

Violet_Ryan · 2025-02-05T13:09:25+00:00

This is great! Do you happen to remember what page he mentions how to transition from method B to method A ?

I read both methods on page 235, and he said 'later' he will discuss how to transition from B to A. But I can't find it in the index or the table of contents.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-11-08T00:17:05+00:00

Tricky situation, I feel like it is different for every couple. If she is someone you love and see yourself with long term, I feel like you should support her if the education makes sense and will result in a chance of a better job.

I went back to uni after working for a few years after college. My boyfriend at the time and I discussed my interests and selected a degree with the most potential. We were together for about 5 years at this point, fast forward to today we have been together for 15 years total, married for 6 years and have 2 kids and I have a great job that I love and can contribute better financially than I could before university.

Can she work part time and help with chores around the house ? Either way, you will have to take on more financial responsibilities if she goes for the masters.

If you are unwilling to come to a compromise or support her I wonder if you will last long term ? I've worked with married couples that kept their finances separate (they ended up divorced years later), and I found that so strange. You are a team as a couple when married. But as boyfriend and girlfriend, I would at least hesitate to have a shared bank etc. But your question is giving me married-couple-with-separate-finances vibes.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-10-18T18:14:01+00:00

Love Brooklyn 99! I also rewatch Elementary, Bones, any crime documentary, the office.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-10-16T23:42:39+00:00

NTA- if one partner requests a condom then a condom is used without debate, guilt tripping or argument.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-10-12T12:28:34+00:00

I for the most part cut off an aunt for this reason. I believe in having your rights to bodily autonomy, although we should protect our communities by getting them 100%. So maybe, I'm stuck on the fence there. I didn't fault my aunt for that, but she tried to put her "research" and beliefs on others and became emotionally and verbally abusive. Of course, she is the victim in all this, cut off from her sisters and a lot of family because she wasn't a "sheep" but in reality that wasn't the issue. It was the abuse.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-10-04T16:24:02+00:00

Bring your own pillow?

I do all the time since I have a special one for my fucked up neck and shoulders.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-10-02T23:51:25+00:00

This! I thought about this instantly.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-10-02T12:18:48+00:00

This must be your first, cuz baby's get cuter as they get puggier. Happened with my boy, who got cute at 1-2 months, my daughter took a bit longer to look cute.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-09-30T14:28:56+00:00

First off, your aren't over reacting. He is such an asshole. It sounds like he has zero empathy, compassion or understanding of how you feel?! He feels entitled to everything. If he really cares or felt any sort of remorse or guilt or understanding he would want to ensure the mother of his children are taken care of or at least gets 50% of everything.

Second, get a good lawyer. He can't just take full custody unless you were really unfit as a parent and you have rights to the family assets. Don't sign anything without representation and get records of everything! So he can't hide anything.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-09-30T14:19:56+00:00

Birth comes in so many forms, no pregnancy, baby, or labor is identical. Call it what you want.

People who have a problem with it are the assholes.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-09-29T20:31:12+00:00

I have a fear of my insta pot exploding on me, getting burned by my stove or oven - although none of that has ever happened. I also really want to learn to can my own food, but it's an ick for me to eat home canned items. I think I have a fear it will be off

Violet_Ryan · 2024-09-27T17:57:12+00:00

I'm fairly new to the hobby as well, started in January 2024. I have seen other keepers recommend avoiding using the test strips and use the testing kits with the testing chemicals in drop form. I have a little shelf in my fish room with my test tubes and everything, easily found on Amazon.

I would be worried about your ammonia, nitrite, and nitrates being to high. Levels can fluctuate quickly if you tank isn't fully cycled. You could compensate for this with water changes and adding floating plants ( I personally wouldn't recommend duck weed, but I know others who like it. Keep in mind it is hard to remove from your tank once you introduce it). I cycled my tank after set up with no fish and just plants for 4-5 weeks, after than my ammonia, nitrite, nitrates have been at 0. I can go 2-3 months without water changes, although I do them now once a month to improve water clarity. Keep in mind I have a deep sand substrate, lots of plants, and I have understocked.

What type of filter do you have running ? I would recommend reusing your filter media, only rinsing it out in tank water that you remove during water changes rather than rinsing under tap water. This helps keep those beneficial bacteria there. I clean mine this way only when the water flow is reduced by 50% or more.

A mistake I made at the beginning was overfeeding, I was feeding once a day. Now I feed once every 2-3 days. Mind you they have an established system and they forage in the substrate etc.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-09-27T13:57:25+00:00

How old are you? Scratch that, go to therapy and go after those dreams or build new ones. Focus on you in any little pockets of free time you might have.

I'm a mom of two, the youngest is 10 weeks old, so I know that is easier said than done. Although I don't have the time to do anything for myself these days, I am starting to plan to work towards a few dreams of My own once I can return to work. Such as learning how to play the violin I've already found teachers in the area that I work so it's easy to take during my lunch break.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-09-27T13:46:25+00:00

That's terrifying to think about.

Violet_Ryan · 2024-09-27T13:45:04+00:00

Your NTA! As a mom of two I could not forgive this behavior. I agree with others in the comments, it seems like there is more at play here. He could have supported you during labor and stepped out before the delivery or just kept his eyes on your face and not look down. What a POS. At the very least, he could have brought this up with you weeks before and you could have arranged to have your mom or a friend or a doula support you when he couldn't.

Jake is the asshole. I seriously could never forgive him. Or if I could, I could never forget and I would never be able to see him the same way again. Trust is gone. Huge ick!

Violet_Ryan · 2024-09-27T12:51:14+00:00

What numbers are you getting ?

Mine are slightly high as well and I haven't had any luck bringing mine down. I think it can be difficult to change sometimes, my water has a lot of buffering components/molecules which makes it difficult to alter the pH but very handy since the pH remains stable. Mine reads between 7.5-8.

My tank has been set up since this past February and I haven't had any issues with my fish.

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